Post # 1
I was shocked when my mother told me how much their wedding was. I wonder when the wedding industry complex took over because it wasn’t there in 1970 when my mother was married. Her dress was beautiful! All lace, A-line, and made by my grandmother. She wore this hat with blue lace trim. They got married at her church (for free. I think she said they made a $50 donation) and the reception was in the churches reception hall where all the family brought dishes. The cake was made by an aunt and music was played on a stereo. She said all together they probably spent $500.
What’s important to me is that they look so in love and happy in their photos and they don’t have 10 feet tall centerpieces or 5 star catering.
I’m wondering when weddings took off and became big productions instead of small family gatherings.
Post # 3
i dont know how much my parents spent, but when i told my mom my wedding would be around $10 000, thinking that was GOOD and REASONABLE, she was shocked i was spending so much! i had to explain how much everything is nowadays for the average wedding and how i am really saving so much by doing a destination wedding.
Post # 4
I have no idea what my mom’s weddings cost, but I doubt either was very much. The first was in our church in her pink Sunday-best dress with almost no guests, and the second was held in a friend’s living room in a dress she borrowed from someone, again, with almost no guests. My mom is cheap as all hell, though, so that probably had more to do with it than the cost of weddings at the times she got married. Lol! 🙂
Post # 5
My mom said they spent $20 for the marriage license. Her sister bought them flowers. She wore a skirt and peasant top with a flower crown. They had a reception at my grandparents house.
Post # 6
@dynamic_duo: I’m the same way! I told my mom we were only spending $10k and she was like WHAT!? Why would you spend that much!? Go to Vegas! ha ha ha ha!
I kept telling her how the “wedding venues” were like $20k min and she was like that’s crazy for a party with family.
Post # 7
I think mom spent about $30K in 96 when she married my (step) Dad! I remember it being huge and a lot of fun! =)
Post # 8
Not sure about my own parents’ wedding (I’ve never asked), but my in-laws said they spent about $600 on their entire wedding back in 1974!
Post # 9
My mom never had a formal wedding. Fi’s parents spent 5k in 1985. It is a shock to me that people can still spend that in 2010-11!! And FI’s dad was like I dont know why your guys can’t have a 5k wedding now, have prices gone up that much? OMG Negro, please.
Post # 10
@Aubergold: lol people say the same thing to me! They are like “WHAT!? You aren’t spending $40k!?” I’m like hell no! I’m making this work for $10k. It helps to have an artist as a FH because we are trading services left and right!
Post # 11
My parents got married in 1975. Im not sure exactly how much, but I know they spent less than $1k. My mom’s dress was $100. I mean, taking into account inflation… I guess we spent about twice as much as my parents did. ($10k)
Dh’s parents had a hippie wedding. He wore a dashiki and she had a white sundress and they got married by a friend in a little country church. I think Father-In-Law said they spent like $100 total. My parents had a traditional wedding in a church.
Post # 12
My parents’ wedding was in 1973 and my mom estimated it to cost around $1000. It was paid for 100% by my mom’s parents. I think the funniest part was that their food was around $3 a plate for a roast beef dinner (which she said was cheap for 1973).
Post # 13
My parents got married at the JoP, my dad was wearing a dirty, bright orange “Ski Oklahoma” tshirt (yeah…), and they had to convince a judge to take a personal check 10 minutes before closing because they hadn’t looked up how to pay.Not a lot of planning on their part (a 3-month courtship will cause that).
(they’re divorced now 😉 )
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo: You saw the pics of my wedding I posted, you can totally make it work for $10k. I had mixed reactions. People were either “Holy crap! Thats so much money!” or “You’ll never manage it on that much”. More often, it was the 2nd one.
Post # 15
My reception for 65 was $3500. in 1982, and my dress was custom made for $500.
My sister got married in 1974 and had over 200 guests and her wedding was $3500.
My youngest sister had 125 people at her wedding in 1980 and it cost $3500.
My Mom said it was weird how they all cost approximately the same, but the guest lists became smaller.
Post # 16
My parents were married in 1983, and prices were different, but not shockingly different. The other day I went looking at venues and my parents came along to offer their opinions. My father was shocked at the price I would be paying per plate. My mom had to say…. remember honey… we payed at least half of that and it was 28 years ago. Haha . Men. My mother payed 600 for her beautiful gown and I think their reception was about 2,500…. not sure what all of the little details would have cost.