Post # 1

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Bumble Beekeeper
Do you know your neighbors? I used to live in a major metro area in the Midwest, and all my neighbors were so friendly. So many people just introduced themselves at random times when I was outside, and I approached people when they had moved in too. I even knew people in the next block.
Now we are living in a different part of the country, and we only know the people across the street. They are super nice, but it would be neat to know some of the others. I notice that the houses are farther apart from each other here, so perhaps that is why. I could approach people too, but I hardly ever see people outdoors. Is personal distance from your neighbors more common than I realize?
Post # 2

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Sugar bee
God, no. We live in NYC. I smile at some of them when we pass each other in the hall (not the crotchety old man who lives next door or the people a floor down with the dog that barks 24/7, though), but that’s the extent of it. You could probably live in an apartment next door to someone for 20 years and never know their name.
Post # 3

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Bee Keeper
We just moved into our house, so we don’t know a ton of people yet, but we have met and talked to the people next to and across from us several times and we are friendly when we see each other outside. DH is super friendly and will talk to anyone he sees and become their best friend lol. I most just say hi and exchange small talk.
When I lived in an apartment building, I didn’t know any of my neighbors, aside from a nod in the hallway.
Post # 4

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Bee Keeper
We only have one neighbor directly beside us on one side, and yes, we know them (I have posted about him on here before). We also know a couple of other people on our street. I’ll talk to anyone but DH hates meeting new people so I have to hangout with them by myself lol.
Post # 5

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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I live in a walk up apartment in NYC. I know 2 neighbors and I have lived there for almost 2 years. There’s 5-6 I say hi to when we run into each other coming in/out of the building. The same happened in the previous 2 apartments I’ve lived in the city.
Post # 6

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Bumble bee
When I lived alone, I barely knew my neighbors and I am kind of shy so I would just say hi or nod in the hallway. DH, on the other hand, is super friendly and as a result, we know a lot of our neighbors and, in fact, he invited the family across the street over to our house this afternoon! Not sure how I feel about it…. It would be nice to be friendly with them but at the same time kinda creeps me out to to have them so close. Most of the time I come home from a long day, or am rushing out, and am not in the mood to chat.
Post # 7

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Bumble Beekeeper
We know almost all of our neighbors. During snow storms we all go out and shovel the walks and get drunk! 2 months ago we had a block party that was pretty fun. I like all of the neighbors exceot one nasty man at the end of the street- everyone hates him! Our next door neighbors are the best! They bring over homemade baked goods.
Post # 8

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Blushing bee
I wish I didn’t….we have one house near us and used to love the old neighbors. The new neighbors have 12 kids (so far) and have the “it takes a village” attitude. They think the world needs to do what ever they can to help them out but um, we don’t think that way. They are currently suing us because they do not like where we have our trash can and would not move it when they requested us to…..I so wish I did not know my neighbors….
Post # 9

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Worker bee
Allaboutthedogs : what?! Where is the garbage can that they are so upset about it?
Post # 10

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Busy bee
We have seen the neighbors briefly passing in the hall, but that’s it aside from brief small talk when we have fire drills. I tried to talk to our next door neighbor (apt complex) just to say hello, and he rolled his eyes at me, so I haven’t attempted contact with anyone else lol. We live in the South so his behavior is definitely out of the norm. I’m not a very talkative person, but he was on the elevator next to me so I didn’t want to just stand there (should’ve just stood there! 😂)
They have apartment parties in the main office every month or so, but I don’t have a desire to go.
Post # 11

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Allaboutthedogs : 0.0
please tell me the case was thrown out immediately…
Post # 12

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Busy bee
We know our neighbors on either side and across the street. We don’t know anyone else besides them, but wave or say hi in passing on walks or driving by other homes. Mostly people just keep to themselves
Post # 13

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Sugar bee
We know 2 of our neighbours across the street. They were both incredibly welcoming when we first moved in and we even have drinks and stuff at each other’s houses. We know the neighbours either side of us; one lot we ignore (they’re an older couple who are complete busybodies and stick their noses into everyone’s business) and we smile or say hi to the other lot (the guy’s mother actually used to own our house, so it’s a little awkward that we’re doing massive renovations and landscaping). Some new neighbours have recently moved in across the road and up the hill a bit, we’ve met them and they seemed nice but we never see them anymore (they’ve recently had a baby so that might change in the future).
Post # 14

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Busy Beekeeper
craigslistgirl : We live in the sticks, which may make a difference, but we really only know our immediate neighbors. They all seem like nice people, but we don’t seek them out or anything. I wouldn’t mind getting to know some of them a little bit better, but we’re doing fine as-is, too. I didn’t like having share a fence neighbors as we used to – that always made me feel like I couldn’t do anything without being noticed, even in my own yard. If they were outside and I didn’t want to chat with them, I stayed in. I could sunbathe naked here and no one would know.
Post # 15

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Sugar bee
No. I wave hello to the guy next door because he parks in front of our house (whhyy?!?!?!), and I sometimes get caught in conversation with the couple on the other side, their excessive friendliness made me pretty certain they were serial killers but they haven’t killed us yet, knock on wood. I hate obligatory small talk so I feel like becoming any chummier with my neighbors would be a nightmare. They probably think I’m antisocial.