(Closed) Do you like children?

posted 5 years ago in No Kids
Post # 106
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Bee Keeper

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amanda3334455 :  I don’t think a single person on this thread has used the word ‘hate’. Dislike, yes, but not ‘hate’. So please don’t project. 

As for ‘we were all children once’; yes, and?… What is your point? I happened to not much care for other children, particularly those younger than me, or those I considered ‘baby-ish’ even as a child; and I have disliked babies and not understood the appeal, nor why it has always been assumed I should like them simply because I at female,for as long as I can remember. 

Further, what I once was is irrelevant, because I am not that person any more. The whole argument is just totally illogical. 

Post # 107
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Bumble bee

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RayKay :  I don’t understand the whole grandchildren thing either. A lot of the “I get to be a grandparent and you won’t if you don’t have kids” discourse upsets me in general because it makes a nasty assumption that children exist to provide this alleged benefit of grandchildren.  People who say these things are disrespecting their children’s autonomy, IMO.

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RayKay :  my mum is actually relieved that we don’t want children. My parents had us later in life, and were never  the ‘omg babies!’ type. While I’m sure they would like any children we had if we had chosen to go down that path, there is no way in hell they would take on child care duties etc; it just doesn’t interest them.

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chevaldame :  well, to be fair, my only actual reason is that, simply, I don’t want children. Yeah, I don’t like them; but if I wanted them, I’m sure I would still have them. I just don’t. I always liken it to my sexuality; I happen to be attracted to men, and not women. That is just who I am, and nothing short of a head injury is likely to change that. For me, my lack of desire for children is the same: I just completely lack it. So just as I can  confidently say that I would not marry a woman, so can I say I will never have children. 

But I take your point, and I despise this idea that people need a ‘good reason’ not to have children; particularly when it appears that it is deemed perfectly acceptable by most to have them with no good reason, and little or no thought… My decision to remain childfree affects no-one but myself; someone else’s decision to have children affects at the very least the child/ren they have, before one even considers the wider impact. 

Post # 110
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I’m 27 weeks pregnant, and I actually don’t really like other peoples’ kids. Some are awesome, some are cute, but most are obnoxious until they learn about social cues, haha.

I still want to be a mom!

Post # 111
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Honey Beekeeper

I like most kids, but have no patience or tolerance for parents who raise them with an anything goes policy. All too often the results are kids who are spoiled, who misbehave, and who don’t know how to act in public. Unless there is some kind of developmental issue, that’s usually the parents’ fault. 

The beauty of having your own kids is that you get to raise them the way you want.

Post # 112
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t particularly enjoy spending time with most children. I have exceptions – i love hanging out with my nephew, because we’re both total science nerds, and he loves going to museums with me. But even with him, after half a day or so, I’m very happy to send him home. 

I don’t look at it as an excuse, because I don’t need one. I don’t need to reproduce in order to have a happy marriage, to be a “complete” woman, or anything else. The core reason i don’t have kids is because I have never looked at a baby or child and thought “I want one of these”.  And I’m certainly not going to commit 20+ years of my life to something that I’ve never wanted. 

Post # 113
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Nope, I don’t like kids! I didn’t even like them when I was a kid. I hated being a kid myself! 

Post # 114
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I absolutely adore (well behaved) children. I’m a fantastic stand in mom, Aunty and GodMama. Children love me. Always wanted a gang of kids, but didn’t prioritize having them. Now biology is not in my favor and I really don’t care be in my later years dealing with teenage hormones. I’ve mothered in my own way, but people will always point out i’m “childless”. Can’t win. 

 

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mrswhitecat :  oh I know it is lol; I’ve heard it MANY times, both on the ‘Interwebz’ and in real life. I just find it the most ridiculous, illogical  ‘argument’ ever; it literally makes no sense. At all. But then hey, no bingos do 😉 (mainly because, let’s be brutally honest here, most of those spouting them are slightly lacking in the intelligence department). 

Post # 119
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Busy bee

I nanny for work, so technically I do like children for the most part. However, I like them before they start talking. And then at around age 3 again up until age 7…and then not again until they’re 18. 

I just don’t like talking toddlers much at all lol 

Post # 120
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Sugar bee

My fave dude at work and his wife refuse to mind their grandkids. On the rare occasion they agree and I ask what he’s doing that night he’ll be like “ughhhh, nothing! We’re stuck with the kid :(“. He and his wife adore each other and love travelling, drinking great wine, and going to restaurants. It’s a bizarre concept that grandparents should raise their kids kids. If you’ve done a good enough job with your own they should be great parents themselves. I couldn’t think of anything worse than spending my later years wiping someone else’s bum…. Let’s face it, you’re close enough to needing your bum wiped yourself at that stage! 

Cant believe this thread descended into Mumsplaining yet again. They really can’t help themselves! Does anyone read STFU Parents? My fave are the Mommyjacking of Facebook statuses.

“Finished my thesis today! Yay”, “It’s Harrison’s 4 month birthday.” 

“Finally starting to feel like myself again”, “You missed my baby shower.” 

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