- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
My friends (male and female) adore my fiance, so much so that they have become friends in their own right and we spent alot of time together in groups and on occassions when I’ve not been up for doing some thing socially they go out with him without me and I love that I’m able to have my friendships and my relationships bound so close. I never feel like I have to pick one over the other.
More recently one of my close friends has got into a new relationship (going out for 6 months now) and she is very persistantly trying to arrange social get togethers that include him. The trouble is, we’re not all that keen on the guy. Of the few times we’ve met him he’s been hard to make conversations with, rude (he made snarky remarks about marriage after I told him I was engaged) and generally doesn’t click with us, which goes against the fact that we’re all open minded friendly people.
I’d never deter my friend from having a relationship with someone if he makes her happy but she’s looking for approval and I just can’t give it, I don’t like the guy. If it was just me I’d think maybe I don’t “get him” but the fact that the other 5 of us aren’t all that struck on him either makes me think it’s him not us.
Does anyone have a tactical way of dealing with this?