(Closed) Do you mind if your SO watches porn? (and do you watch?)

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Are you OK with your SO watching porn?
    Yes. I think it is OK for my SO to watch porn (I watch porn too) : (125 votes)
    52 %
    Yes. I think it is OK for my SO to watch porn (I DO NOT watch porn) : (29 votes)
    12 %
    No. I don't want my SO to watch porn (but I DO watch it) : (6 votes)
    3 %
    No. I don't want my SO to watch porn (and I also don't watch it) : (71 votes)
    30 %
    The obligatory "other" : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We watch together (occasionally) and we’re both fine with it.

    Post # 4
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’ve watched porn in the past, but I don’t like it for various reasons. I’d prefer if my husband didn’t watch porn, but he does, albeit very rarely.

    I also dislike romance novels/movies and avoid them.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    I don’t watch it, but I also don’t mind that Darling Husband does.  

    We have a “don”t ask/don’t tell” policy.  So long as our intimacy doesn’t get ignored, I don’t care if he watches it. Just like he doesn’t care when I watch romantic movies or read romance novels– we just have different preferences on our fantasy of choice. 

    Post # 6
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s really interesting to look at the poll results! My Fiance watches when I am not around to be intimate so it is not in place of us having sex.  We also watch together sometimes to spice things up.  I rarely if ever watch alone though.  I have no problem with him watching porn because I know he has a good analysis around the goods and bads of that industry.  I also don’t mind things like strippers/ lap dances etc because it is all a fantasy. (MY Fiance doesn’t go to strip clubs but if and when he does for his bachelor party I will have no problem).  I guess i’m just secure in our relationship.  We are great communicators and we know that things like porn can supplement each of our sexual lives both together and individually (because yes *gasp* we are both individual sexual beings!)

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Since Fiance and I do not live together right now; yes he watches. I do not.

    I really don’t like the fact that he does, but what can I do? It is a very common thing and I know that he loves my and my body.

    The only thing about it is that I DO NOT LOOK LIKE THOSE WOMEN…. at all…. I am extremely petite and do not have a womanly body. Not many curves :/

    So when he watches women like that I feel inferior. I know that’s just something I need to get over but it’s difficult.

     

    Post # 8
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’m not okay with Fiance watching porn, but he wouldn’t watch it anyway. I don’t watch porn.

    Post # 9
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    3766 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I watch it, he watches it, and we watch together. And I really, really enjoy watching with him. We laugh, we get turned on, and it always leads to a “fun” time. We just had a convo about how porn is such a touchy subject on the Bee, and we’re thankful to be on equal terms about it.

    Post # 10
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    3766 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Artificial-Sweetener:  I get a little insecure when I see he’s been watching porn with women who are nothing like me, for example black women or “mature” women. But I just remember that there’s a reason he’s watching a short video of them, but is marrying and sleeping with me 🙂

    Post # 11
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    1224 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted other. Neither of us watch porn, but I wouldn’t mind if he did. We’ve discussed watching it together, and both of us are ok with it as long as it’s something we could both get into.

    Post # 12
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    6359 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t even like the random insertion of needless full frontal scenes in almost all Hollywood movies these days. Now if by “Rated R for nudity” they meant “Maybe male frontal nudity!” rather than “Boobs, boobs, a thousand times out of a thousand and one, we mean BOOOOOBS”, I might feel a little differently…

    but yeah, I really don’t care for porn and fortunately Fiance doesn’t either, so no arguments there.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My feeling is that if he wants to watch porn, why doesn’t he just be initimate with me? I don’t like watching porn with him because I feel very very self concious. Mostly over the fact that I don’t look like a porn star and he is obviously attracted to the girls on the screen.

    Having said that, I know he does and I try to be as ok with that as I can. Just so long as he isn’t watching it when he could just be with me.

    Post # 14
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    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    He watches it on his time, I do on my time. We don’t watch it together because I think we both are turned on by different stuff.

    Post # 15
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    He watches it more than I do, but sometimes we will watch it together for some added fun time. 😉

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I totally adore sex. For real, but I despise porn. I couldn’t care less if someone watches it, but I don’t want to think of myself looking like THAT when I am doing “that”. Just saying!

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