(Closed) Do you like dancing at weddings? Will you dance at yours?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How do you feel about dancing at weddings?
    I like/love dancing in general! : (74 votes)
    44 %
    I generally like dancing at weddings! : (23 votes)
    14 %
    I like dancing some... sometimes. Depends on how I feel. : (12 votes)
    7 %
    I don't PARTICULARLY like dancing, but I want to dance at my wedding! : (15 votes)
    9 %
    I don't really like dancing, but I want to do the first/father/mother-type dances at my wedding : (7 votes)
    4 %
    I don't like dancing. I'll do some dancing at my wedding, but only because I feel obligated/have to : (10 votes)
    6 %
    Not dancing at my wedding, but other people can/will be : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No dancing will be happening at my wedding : (17 votes)
    10 %
    I'm pretty neutral about it. I'll definitely dance at my wedding, but I'm not really big into it : (9 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I love dancing in general. I’m always really disappointed when there’s no dancing at a wedding, or only slow songs, or only “scheduled” dances. Unfortunately, I’ve been to several of those. There will be lots of dancing at my wedding.

    Post # 4
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    what is your wedding party like? You could voice this concern with them and say I need you guys to get the dancers out there and having a good time because it really isn’t my forte. I’m the same as you, I either need to be intoxicated enough I don’t care or seriously forced on to the floor. Maybe to prep your self go to a couple club nights and just let loose, it may help you relax and get excited….? maybe

    Post # 5
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m not huge on dancing in front of people, but me & fi slow dance all the time in private [yeah, we’re silly!].

    For the weddings sake, I will be doing first dance, mother/daughter dance & dollar dances. And probably some other slow dancings throughout the night! But most of my time will be spent mingling/having fun!

    Post # 7
    2324 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I totally want to dance at my wedding – i would actually be upset if ppl weren’t dancing!

    Post # 8
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @yanamari:  I think it will be ok, the guests will dance if there is good music, deffinately compile an awesome fire started palylist and they will have no choice. I find the only time I willingly will go on that floor without having had a couple drinks is if there is a song I just cannot help but dance to. It’s typically those sing along songs everyone knows, for example (if you are a “how i met your mother fan” some people think a good mix should rise and fall, but they are wrong, it should be all rise baby!)

    Check this link out for some idea:


    Post # 9
    3229 posts
    Sugar bee

    There will be no dancing at my wedding.

    Fiance is 6’1″ and I am 5’0″ – dancing is a bit awkward for us so we do very little of it at other people’s weddings too.

    Post # 10
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    love it, but our venue couldn’t really accomodate it;  we had a duo playing guitar, and I danced once dance, with my 81 year old dad, to Daddy’s Little Girl.  He waited 54 years for that dance, and I cried like a baby, and so did a lot of other people.

    Daddy and his “little” girl…


    Post # 11
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Love it! But I am an awkward dancer so I need drinks to do it.

    Post # 12
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    I LOVE dancing, and we had a ton of dancing at our wedding – almost every guest was on the dance floor. I will dance at any wedding where there are at least a few other people dancing – I would’ve been really sad if no one danced at ours. At our own wedding, we were pretty much ecstatic and were dancing up a storm. You might get carried away by the moment and dance a little more than you’re used to.

    Here are some tips for getting people on the dance floor:

    1) When you’re mingling with your guests during cocktail hour or dinner, tell them that you want everyone to dance! We greeted each table during dinner, and I said something like, “You guys all have to come out on the dance floor tonight!” Honestly, I think letting your guests know that you want to create a dance party is important.

    2) Choose your DJ well. We read a lot of reviews of different DJs in our area before we chose our DJ, and we met with him in person before we booked him to make sure we liked him and that he wouldn’t have an obnoxious “DJ voice.”

    3) Choose your playlist carefully. Our guests were a mix of ages – about 40% in their 20s and 30s, 60% guests in their 40s-60s+. I’ve been to weddings with plenty of middle-aged guests where the DJ only played rap and Top 40 music – and not surprisingly, very few of the older guests danced. I’ve also been to weddings where only wedding classics (“We Are Family,” “YMCA,” etc.) were played, and not as many of the young people danced. We put together a pretty long playlist for our DJ with some top 40 hits (we tried to avoid ones with over-the-top explicit lyrics, for the  sake of the elderly guests), some popular older songs (Michael Jackson/Jackson 5, Prince, Frank Sinatra, Marvin Gaye, Al Green, The Temptations, Elton John, Queen, etc.), cheesy 90s music (DH and I both secretly love Spice Girls, BSB, Salt n Peppa, etc. haha), a few country songs, and some Persian music (since DH’s family is Persian). Some people leave everything up to their DJ, but Darling Husband and I are picky and know our crowd pretty well. We also tried to avoid indie/underground music and stick with well-known music that most of the guests would recognize and feel comfortable dancing to.

    4) Encourage your guests to choose music. Put something in the RSVP cards that asks for their favorite song (Miss Armadillo recently did a post on her invitations, and she did that) or set out DJ request cards on your dinner tables for guests to fill out and hand to the DJ – 

    vintage record player



    @Pinkmoon:  That is so beautiful!!

    Post # 13
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    Oops sorry one more tip – line dances/coordinated dances, like the Cupid Shuffle and the Wedding Wobble, also help to get a lot of people out on the dance floor. If you play at least one of those early on in the night, that’ll help get people out of their chairs.

    Post # 14
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @yanamari:  I totally can relate to this! My SO & I aren’t dancers…not together anyway. I used to club it up (lol) but it was sort of a phase for me & my SO doesn’t dance at all. I would just feel awkward dancing with everyone around plus I’m on the younger side of my family so I’m not sure everyone else will do much dancing. We haven’t really decided what we want to do regarding the dancing situation either. We’re considering a tiny destination wedding and then a restaurant “reception/party.”

    If we do go the traditional route, I’m considering a brunch reception. I don’t know what we’ll do for entertainment yet, but a morning reception will hopefully keep people from missing the dance floor too much!

    Post # 15
    9691 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I love dancing…pretty sure we’ll have a good dance party!  Most of my friends like to dance too.  Especially once I’ve had a drink or two!

    Post # 16
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I LOVE to dance!


    Ideally I wouldn’t plan a romantic song as opening dance song, but just a dance hit and just get the party started! I don’t mind at all to hit the dance floor as the first person, but I don’t want to do an old fashioned, studied dance.. Just start dancing together and invite people to the dance floor.

    I also take dancing into account when dress shopping, I do need to be able to move in a dress

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