Post # 1
I’m thinking about doing assigned seating (not just assigned tables) and wondering how the hive feels about that in general.
Personally, I don’t like being told where to sit, but – as I was doing my seating chart, I constructed it knowing that certain people would prefer to sit by other people and without assigned seats this may not happen (the last wedding I went to a couple random couples sat opposite each other, thus breaking up the foursome that I know the bride intended)
Post # 3
I think its nice to start off with. People will play musical seats once the party gets going, but its nice to have a place to put your things, and if you don’t know (m)any other people its much less awkward than having to go up to a table like its a high school lunchroom.
Post # 4
I vacillate. SO doesn’t like the idea of assigned seating, but I think its nice just to get people seated and comfortable. Like JenniB said, it also prevents the awkward lunchroom “ah…where do I sit?” thing. As of this moment, my plan is to DIY wine charm “place cards” just to get people seated and also to help them keep track of their glass when they start mingling.
Post # 5
I am not a huge fan of it. But, really, as long as I can sit with my fiance, I am happy. And, if I am sitting with friends too, it really doesn’t matter who I am sitting next to!
Post # 6
I like assigned for the reasons that both bees above have mentioned, it makes it easier/more comfortable for the guests who may not know anyone well. As long as couples are properly seated with one another (I know you wouldn’t mess this up but I’ve been to a wedding where it happened). But that being said, I wouldn’t be upset if I had to find my own spot… maybe if I was a single guest it would feel intimidating walking up to a table alone to find a seat though?
So I guess after all I would prefer assigned especially if I was attending alone.
Post # 7
I think assigned seats are good for the beginning of the wedding b/c guests know exacty where to sit. There’s no chair hopping and things run more smoothly. Once dinner is over and the dancing starts people will sit where they want anyway.
Post # 8
Waste of time, waste of paper, waste of energy! I hate being told where to sit. I think having it a free for all gets people to the venue earlier, people usually like to choose where to sit and it all works out on it’s own. Plus you will always have people who didn’t RSVP show up and those who did RSVP won’t show up. So then what do you do? Rather not stress about it!
Post # 9
I agree with Lindsay as long as you can ensure you have plenty of seating for everyone so you avoid splitting up couples. If you have exactly 1 seat for every RSVP guest probably better play it safe with assignments, but they don’t encourage mingling and guests need to get out of their comfort zones and meet other guests. What better way than to play musical chairs? Also you avoid all the bickering about people not sitting next to (or having to sit next to) certain people.
Post # 10
Yeah the last thing I wouldve wanted was to walk into our venue and everyone was quiet and lame because they are sitting at a table with people they don’t know/like.
Post # 11
i’m not crazy about assigned seating, i think just assigning a table is enough
Post # 12
we are going with not even assigning tables. we feel that is the best way because you never want to center any one out by not putting them at a table.
Post # 13
I like the idea of assigned tables and then let them sit where they want at that table. I think it keeps things organized so you don’t have people pulling up chairs and trying to crowd around one table. Plus they will most likely move around within that table anyways. Especially if you are having a larger group of people.We did this and it worked out really well. I spent a lot of time making sure everyone was with their group of people and it was worth it!
Post # 14
Assigned tables, but assigned seating just feels a little over the top to me. I’d like to pick which of my friends i sit by! I didn’t just throw people at tables–i put them with family, with friends, etc, so it wasn’t like there was awkwardness.
Post # 15
assigned seating seems much, much more formal than assigned tables
Post # 16
I have strong feelings when it comes to no assigned anything, as in, sit where you please. Mainly because at my cousin’s wedding, while our party tried not to tear across the field like hungry 3rd graders hearing the lunch bell ring, we totally got screwed. We paced around tables for awhile trying to find a table with 4 seats available. It totally sucked!
But I don’t mind the assigned seats. I think I might do that actually because I want to have 4 long tables. So I think it will help having me organize the seating rather than guests. I also am the only who knows who knows whom and who wants to sit next to whom. I also hate sitting with strangers and faking small talk, so I don’t want my guests to go through that.