(Closed) Do you mind your SO staring at other women?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

staring, no. looking, glancing, fine.

commenting on another woman’s looks vs flat out staring. I wouldn’t be okay with the latter

Post # 4
Member
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Looking, noticing, and appreciating members of the opposite sex is normal and healthy. Staring, not so much. I would feel weird about staring, but don’t care about looking.

Post # 5
Member
4371 posts
Honey bee

No, I would find it amusing, but he never does. I, on the other hand, love looking at pretty people in general, men or women. 

 

Post # 6
Member
717 posts
Busy bee

Agree with @strawbs.  It’s one thing to glance and notice.  we’re all human.  But to sit there staring and zoned out – not ok.  it’s like they’ve never seen a woman before, really?  and in that case, doesn’t matter if he’s with his SO or not.  staring to that extent is not ok.

 

on the flip side, if I was the woman being stared at like that, I would be creeped out.

Post # 7
Member
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Glance? Nope. But stare?? Haha, no I am not okay with that. Its not something I would start a fight over, but I think it is really rude and disrespectful. If it was a habit then I think it would eventually give me a little bit of a complex.

Post # 8
Member
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@strawbs:  Agree.  Staring is weird and creepy!!

Post # 9
Member
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Considering that I, too, appreciate the visual qualities of an attractive woman… I don’t care if he looks. I’ve been known to point out particularly attractive girls to him for an assessment. *shrug* Approaching them? Touching them? Hell no. But looking doesn’t bother me.

Post # 10
Member
3215 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

checking out another girl or pointing out that she’s pretty? Yeah whatever, I don’t care. But ZONING OUT like you’re describing? That’s pretty shitty behaviour, both towards the woman he’s gawking at, and towards you. 

Post # 11
Member
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Staring to the point of zoning out? Definitely not OK. But like others, I’m fine with looking.

Post # 12
Member
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its in everyones nature to look at an attractive person. But,  long dragged out staring, now thats odd! esp if hes doin it in front of you. I would def talk to him about it.

Post # 13
Member
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sure, why not? He can look at the menu, he just can’t order off of it.

Post # 14
Member
5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

That would bother me, luckily my Fiance doesn’t do that while I’m around! If he did, I would tell him it upset me and ask him to stop.

Post # 15
Member
1714 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Couldn’t care less. We point out attractive women/men out to each other all the time if we are out and about (for some reason I point out more than he does ha!). Watch porn together, I tell him about my favourite pornstars (male and female) and he does with me as well, as well as showing each other our favourite videos. We’ll both go ‘oooooo damn’ if someone attractive is on screen (actress etc). No big deal for us here. Though neither of us will go and actively approach/touch another woman/man etc. Staring/gawping is weird in BOTH of our books though. 

 

 

 

Post # 16
Member
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, looking is fine but staring in front of you is totally disrespectful. Just because men are visual creatures by and large doesn’t mean that they can’t control themselves enough to be respectful of their partners! It would be one thing if it didn’t bother you, but because it does, he should really try to be sensitive to that. I don’t think it’s an unreasonable thing for you to ask. 

The topic ‘Do you mind your SO staring at other women?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors