(Closed) Do you know this girl?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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5427 posts
Bee Keeper

I want to be like her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tongue Out

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@BridieBea:  I was bothered by your comment about “the type of girl who joins weddingbee without actually being engaged/married.” That sounded like a pretty direct assumption about those who are here without an offical attachment. There are a lot of us who join the bee without being engaged/married: the Waiting Bees, for whom there is a special board in the Not Wedding Related section. Waiting bees are those who are in committed relationships that are, by all appearances, heading toward marriage, but for whatever reason the engagement hasn’t happened yet. This is also generally a very nice, supportive community to come to, and an entertaining one to participate in– not just about weddings!

That aside, I know the kind of annoying, sappy, obnoxious person you mean, and how revoltingly irritating obnoxious relatives can be. Sometimes people who are constantly positive can be remarkably aggravating– to me it always feels like they are being sooo fake that I can’t stand it!

Can you try to limit how much you see this girl?

ETA: in addition to waiting bees on this forum, there are also women who were engaged or married or in a serious relationship, but have broken up with their significant other and have stayed here because it is a supportive community which they like, and in some cases, which is helping them survive the emotional turmoil of the breakup. It would be great if you could be more aware of any assumptions about others here; we are a diverse group in many different situations. Thanks!

 

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You didn’t want her in the wedding and decided to ask her based on pity..now you need to learn to deal with her personality and all the “quirks”. Just because she is in your wedding party doesn’t mean she is going to change to fit your liking..hell she may even be completely intolerable but you signed up for it! Sometimes people have wild or outrageous personalities but thats who they are! 

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

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@Creiddylad:  Thank you very much for coming to so many bees’ defense!

Post # 51
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Worker bee

I honestly think if you put in your best effort to get to know and like her she will reciprocate and you might end up with a great friend. My best friend is a Barbie and I’m a forward thinking workaholic- we can’t stop taking the piss out of each other but we love each other to death. – give it a go-either way you’ll end up happier for it!

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

She sounds like to reason why all my best friends have been males. Girls can be sooo annoying sometimes and I’m no exception!!

Post # 53
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Worker bee

Also- I don’t mean to sound unkind but yeah I’m a waiting be- and I know you didn’t mean to but I took a little offence to the comment about being on here when you’re not engaged/ married etc. I’m neither engaged or married and i would like to consider myself not to be in the woman child category or annoying or a girl who would make you vomit etc- no big deal. Just though I’d let you know cause you might have some waiting bees who found your post interesting and wanted to comment that might take offence.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@happyface:  You’re welcome!

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d be annoyed too! Tantrums at 36? Yeah that’s a no go.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I feel like I am more towards OP personality wise but I also find that SIL entertaining. But then, she’s not my SIL or my bridesmaid so what do I know…

Honestly, there are a lot of different kinds of people on earth and you still become friends with them.

If I were a teenager still, maybe I would be like “I can’t stand her” towards that SIL, but I’ve grown up now too that I see different sides of a person and accept them for who they are. And if I really didn’t like someone, I would keep distance from them. I def wouldn’t make her my bm.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I dunno, she sounds kinda fun. xD

I am a pinterest-crazed, pastel-and-grey nail polish-wearing, braids-in-my-hair, ‘adore’-saying, taylor-swift-concert-going, over-accessorizing, shabby-chic-crafting, cookie-baking, multiple-cups-of-tea-and-coffe-a-day-drinking, woman-child.

I’m only 21, but in ten years I’d hate to have someone tell me that I need to grow up. :/ I mean… I know I’m only 21, but 30s still seem YOUNG to me. If I can get away with being the same person in ten years that I am now, I’m totally gonna go for it!

That being said, I am not prone to these temper-tantrums that you speak of, or the drama fits, nor do I feel the need to be the constant center of attention.

Post # 58
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Helper bee

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@Creiddylad:  Very well-said. I’m a newly single bee and this community has been very supportive towards me and encouraged me to stay. I’d also extend a warm welcome to all the waiting/single/engaged/married bees. Thank you for coming to our defence.

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Nona99:  +1

She kind of sounds like me… but my word is awesome. Everything is awesome.

Unfortunately, it just seems like you two don’t click. Or maybe you’ve just got some barriers you have to overcome before you can click with her when her clicker might be completely ready. I’m sure there are some things that bother her about you. I’ve got peeves with all my friends just like I’m sure they do with me.

Try to find some common ground by opening your mind to things she enjoys. You might find that its something you’d really like. And when all else fails, just don’t spend a lot of time around her. Sometimes I’m around certain people too much and I just can’t handle it anymore. The only person I can be around for super long periods of time is DH. Even close family can push your buttons sometimes.

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Creiddylad:  That statement made me cringe! I was hoping to touch on it but you beat me to it by a few hours. Thank you.

And I see OP since apologized, I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it.

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