(Closed) Do you know of a situation like this?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

A family member of mine is part on a polyamourous trio. I have noticed that younger members of the family have been accepting of itand treat it as they would any other relationship, whereas the older family members who are aware of it have been tolerant but judgmental.

Personally, I think that as long as people are in happy and healthy relationships, then non-traditional dynamics are a non-issue.

Post # 18
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6448 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t no anyone in person, but if they are happy about it nothing wrong with it.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

socalgirl1689 :  I know a guy who is in a relationship with a girl who is poly, who has a girlfriend as well. I’m not sure if he is involved with her girlfriend as well, but his girlfriend has a boyfriend and a girlfriend. She’s very out there – is a stripper and does very risque modeling (no judgment here, just giving some background info). 

I think it’s pretty interesting that he’s in a relationship with this girl, only because he and I “talked” for awhile in college, and he was super judgy toward me because I’d had sex with more than one person (like him at that point when he was 26 – he was pretty inexperienced with women). He actually told me he decided he couldn’t talk to me anymore because I’d been with more people than him. My 2 partners to his 1..basically said he was looking for a virgin. But now he’s in a polyamouros relationship with two strippers/bondage lingerie models. I guess people are free to change their preferences, though. I just hope he isn’t judgy anymore like he used to be, for his girlfriend’s sake (and her girlfriend).

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

socalgirl1689 :  It was supposed to be helpful because I was assuming that you actually cared about being respectful towards other people. Your response made it clear that that’s not the case. Still, I think it’s worth noting for other readers that there are people (not you) who think it’s worthwhile to respect other people’s relationships.

To get a sense of why your post sounded off, imagine if you had been describing an interracial couple instead:

“My SO’s work holds an annual summer BBQ event at the end of July. It was yesterday. He has one co-worker (let’s call him Joey) that sat at our table and we were chatting with him. An hour later or so, a black girl (let’s call her Kristin) arrived and sat next to him and gives him a kiss on the lips and tells him “Sorry I’m late. I need to use the bathroom quickly.” Then, Joey proceeded to talk to us like nothing happened. A short while later, Kristin walked back to the table and sat next to Joey just chatting away with us and everyone else. They interacted very close to each other but nothing like inappropriate in public standards.”

The emphasis on how he acted “like nothing happened” and was “just chatting away” suggests that there’s something wrong and off about the relationship, like he *should have been* acting weird or ashamed or something. But of course he was behaving normally, because this is his everyday life. And the fact that they’re a trio in no way implies that they would behave inappropriately in public, as your post seems to suggest.

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I am closing this thread now. 

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