(Closed) Do you love your SO unconditionally?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you love your SO unconditionally?
    Yes : (126 votes)
    61 %
    No : (80 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I love him no matter what, but I wouldn’t be with him if he violated our vows. Make sense?

    Post # 4
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Do I? No. Do I try? Every day of my life for as long as I live.

    Post # 5
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    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    Although I love my SO as much as I can possibly imagine, everybody is capable of changing or showing a darkness. My SO and I disagree on a lot of moral/ethical issues, so if he were to act negatively on something I feel so compassionately for I can’t imagine being able to see him the same.
    Also agree with PP that if he were to lie to me over our relationship I don’t think I could trust him.
     

    Post # 7
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    No, I make the conscious choice every single day to love him and be with him because I want to. In My Humble Opinion not having unconditional love is a good thing In marriage, because you work at the love rather than  just assuming it will always be there.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    That’s interesting, I was going to say yes, but I saw @FutureMrsDrPeter:  ‘s response and realized I probably would not love him if cheated on me or stole a huge amount of money from me or, I don’t know, murdered my brother.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MIBEETOWED:  agree. I will love him no matter what but if he ever hurts me I will leave

    Post # 10
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    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    in a realistic sense, i love him unconditionally. i’ve committed myself to him 100% and will continue to do so for the rest of my life- to love him, to support him, to do everything i can to make him happy.

    if he did something absolutely horrible- like cheat on me- i would be absolutely broken up over it, to the point where im sure id consider divorce. but would that stop me from loving him? not really- i’d be horribly mad at him and probably even say i “hate” him, but it really is because i love him and he hurt me, that i would hate him. did that make sense? im tired. haha

    so anyway, yes, unconditional love. happiness and butterflies forever 🙂

    Post # 11
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    I do love him unconditionally. I have loved him at his worst when we were just friends and he was being the biggest jerk in the world and I know I will continue to love him unconditionally. Some things may make me not like him very much that day, but I will love him still. 

    Post # 12
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    No. We make a conscious choice each and every day to be together. Is it harder sometimes than others? You bet. Is it crazy easy on other days? Definitely.

    Post # 13
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Nope.  There are, and should be, limits and conditions on love.  I won’t stop loving him if he forgets to buy me a card on my birthday.  But if he say, molested a child?  That’s a love-killer.  I love him almost unconditionally, barring horrible circumstances.

    Post # 14
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    8438 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @MIBEETOWED:  That is how I feel as well. Just because someone does a bad thing (like murder) and you choose to leave that relationship doesn’t mean that you don’t still love them. It just means that you cannot live with their choice.

    Post # 15
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think it’s nice to say that you would love your partner unconditionally, but personally I think that kind of love is reserved for children. Maybe also for parents/siblings. If I ever found out that my partner did something absolutely horrible (worse than just cheating on me or whatever), I don’t know that I could love him anymore. As other folks have said, this choosing to love vs. an unconditional love that just *is* is actually even more beautiful to me. 

    Post # 16
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I can say I really do love my SO unconditionally, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stay with him unconditionally. I know I love him unconditionally since I’ve loved him since we were 13. We had many years of being apart, living our own lives, lost communication, been in other relationships and yet I still loved him throughout and love him even more now that we’ve finallyvreconnected!

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