Post # 1
Now im not talking about family drama, Thats normal- Im talking about drama with Strangers, Co-workers, etc.
My mom is a complete ” yell in your face and make a scene ‘ kind of woman if ANY one gets on her bad side- I respect her for being herself but Im totally not that kind of peson. With my family, I could be a total b**** when were arguing, But when it comes to Co-workers, Strangers, Drivers- I would probably respond with an attitude but I dont want to start a fight– thts full of anger ” Ill get you fired/ beat you up ” like..I just dont like public Drama. I think its so unnessacary! but thats just me
So my question is, how do YOU react with others when you handle a messed up situation? Do you say whats on your mind without the whole yelling in your face thing or do you just not give a fancy pants whose around and will give it to the person straight from the heart depending on how your feeling at the moment?
Post # 3
I shy from any confrontation. I get so uncomfortable in very confrontational situations; even negotiating makes me nervous! Anything that involves negotiation or any bit of confrontation is left to Fiance to handle because I just back down so easily.
Post # 4
I avoid drama like the plague. It’s so draining. I say “save it for the drama llama.”
My mom’s like that too btw. I wonder if children of dramatic people shy away from it bc it’s so embarrassing.
Post # 5
haha I think thats true. i usually get embarrased when my mom pulls someone out and confronts them.. cuz it gets pretty messy with words and yelling. Meh!
I realized I havent had any personal drama for such a long time! Even when I was working, I usually play it safe and treat people the way I want to be treated.
Post # 6
Drama like fights and yelling? No way. I’m much more inclined to speak quietly and deliberately with an undertone of “You’re not intimidating me and I’m not f***ing around right now, so let’s just resolve this and move on with our lives.”
Post # 7
I avoid like the plague. Darling Husband on the other hand is always the one to yell at the person cutting in line or tell someone to get off their cell phone on the bus. I hide when he starts up. Its always a legit reason but it makes me soooo uncomfortable.
Post # 8
Drama/confrontation makes me squirm. So, yes, I avoid it…to a fault. There are times I think I should stand up for myself, but those people who make a scene make my skin crawl hahaah!
Post # 9
I hate confrontation and generally avoid it if I can. That said, my buttons can be pushed and in scenarios where someone crossed the line and then runs 100 yards, I don’t take it lying down and will say something. Probably not very calmly, but never yelling either. Its usually curt and smart.
If someone attacks me, I don’t hold back. (Like the worker of a bridal salon that called me to scold me for posting an unfavorable review online of his store. That did not end well for him.)
I also don’t think anyone will admit to liking or causing drama. People who stir up a lot of drama on a regular basis probably just strongly believe that they have been attacked and are in the right. They think they are right a lot.
Post # 10
It depends on the situation.
If someone else is getting really worked up, I try to diffuse the situation and put it all into perspective.
If someone is unfairly attacking me (like a male coworker saying demeaning comments, which has happened before), I stand up for myself but keep calm and professional. I can’t be a pushover or too passive or i’ll just get steamrolled and I certainly do not want a reputation for being a pushover.
Post # 11
@KatyElle: haha… exactly this!
Silence and slow, thoughful speech is much more my style than full on assault
Post # 12
Yea, I usually would perfer my FI/ Darling Husband to deal with an issue. Im a friendly person, So sometimes its hard for me to be a big meany to other people Unless they really had it coming. I give more facial expressions and attitude then just saying whats on my mind
Post # 13
im not gonna lie i am the nicest person, but if something is bothering me im not gonna let it go.
Post # 14
I have a furious temper, which I am fortunately excellent at controlling. The only problem with this is that I have to expend so much energy into self-control when I get riled up, that I find it difficult to argue back calmly. I tend to clam up or make non-forceful comments instead. However, if you push my buttons on a few ethical issues I feel strongly about, I will take you down (although without shouting or raising my voice).
But drama where there is no outright bad guy and people I like might get feelings hurt? Makes me feel physically sick…