(Closed) Do you let him put it "back there?" TMI thread!

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 61
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

SoonMrsCrocker2:  WebMD absolutely is not a credible source. It’s in Wikipedia territory. If you do want credible data and sources, it be happy to point you in the right direction. However, I think at this point we’d be best to just agree to disagree. 

Post # 62
2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015


1) When he takes it out, does it ever have…you know…brown stuff on it?

Not that I’m aware of. He’s never said anything but then he also can’t see that he’s just tracked mud all over the carpet runner in the hallway.

OMG I’m dying. This is the funniest thing I’ve read all day

Post # 63
67 posts
Worker bee

So I came across this thread and even though it’s sorta old, I’ll add to it since this is something I experienced this past weekend. To answer everything..

1) When he takes it out, does it ever have…you know…brown stuff on it?

No. And it most likely won’t.

2) Does it smell?


3) Do you do enemas to prevent these problems???

No, never have.

4) I’ve never looked at myself down there. I’ve heard about porn actors “bleaching” it. Why does it need bleaching??? To kill bacteria maybe?

No, it’s not to kill bacteria..only for cosmetic purposes (like bleaching your upper lip, for example).

5) How much does it hurt?

It doesn’t really hurt if he eases it in and starts off gently.

6) Do you let him ummm, finish there? Can semen cause any medical problems in there??

Yes I let him finish, and I don’t know of any medical problems. I can only speak for myself, and everything was fine.

7) How much and what kind of lubricant?

We did it after we massaged each other all over with lotion..baby oil also works. He could even transfer the fluids you have to the back, by rubbing it from the front, which we’ve done (sorry if TMI)

8) Do YOU actually enjoy it too?


Yes. Once you get used to it, it’s enjoyable.

My advice is to give it a chance if you want to. Everyone has their own view on it. But I wouldn’t shut it down just because people say “eww, that’s gross”. You won’t know if you like it unless you try.

Post # 64
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you can’t even say anal sex, you probably shouldn’t be haven’t it. Sex isn’t embarrassing but if you’re so uncomfortable with the thought of anal that you can’t even say it without saying “back there” or “umm anal” don’t have it, you’re not ready. 

Post # 65
58 posts
Worker bee

Yes! Personally I love it! And so does my fiance.  I strongly suggest starting out slow and giving yourself time to stretch.  Lots of lube, and maybe a glass of wine. I would touch yourself while he is in there, it helps.   Try to relax as much as possible.  It can be very pleasurable for you both 🙂 I say go for it! 


Post # 66
58 posts
Worker bee

I’m actually very surprised that so many women are so against it?  For the record, I’ve done anal sex regulary for about 10 years now, at least once a week, and I don’t have any damage or leakage or any problems at all really.  Just saying. It’s mostly about preference.  

Post # 67
1055 posts
Bumble bee

PenelopeAnne:  I joined this forum today (after lurking awhile), specifically to give your post a thumbs up, and I agree with you 100%.

This attitude reminds me of how Ana Steele describes sex.  “He touches me DOWN THERE oh my!”

* face palm

Post # 68
127 posts
Blushing bee

I enjoy it. Get a good lube seriously dont be cheap with the line. He doesn’t ask but sometimes I’m in the mood for it so I initiate it . 

Post # 69
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

BeeinKentucky:  glad to know I’m not the only one who allows just the tip. That’s enough for Fiance and that’s as far as I will let him go! He is satisfied with that. After reading on here how many bees allow the whole thing I started to feel guility! Lol 

Post # 70
58 posts
Worker bee

hollysmith92:  Honestly after you’ve allowed the tip in and give yourself a few seconds to stretch, the rest is no big deal lol it doesn’t hurt any more than the just tip would.  🙂 

Post # 71
3092 posts
Sugar bee

I very recently entered a relationship so we haven’t had sex yet. But based on the conversation, he is not even remotely interested in the back door. But, if it was something he REALLY wanted, I would consider it in the future.

Post # 72
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Fiance and I do it sometimes.  It isn’t my favorite thing on the menu, but it can be fun.  I usually have a couple cocktails first. lol.

I think it is shocking/weird/painful at first, but after a minute its fine.

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