(Closed) Do you let family stay overnight in your house when you arent there?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you let family stay overnight in your house when you arent there?
    Only MY family is allowed when we aren't home. : (6 votes)
    11 %
    Only HIS family is allowed when we aren't home. : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Everyone is welcome at our home even if we aren't there! : (23 votes)
    43 %
    No one is welcome in our home if we arent there. : (19 votes)
    35 %
    Other... : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We have a dog who does much better at home then at someone else’s house, so we welcome the opportunity for someone else to stay at our house while we are away.  It’s all about trust.  Do you trust them?  Then why not?  I’ve heard of people not liking others sleep in your bed, so if that’s the issue then I guess it isn’t unreasonable just a personal preference.  But, if it is in your house in general, then I don’t really see what the big deal is.



    Post # 4
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I personally dont see anything wrong with it as long as you trust whoever is staying there. I’d wouldnt just let anybody those.. only family. And I’d leave a note on the counter “things to remember”: LOCK DOOR WHEN YOU LEAVE!

    Post # 6
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My family is VERY nosey so I would worry about them poking around in my things. I am the 5th child of 7 and it wasn’t until I was out on my own that I had my own room and didn’t have to worry about sharing space/clothes/etc. with other people….as a result..I am territorial about my personal space…LOL.

    They are welome to visit when I am at home though.

    Post # 7
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It depends on the person. My mom, sure. My sister? NO WAY. If your husband thinks it’s okay, then you probably should go with it (it’s his sister, right?). If you’re afraid of them going through your things, etc. I’d do a thorough check through before and after they leave. 😉

    Post # 8
    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I get that you should trust the person but I think it has to be equal on all sides.  It can’t just be one side and not the other.

    I don’t think this has even been an issue with us as we have always been there from what I can remember, although they have been left alone during the day.  I don’t think Darling Husband would allow his brother there by himself but I could be wrong.

    Post # 9
    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Depends on which family member–anyone in my family, sure!  Almost everyone is my husbands family, yes…the only exception would be my Father-In-Law because I don’t think he would really respect our space and our property and I don’t trust that he wouldn’t decide to fix something up and break it instead.  We let him borrow my husband’s car and it came back to us with a broken trailer hitch and a broken windshield.  How does that happen?!

    Post # 10
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It depends on the person.  All of our immediate family (parents and siblings) would be more than welcome to stay in our home no matter what the circumstances.  But with extended family it would depend.  Any of my cousins would be fine.. but some of hubs’ cousins I probably wouldn’t even want staying with me if I WAS home.  Since it’s your husband’s sister and he trusts her I really think you should let them stay.  I’ll be honest with you if I was going to be visiting the city where my brother lived and their house was empty and available I would be REALLY annoyed if they made me go pay for a hotel.

    Post # 11
    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I said only my family, because my dog is huge, and DH’s family does not know who to handle him … 

    Post # 12
    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    It would make sense to have a family member stay in your house if they were housesitting or pet sitting, but just for the hell of it? Sorry, that’s weird.

    Post # 14
    457 posts
    Helper bee

    We have pets, so I welcome when my friends can stay over, and I wouldn’t mind if my friend and family stayed at the house when I wasn’t there. His family is a whole different story. I would be fine with his father, but not his mom and his sister. I don’t trust them, and frankly don’t feel like they are welcome in my home, and none the less to stay over when I am not there.

    Post # 15
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    It would make me uncomfortable. Anyone can stay over if one of us is here, but if neither of us were home..I wouldn’t go for it.  I’ve actually had my cousins steal from my house and his friends break stuff so, it’s sad to say I don’t have alot of trust for people. I would let my mom, or a couple of his close friends we both trust, but thats about it.

    Post # 16
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I let just about anyone stay in my house. My dog is getting old and doesn’t like to be bothered with going to anyone else’s house. But I do hide certain things that I don’t want people to see..just so it doesn’t embarrass me later on in life!! If they see it after I hide it..thats their issue!

    Has SIL has done anything to warrant you not to trust her? If not, then I say no biggie. Just make sure that change the sheets before you leave and after you come back.

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