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Warning: This topic is pretty sensitive and I don’t even know if I’m allowed to start a thread about this at a wedding website (given that we basically talk about everything here under the sun). If I’m not, I understand if this thread will be closed. Please reply only if you feel comfortable. Please don’t participate if you are uncomfortable.
So I watch a lot of true to life crime shows from the ID Channel, First 48 Hours, Dateline, 48 Hour Mystery, you name it. And it seems like there’s so much homicide related crimes out there. I only know of one and it was such a long time ago. I was 8 or 9 years old when we received a phone call from the police looking for my grandpa. They informed us my grandpa’s cousin’s house was on fire and partially burned. They were very close and he had my grandpa listed as his next of kin. He was divorced, lived alone and was pretty well off. He owned his own business. Apparently, what happened was he was a victim of burglary gone bad. The police believed he walked into his house while a burglary was in progress since the House was ransacked and valuables were missing. He went home unexpectedly for lunch from work one day which he normally doesn’t. Investigators thought it might have been by someone he knew or an employee who was familiar with his everyday schedule. Because normally, he was gone from morning and doesn’t come home until late at night when the business closes up. Up to now, it remains unsolved.
Basically, I just wanna know about your experiences and how common such a crime actually is in real life.
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Yes, she was a friend of my Mother-In-Law and she was very nice.My Mother-In-Law would always go on about how much she had, how rich she was, etc. Apparently she and her husband never argued – until he threw her strangled, naked body out the window of their ultra expensive home in NYC.
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yes. A girl in my sorority (my cohort in the sorority–so we knew each other well enough and saw each other frequently, but it’d be a lie to say we were BFFs or anything, just friends) was murdered by her ex-boyfriend and his friend. They were on a small murder spree that included his father and a random guy who was trying to sell a truck on craigslist.
They were convicted of life without a chance of parole in December 2017, though she was killed in 2012 it took quite a while to figure out what had happened–she herself had some mental health issues and was crashing with exes at the time, and he disposed of her body in an animal incinerator so there were no remains. For a long time they had presumed she ran away, but one of her exes, who she had been staying with at the time, was certain something was up and is the one who really pushed the police. Im actually surprised they convicted–all the evidence was circumstantial–but I’m glad they did.
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Unfortunately yes. A friend of mine from high school was raped and murdered in her apartment when she was 21. It was horrible. Apparently it was a man who lived in her building. Afterwards he fled to Mexico and only got extradited and convicted a couple years ago (it’s been over 10 years since her death). I think he’s in prison for life without parole now.
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Yes, my cousin was murdered by her husband a few months ago. When I was in JR high a neighbor was murdered by her common law husband, there was also a serial killer loose in our town that year (5 murders). We have a very low homicide rate here and even though my family has been affected, I don’t think it is common.
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I didn’t know them personally, but they were the parents of a guy I was aquainted with in high school. Both of his parents were murdered in a home invasion.
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I also know a woman who was kidnapped and held in a ‘pit’ under a shed for several years, with the music blaring 24/7 to cover her cries for help. She was/is friends with my dad (she was taken in her teens, if I remember right) and while her parents tried to pay the ransome several times her captors spooked every time.
Eventually they dumped her on the side of the road. She is a pharmacist now, still in the small town my dad/she is from. This was quite a while ago so no link, and its not a homicide, buts its definitely something I consider terribly chilling to know it happened to someone I know.
I actually can’t remember details beyond that, though I’m sure my dad does–if they ever caught her captors, if she was sexually abused during her captivity, etc.. Unfortunately pretty much everything I know is what I wrote above.
ETA: I actually did some googling and found an article on her. Because it lists her full name and also the small town my father is from I won’t link it, but to clarify some details: she was held held for about a year and a half, she was taken in 1992 (which means she was older than I thought–late 30s). Eventually they figured out that at least one of the culprits was her neighbor, a police officer and soccer coach. He named 2 others, the article doesnt mention if they ever figured out the identities of the remaining men. Altogether this was carried out by 7 men.. including one who actually had organized public demonstrations etc.. for her release. She was freed by one man, not the group (and not the man who was the one who organized rallies in her name.)
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amanda1988 : I have followed this story and I am so sorry for your loss. She seemed like a good person and in a lot of ways reminds me of girls I knew in high school and our early twenties. Currently following the trial of the father’s murder and hoping they find him guilty for that too.
Post # 11
It’s very sad to see how many people know someone who was taken from life too early… even worse how they seem to be mostly women. Violence against women is a very real thing and it’s truly scary!
I did know someone who was killed- an older lady I worked with was robbed and stabbed to death a few days before Christmas a few years ago. They never did find out who did it since it was a crime of opportunity. It was very, very sad as she was pretty beloved at our company.
Post # 12
My mom’s cousin. Her husband had his throat slit while answering the door…it was someone they both knew and he’d had an argument with..
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daisy123 : I hope so too, though now that they have life without parole its more about letting the families get some closure rather than actually punishing them, I suppose.
She was a good person. She could be exasperating to have as a friend: she put herself in a lot of dangerous situations, but the reason it was exasperating was because you could tell she was just, well, a bit unstable.. so you wanted to help her, but she wasn’t someone you really could help much because she didn’t really want it. She didn’t see the issue, for the most part.
That said, I was sad and surprised to hear what was going on in her life leading up to her murder. It’s not so much it was out of character.. it wasn’t.. but the last I saw her was 2010, so a couple years before she dissapeared (I moved out of Toronto December 2010), and I was so happy for her–she really was getting her shit together, you know? I really thought she was going to be fine.
Either way, she most definitely didn’t deserve what they did to her. She deserved love and compassion and help. She was funny and spunky and generous, and when she had her shit together you could see the world was hers for the taking.
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A guy from my highschool who was a couple years older was murdered and thrown in the river and found a few months later. He was involved in low-level drug trafficking, but the murder has not been solved. My step-father was his probation officer when he was a minor and in trouble with the law.
Another guy from school, also older, was out partying at a strip club and got in to a minor altercation which was taken outside. He was then beaten up so bad he ended up dying. The murderer put him in his truck and kept him there for two days then dumped him in a rural forested area an hour or so away. He was caught and found guilty around 10 years after it happened.
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An old coworker of mine was murdered. She was the sweetest woman but to be honest, I’m not surprised that things turned out the way they did for her. She was always interested in finding a way to put forth the least amount of effort to get the most money in return. After she quit her job, she apparently started hanging out with some questionable people, dated a drug dealer for a long time. After they broke up, she started seeing someone else and her ex stood outside of her bedroom window and shot them both up one night. New boyfriend lived but she died. The suspect still has never been found. She left behind a son and daughter but thankfully they have the same biological father and are still being raised together. Sad stuff.