(Closed) Do you mind when people touch your belly?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

KatesTheWord:  i dont like being touched much lol. by Darling Husband yeah! but not other people. Father-In-Law and i had a falling out because i wanted him to dial back his affection. so watch out, in laws can be touchy about that.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

KatesTheWord:  Definitely joking! Ha, ha. I like using humour to diffuse awkwardness. I haven’t yet had the chance to tell unwanted belly-rubbers this, “Oh, if you win the lottery from touching my belly, I want a 50% share of your winnings. :D”

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  Cynderbug. Reason: pregnant brain grammar
Post # 50
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Busy bee

It honestly doesn’t bother me. I’m so excited and I love seeing how exciting others get to. Even my Future Brother-In-Law has bent down and had a little chat with ‘his little niece’ in front of his entire football team. Sure, it’s my body but it’s a new family member for everyone and I love how excited they are! 

Strangers, sure it’s weird. Family, I’m all for letting them share the excitement! 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I work at a rehab facility and residents/staff are forever wanting to touch my belly. Most of the time I’m like pls don’t. ..once in awhile a person gets to the belly before I have a chance to move. I only like dh and my on touch the belly. 

Post # 52
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Omg she kisses your belly?! Haha no. I have kids and I always felt a little weird when people touched my stomach, buuuuuuuuuttttt I feel like I always touch my friends stomachs! I can’t help it. Lol so I guess I understand the belly touching but kissing, heccck no. But it is sweet that she is so interested in her grandchild lol 

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

yeah that’d be wierd. I’ve only ever touched a pregnant belly if someone asks me if I want to feel the baby kick and then I let them take my hand and place it where they want it to be.  Other than that, wtf?

Post # 55
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

also, OP: I just read your post where you said if oyu told her it’s wierd she’d cry.. don’t make your statement about HER, make it about you.. that way you didn’t call her anything.

“It really makes me feel very uncomfortable and even a bit violated when anyone other than Darling Husband kisses my belly” 

She might throw a tantrum but then you can still very firmly respond “It’s not about you–it’s about ME and my body”

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m almost 19 weeks and the only person who has touched my belly is my husband. I’m not really okay with anyone else doing it unless it’s close family or friends and they ask. Kissing and talking to it…no way. I’m also okay if someone who is newly pregnant wants to touch my bump. My coworker is three months ahead of me and when I wasn’t showing yet I asked to feel her bump because I was curious and she was fine with it.

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am in your same situation! Lol. My Mother-In-Law always does this same thing and my mother doesn’t even dare. I really dont mind the touching (even though I am just 15 weeks and barely showing), but the talking-touching-my-belly-with-your-lips is awkward to me. She says this way the baby will KNOW exactly who his/her grandma is when I deliver. Lol! 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

KatesTheWord:  I have four children.  I have never allowed anyone to behave that way.  I don’t bend down and kiss THEIR stomachs, so leave mine alone.  It’s just so bizarre to me, especially from someone you aren’t close with.  And I know this is probably “mean”, but I find it really really creepy unless it’s a spouse/SO.

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I can’t even. Barf. I would totally bite the bullet and resign myself to whatever judgment and gossip ensued about me for the rest of my life rather than let my MIL’s lips come near my belly. And for the record, my Mother-In-Law is awesome and we get along great. But that is WAAAAAY to intimate of a thing to do. 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

KatesTheWord:  That’s just weird and awkward. I really like my Mother-In-Law (most of the time), but I would be creeped out if she did that. So far, the only people that have touched my belly without permission have been my mom, which was really awkward the first time but we’re super close, so not a big deal, and my adult niece who has no children. It was just a quick feel from her and didn’t bother me. I think that I am viewed as a bit standoffish by my Mother-In-Law, but at least I am not dealing with her talking to and kissing my belly so I’ll keep that label. Lol. 

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