Post # 1
I’m wondering if most childfree Bees dislike children or just don’t want any of their own while enjoying kids at times.
It’s not surprising that in many childfree online forums and social media groups, dislike of children is a common thread when reasons for childfreedom are discussed.
I actually enjoy children but only for short periods of time. The sound of babies crying and toddlers screaming makes me want to run away from them. I also cannot stand children with no manners or respect for others. My loved ones see the way I interact with their children and wonder why I don’t want any kids. “You are so good with children! You would make a great mom!” I hardly think that knowing how to soothe an uncomfortable infant or playing with a child is all that parenting entails. I am only adept at looking after children because of my experiences as a nanny as well as taking care of many younger relatives.
If you’re childfree, how do you feel about children in general?
Post # 2
I like well behaved children. Unfortunately very few are. Even when my friends/aquaintences say their kids are good, I find the parents are just… Used to them… Lol
there are few things I find more annoying than a toddler crying on an airplane or a kid kicking my seat. I feel bad for the crying kids bc I get that pressure change hurts them, but damn.
Post # 3
Eh. They are snotty crying poopy little monsters to me. I am terrible with children. Whenever I babysit my friend’s 3 year old I feel like a terrible person by the end because she is always throwing some fit and I don’t know what to do with her. I almost threw up on her with the first poopy diaper, I had to run to the restroom down the hall. I try to engage her in coloring or playing and never yell or scream but I am very lost with the munchkin. I felt better when she and my friend were over last weekend because she threw some fits with her dad and I realized it isn’t just me being terrible with the rugrats- they are tiny curious humans that push boundaries with everyone and everything.
There are some amazing mothers and fathers in the world. I am not one of them. My husband and I are going to Disneyland with his sister’s kids next month, a 9 and a 10 year old. We will see if the older set is easier to deal with.
Post # 4
I always thought I’d be CFBC. DH wants kids, and I never really did. I could only handle them a few minutes and I’m the first to point out an ugly baby (no, not all babies are cute). Then I became an aunt, and I realized that I love those kids more than life itself…and then I realized, I could be a mom. So, I like some kids more than others, but I think I really like those I’m related to.
Post # 5
I do have children and love children but I do feel the same as you about many adults. 🙂 No Joke I hate when I hear a full grown person whining and complaining all the time, or repeating themselves. Same story they told me last week… Ulk! Complaining about their home life, family, marrage, kids, job… I also hate aldults who have no manners and worse respect for others. Lets not get into drunks at the bar, and that guy you can’t swat away. Or a women who always cries when she get drunk! Really I think a lot of children are better behaved then a lot of adults.
I honestly believe the apple does not fall far from the tree. If you see a bratty kid look at the parents a little harder you will be surprised how simular they are to their child.
EDIT: I will add that when I was pregant, for some reason I did not like other peoples children. ~ Hormones are crazy and do crazy things to you.
Post # 6
I love them … By only for a very short period. I like them for 5 minutes if they are a strangers’ child and I like them for half a day of they are a friend’s or family’s child. After that, I feel happy to give them back and continue on with my child free life.
Post # 7
In the general sense? Nope. I don’t hate them, but I don’t exactly like them and am not interested in spending time around them either. I can at best tolerate some children for very brief periods of time. Not necessarily ones that are related to me, either.
My tolerance level has actually worsened as I have got older. I used to work with children quite a bit when I was younger (and also cared for younger siblings and other relatives). Who knows, this could even be where my intolerance comes from!
Post # 8
I am perfectly fine with children as a general concept and I certainly don’t think that it’s an outrage when I have to share this world with children. My annoyance is reserved for parents who cannot be bothered to take any reasonable action when their children are creating an inconvenience for others and for parents who insist on bringing their children to places that are clearly geared toward adults. When kids cry on airplanes because the pressure change hurts them, I just deal, because 99.9% of parents try to soothe their kids and it’s not like they can just take the kids somewhere else. But, if someone brings their kid to an 8:30pm dinner reservation at a Michelin-starred restaurant and permits their kid to behave in the way that most American children are allowed to behave at restaurants, I will not be amused.
I’m happy to chat with anyone who has a bit of cleverness and intellectual curiosity about something, and if that person is an 12 year old who wants to talk about music or a 14 year old talking about a new book or TV show, that’s fine with me (this obviously means that really little kids don’t hold a ton of interest for me, but that certainly doesn’t mean I’ll ignore them or be rude to them). One of my cousins has two daughters, now 15 and 17, and I sincerely enjoy chatting with them when I see them.
Post # 9
It does annoy me when a parent thinks their child is an angel but can’t see that the kid is actually the devil’s child (like my sister in law)
Post # 10
I absolutely love children and am great with them, same with fiance. But 18 years is too long for me, so its not happening. If I could raise them until 10 and give them to someone else, it would be perfect.
Post # 11
I like some children just as I like some adults. It depends on their personalities and whether we click.
Post # 12
I think kids can be fun once in a while, but most of the time, I’m quite happy not to be around them. I’m childfree because the idea of having a child around 24/7 does not appeal to me at all.
I don’t HATE kids, though, I mean, they’re still people. Some childfree people are so nasty about children, it’s ridiculous. It really comes off as overcompensating to me.
Post # 13
I’m a teacher so yes I enjoy children, but I also enjoy giving them back to their parents at the end of a school day! I am fence sitting right now…not sure if I will change my mind about having kids of my own but I might.
Post # 14
I think 18 years old is the old standard age of when your kids are suppose to leave home. With property prices so high and the cost of living increasing, In future it may be more probable that kids will have to stay with their parents until they are in their mid 20’s (no thank you!). Then you have the bommerang kids who keep coming back well into their adult age
Post # 15
I really like kids and I think I’m great with them. I mean, I am an elementary teacher too! Lol. I just…have no interest in having my life revolve around a needy little thing that has to be attached to my boob for a year. I enjoy sleep and alone time too much.