- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
About 14 months ago, someone who is a big part of my life was diagnosed with ASPD. At first, I was completely confused, as they are a social butterfly. When I went to research the condition, I quickly learned that it is much different than the name led me to believe. Common traits are (according to the Mayo):
- Disregard for right and wrong
- Persistent lying or deceit
- Using charm or wit to manipulate others
- Recurring difficulties with the law
- Repeatedly violating the rights of others
- Child abuse or neglect
- Intimidation of others
- Aggressive or violent behavior (in the past. >10 years ago, not since)
- Lack of remorse about harming others
- Impulsive behavior
- Poor or abusive relationships
- Irresponsible work behavior
I bolded the characteristics that they exhibit, and completely agree with the diagnosis, as does the person battling the disorder.
Thankfully, this person realized that they were having issues on their own and pursued therapy with a reputable pshychiatrist, prior to telling me or anyone that they had concerns. They have been through a significant amount of therapy to discuss cognitive behavior and all of the ways that aspd affects their life. They will likely attend therapy throughout their lifetime. Additionally, they regularly take medication to help have emotional feelings.
I feel very thankful that this person realized they have a problem and that they were brave to seek help. (many with aspd refuse to acknowledge a problem) Also, my loved one does not have all of the traits of the disorder. They do not have problems with drinking and drugs, do not have issues with law enforcement and do not have issues with physical aggression. (The latter they did in the late teen years.)
At this time, I am the only person who knows about the person’s struggles. (in addition to their therapist, of course) I have been there from day one to support the person on rough days, as they learned the pain of feeling emotion, and learned the feeling of remorse for actions of the past.
I have looked for support groups for individuals who have loved ones with aspd, but have been unable to find any. I just want to know how I can be most effectively support the individual. Do any bees have experience with this?