Post # 1
It was my inlaws 32nd anniversary on Halloween. Niether my husband or I did anything for them. My husband did call, but just talked to his father. Today his mother texted him to say he should be ashamed of himself for not doing anything for them. To me anniversaries are for the people that are in the relationship. I would never expect anything for ours? Do I have a different point of view on this than most? do you do anything for your in-laws anniversary?
not to mention husband has been waking up at 4 and working 14 hr days to help get peoples power back from Sandy.
Post # 3
My husband sends cards to friends for their first anniversary but not really after that. I don’t acknowledge anyone’s anniversary.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Lol, I don’t even know my FIL’s anniversary. We used to acknowledge my parents’ anniversary when my sisters and I were kids, but they are in the middle of a divorce so….
I don’t expect anyone but me and FH to celebrate/acknowledge our anniversary.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I don’t do anything for my family anniversarys unless it’s a big anniversary (1,5,10 etc). Anything else should be more about the couple doing things for each other, because that is what the anniversary is about, not yet another day to get gifts frompeople.
Post # 6
I would think that’s only necessary for the big deal anniversaries? But does your hubby usually make a bigger deal? Maybe that’s why she’s hurt?
Post # 7
I always remember to tell my parents ‘happy anniversary’ as theirs is really easy to remember, and I’ve given them cards and a bottle of wine on the big ones… but I don’t necessarily think it’s a big deal not to do something for someone else’s anniversary – it’s their day, not yours.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t even celebrate my future in-laws’ birthdays if my fiance’s family didn’t make such a big deal about them. I think it’s kind of obnoxious. They don’t celebrate my birthday, or my sister-in-law’s (she is married to my fiance’s older brother) birthday…just theirs.
Post # 9
I agree! I mean, if it was a big one, I might understand. On decade milestones, I usually will do something for my parents. Usually a small gift.
My fiance’s mom asked him if their anniversary gift was in the mail. I was totally confused by that. I would never expect someone to do anything for ours unless it was maybe the 25th or 50th!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I agree that anniversaries are really for the couple, not for anyone else. We had an memorable wedding date (Friday the 13th), and thanks to facebook, people may remember next year, but I’m certainly not expecting anyone, other than Darling Husband, to make any acknowledgement of our anniversary.
Post # 11
I would never do anything for someone else’s anniversary.
Even if you did, the fact that your husband is involved in the storm recovery this week should be more than enough to excuse you!
Post # 12
@clairykoo: i am the same as you. i believe that an anniversary should be between the two people involved with that anniversary.
that’s not to say i won’t say happy anniversary to them but i’m not into getting them a gift or anything.
we only celebrate milestone anniversaries. 10, 25, 40, 50+
Post # 13
I personally don’t give a crap about anyone else’s anniversary, and don’t expect anybody but Darling Husband and me to care about ours.
Post # 14
Also on the flip side the only thing I would ever want someone to get me for my anniversary, other than the hubs of course, is a babysitter.
Well, that might be creepy since we don’t have kids. I’ll take a dogsitter.
Post # 15
Nope, not even my parents.
Post # 16
@clairykoo: My parents are divorced and I don’t know any other people’s anniversary dates. I think my bf sends a congratulatory email to his parents on their anniv., but that’s about it.
We celebrate our first date anniversary and birthdays but that’s about it.