(Closed) Do you let guests choose the food or do bride and groom choose the food?

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m used to the bride and groom choosing the items on the menu

Post # 4
2503 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you can afford it, it’s nice to let the guests choose. Some caterers charge extra when there’s 2+ choices and the difference can be significant if you have a lot of guests. If budget is an issue, you can do either a duo (e.g. both steak + fish on the plate) or just have one option. IMO, people who like to complain will complain anyway, regardless of whether you have two choices or ten. If you choose not to offer 2+ choices, do remember to consider your vegetarian guests (if any).

Post # 5
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@isabelle_86:  The bride and groom selects the menu for the guests but if you’re doing a plated dinner the guests might also have the option of selecting their main dish from 2 or more choices selected by the bride and groom.

Post # 6
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We chose the menu they’ll get final say on what they want

Post # 7
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

My husband and I were vegetarians but were given 3 entree options by our caterers. We chose a beef, chicken and fish option.

Honestly? Chicken is a safe bet if you can only have one option. Pescetarians, as far as I know, are fewer in number than vegetarians (and beef may be something folks avoid for health reasons).

The only reason I picked a fish option for my wedding was because it occurred during Lent, and I didn’t want to risk any Catholics, Lutherans, etc. attending our wedding and being unable to eat anything.

You choose the food, but I do think it’s a gracious thing to consider the dietary necessities of your guests.

If you can get two options, I think that’s a really good way to go, to be honest. People complain less when they have at least one other option.

Post # 8
6375 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Bride and groom choose the options. I would say that you need to choose at least one halal/vegan/allegen free option for each course. Select at least two options for each course.

After that, then your guests may choose from the options available.

Post # 10
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We did something that had become popular for formal, plated dinners in my area and that was offering a combination, surf-and-turf plate of filet of beef and shellfish.  Everyone received this meal, unless they were some type of exception.

We knew for certain that a handful of our guests are allergic to shellfish. I was able to designate that these guests receive double portions of the beef.  Likewise, I knew that a couple of our guests could not eat beef, and so they received a double portion of the shellfish.

On our website, we asked anyone who is allergic to shellfish or cannot eat beef, or who desired a vegetarian meal, to contact us. Not a single person did. However, I did find out through other means that one person is a vegetarian, and I contacted his wife (who is my friend), to ask which of several vegetarian options interested him the most, and he received that meal.

Post # 11
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We served a family-style meal with big platters of food passed between guests at each table. Everyone got to choose what they wanted, just like a dinner at home!

Post # 12
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I prefer to be able to choose from 2-4 dishes.  I’ve been to a few weddings where there was 10+ entree options that you chose when you go there (not ahead of time when RSVPing) and the food every time was awful – just not cooked well at all.

Post # 13
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you have a buffet, you choose what you would want serve and people will put what they want to eat on their plate.  If you are having a plated dinner, you can choose to have either one meal that everyone wlll be served or you can have options.  If you have option you can have guests select which one they would like to eat when the RSVP.

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