(Closed) Do you live far from your famillies? How do you do holidays?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We stopped traveling on the holidays, honestly. We were in Boston, our families were in California, Texas, and Washington DC. It was too hectic and too much money. It cost half as much to fly other times of the year, so we started doing yearly trips at non-holiday times, and started making our own holiday memories together!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When my HUGE extended family still lived within a half an hour of each other, I did not have an SO.

Now that I do have an SO, my entire family is literally hundreds of miles away in other states, so we see each other maybe once or twice a year and it’s usually not for the holidays.

I think it’s way too hard/hectic/stressful to travel for Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.

Plus my mom has health problems, and so does my Gram, so that makes traveling really hard/borderline impossible for them.

The holidays are usually small and quiet. I will spend early xmas eve with my family, then head to my fiance’s mom’s house (his mom is the only family he has).

On Christmas day, I will hang out with my family, my fiance will pop in for a few hours, and then the two of us will go to his mom’s house.

It sucks not being able to spend Christmas with my aunts, uncles, and cousins, but with everyone literally being in different states (Pennsylvania, Ohio, Georgia, North Carolina, Florida, Colorado, etc, etc). it’s just easier this way. 

Normally we pick a random weekend over the summer to get together or something instead, and when that happens, my fiance will come with.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are spending Christmas with his family mainly because I have to work either Christmas Eve or Christmas night.  His family is in the same area as us.  My family is about a little over an hour away so we’ll be visiting the 27th to spend time with them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

This year I am with my mother, but will be home with Fiance on Boxing day and we’ll do Xmas together on the 27th. Usually, we spend Xmas eve with his family, and also go there for Xmas day.

My mother lives on the other side of the country, so I rarely visit, let alone at the holidays when it’s crazy expensive to do so.  This year was an exception, and i don’t foresee us coming as a couple for Christmas any time soon.  It’s such a hectic time I year, I’m happy to relax and be at home together. Since his family is where we are, it’s just easier for us to celebrate with them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We live close to my parents and his father. So x-mas Eve we are doing my parents and his father on X-mas. My sister who lives in CT we have already had mini X-mas with her, her husband and two kids when they came up last weekend. His sister, her husband, mom and step dad all live in Florida so we just exchange gifts by mail and call them. Once we have kids everyone is coming to us lol. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We will do Christmas with his family, New Years with mine – Opposite of last year. We live in the UK, and his parents are about 5 minutes down the road, and the rest of his immediate family is close by as well. My family are all in Norway, but as family has always been so important to me, we make the effort to go there to see them.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My family lives two hours away and FH’s dad lives where we live now and his sister lives 4 hours away. Usually FH and I do our Christmas on the 22nd or 23rd, then FH and I drive to our hometown to have Christmas with our families. Future Sister-In-Law and her husband and kids usually drive down from Georgia and most of the time I will go visit with them some while they are here.

The holidays are always hectic, I’m so glad that we have some kind of system going now because the first year we were together was crazy and unorganized.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We live close to my in-laws, far away from my family.  With my mom and brother, we mail gifts to each other in advance and Skype while opening gifts Christmas morning.  We would love to go up there every other year, but with DH’s current job, that’s impossible.  Fortunately, my family understands that and even supports it, as Midwest winters can get ugly.  The one Christmas we did visit (while we were dating), we ended up being snowed in for five days and were very stressed about making it back to Texas in time.  So, right now we do a big summer trip and bring “Christmas” presents to extended family then (usually Texas beers/wines–no one complains!).

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am truly amazed at how we’re able to handle Christmas visits given the many logistics involved.

Darling Husband has two, married, adult children (and a grandchild), all of whom have to manage to work in visits with three, or, in one case, four separate sets of parents, some of whom are quite scattered geographically.

We have shared custody of DH’s two minor children.

My parents, DH’s parents, and the kids’ mothers’ family all live hours away. 

Darling Husband is a pastor and needs to work on Christmas Eve.

And, then, we all have siblings with whom we all try to coordinate when we visit our respective parents. 

A major blessing for Darling Husband and me is that, even though we met online and lived in two different states, we were happy to discover that we actually grew up in the same area of the country and that our parents live within 30 minutes of each other. For that I am extremely thankful.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SimpleGifts:  It sounds like alternating might be the way to go so that you get quality time with your family.

 

My parents just retired to Florida so this will be the first time I’ve ever not spent Christmas with my mom in my life!  The tickets are just way too expensive & I really wanted to be  with my Fiance since he moved in with me just a few months ago. It seemed unfair to leave him here while I took off for Florida so I’m flying down to Florida to see my mom in a few weeks.

I thought I’d be really bummed about it, but I’m pretty happy with how it’s working out. I’m cooking Christmas dinner for Fiance and his family at our house so we get to have a nice easy day without trying to fit visiting everyone into 24 hours. I get to get some real quality time with my family instead of the manic rush that is Christmas. We can have a mini Christmas one night, and then just enjoy some quality time together without all the hectic energy that happens around Christmas.

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