(Closed) Do you need a washing machine to have a baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How important is an in-home washer/dryer to having a baby/child?
    I have a baby, I have a W/D, and it is essential. : (25 votes)
    23 %
    I have a baby, I have a W/D, and it is NOT essential. : (4 votes)
    4 %
    I have a baby, I do NOT have a W/D, and I wish I did. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I have a baby, I do NOT have a W/D, and I don't mind it. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    I do not have a baby but I think an in-home W/D is essential. : (61 votes)
    56 %
    I do not have a baby but I do NOT think an in-home W/D is essential. : (14 votes)
    13 %
    Other (please explain). : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 17
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I can’t imagine having a baby and not having your own laundry machine. I know there are thousands of people that make it work, but I just don’t think I could do it. Plus, laundromats kind of skeeve me out. SO used to have to use one in a not so nice area of LA and it grossed me out. 

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We are in a similar set-up except that we DON’T have a dishwasher either…but we do have a baby! We have a 19-month-old and we even cloth diaper, and a washing machine is completely NOT an essential. We use the laundramat down the street and it’s completely fine. We do laundry for the whole house about every 2 weeks, but we do just the baby’s laundry usually every week. It’s so small it all goes in one washer, so it’s very easy.

    Post # 19
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    It is feasible, but I think it would be a pain in the ass.

    Post # 20
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    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m from Pennsylvania, and don’t have kids, but there are lots of Amish people here and I don’t think they all have washers and dryers… at least not electric ones, and they definitely have kids!  πŸ˜€  Realistically, I think that you need to know that appliances are a perk that sometimes is a help, but is never an absolute necessity!

     

    Post # 21
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    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you ask people in middle america this question, they will tell you it is essential, because none of them have ever worked their lives around not having a W/D in house/apartment.

    If you ask people from New York/Boston/San Fran, they will likely tell you that you can def do it!!! Worse case scenario, if you have an emergency load you don’t have time for, there are pick up services (when we lived in Boston for 7 years – moved a few months ago, we used the Buck A Pound service. They picked up from our apartment and everything!)

    Post # 22
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    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I certainly wouldn’t WANT to do it, but it would definitely be possible. My husband and I just moved into a house and have a washer/dryer for the first time, and I already notice how much more I’m doing laundry that I would have considered non-essential just a couple months ago. With a baby, my life would certainly be easier with the washer/dryer here, but I would have managed just fine before (although I wouldn’t have liked it). I like the idea of the portable unit it if gets to that point for you. It certainly would make your life a lot easier.

    Post # 23
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    When my daughter was a baby we didn’t have a washer or dryer in our home.  We had a laundry mat right down the street though so it was an easy walk.  I stuck the baby in the baby bjorn (are those even around still, they were great), put the sacks of laundry in the stroller and walked down to do laundry.  πŸ™‚  It wasn’t perfect, but it wasn’t a big deal either.  The ONLY thing that was a hassle about it was when we had bad weather, but then I just loaded everything up in the car and drove a block.  I always felt silly starting up the car to only go a block down the road though lol

    I guess what I’m saying is, it’s nice to have a washer/dryer inside your own house and not have to deal with laundry mats, but it’s not a necessity.  Honestly, doing laundry at a laundry mat wasn’t any harder with the little one than it had been before she’s born. I wouldn’t move house or delay TTC over it.  Trust me, it’s really not that big of a deal, especially if you’re already using a laundry mat anyway πŸ™‚

    Wait, you’re not planning to use cloth diapers are you?  If you are then forget everything I just said lol  I used disposable, but it just occured to me what a nightmare it would be to bring nasty, stinky diapers to the laundry mat every week.  Even if you rinsed them really well after use, cloth diapers are something you really need to wash right away and not leave sitting until laundry day.  That would be a sticking point for me I think.  So, if yes on cloth diapers then I say hand wash, laundry service just for the diapers (diaper only laundry services with special detergent requests are really common here), or get your own washer/dryer.  If no cloth diapers I say don’t worry about it and stick to the laundry mat.  

    Whew!  Another super long comment from me.  When will I ever learn to shut up? lol

    ETA: Just thought of a few more things.  Sorry for hogging all the interwebs! πŸ˜›  So, babies in laundry mats… when the baby is small it’s no big deal.  All the way up til my daughter was about a year old, I just made a point to go at naptime, but my daughter was a SUPER easy baby who could fall asleep anywhere and her stroller could lay down flat.  So when she was little, she slept in the baby bjorn and when she was bigger I layed the stroller seat flat and let her sleep in there.  I could finish all my laundry and be home before she woke up most times.  However, when she got older it became a lot harder to plan to have her sleep in the stroller.  Trying to go to the laundry mat while she was awake and walking around was ok, but I can see how that would be a concern if your laundry mat is pretty yucky (you mention not being happy with the level of upkeep).  OTOH, if you have a “hard” baby, in that they need to be held more, aren’t as much of a sound sleeper, any number of problems really, then doing laundry could be a lot more challenging for you.  You can’t really know with absolute certainty until you see what kind of personality your baby has and how stressful you find being a mom.  I still think you could do it, it would just be more work, and that’s really up to you how much effort you want to put into laundry each week.  If you have a fussy baby maybe one of you could stay home with baby while the other does the laundry at the landry mat?  Where there’s a will there’s a way and you can totally make it work just fine if you can’t/don’t move before baby comes.  Hope all my rambling was at least a little bit helpful πŸ™‚

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    So, it seems I missed the part about you being set on using cloth diapers when the time comes.  In that case, forget about a lot of what I said lol  I think in your case one of the smaller ones like PP have mentioned would be the best for you πŸ™‚  Even if you do the adult laundry at the laundry mat it would be nice to have the smaller one just for baby stuff.  My folks decided to up and live in an RV full time so they could travel in retirement and they have one of those small ones.  Their only complaints are that it won’t take more than two pair of jeans at a time and that the clothes don’t always get completely dry the first time through.  If you’re doing only baby stuff that shouldn’t be a big deal though

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ugh, I couldn’t imagine not having a washing machine with my 7 week old!!!  We do SO MUCH laundry now, it’s ridiculous!  For Darling Husband and I, we don’t mind rewearing clothes if they’re not dirty/stinky or if we’ve only worn them for a short while, but when it comes to Dear Daughter, we don’t put anything on her more than once without washing it in between.  Factoring in spitting up and the occasional explosive nappy and 95% of her outfits NEED to be cleaned after each wear!   

    There’s also an awful lot of laundry that comes with a baby full stop.  Onesies, outfits, sleeping outfits, towels (we use a minimum of two towels per bath), washclothes (a clean one every morning and night to wash her face), changing table mats, sheets, blankets, bibs, burp clothes, etc.  The list goes on and on.   

    We wash DD’s clothes separately from ours and we do a baby load every third day.  The amount of clothes we go through has also increased as Dear Daughter seems to have a talent for getting spit up all over us as well as her!

    The other thing to take into account is the time required to run to a laundromat to do your laundry.  Getting anything done with a baby is quite the challenge and there are many, many days where the laundry sits in the washer until Darling Husband gets home from work as I just don’t have the time to go get it out of the washer. 

    Of course you COULD get by without a washing machine in your home, but I think it would be incredibly stressful and difficult for the first few months.  

    Oh and FWIW, we don’t have a dryer as we live in a climate that is warm and relatively dry year round; if we lived in a more temperate climate, I would say a dryer was essential as well.  

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have a 2 year old and couldn’t imagine not having a washer (don’t have a dryer though). But then again, I would have to drive about half an hour to get to the next laundromat. They’re not very common here.

    Post # 27
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    9033 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Would it be a bit more work- of course but millions of women all over the world continue to this day survive without a washer/dryer and have babies and use cloth nappies or equivalent. And millions of women in the past also survived.

    Could it be a PITA in the modern western world- sure but then again most westerners would think life ended if they didn’t have a stove, mobile phone, computer, car etc etc but others in the world survive without them. Anything is doable you just have to decide to do it!

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t know if anyone else has suggested this already but since you have the plumbing for the dishwasher already, could you ask your landlord if it would be possible to ‘swap’ that for a washing machine?  Dishes are much easier to do when you’re half asleep than drag yourself a little one to the laundry, in my opinion!

    Post # 29
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Or are all American washers top-loading? (I feel silly now…*Scottish lass creeps off to hide in the corner*…)

    Post # 30
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Same as @Ree723:  I’m in Australia and have a washer but not a dryer, because there’s plenty of sun here. I’ve had 3 babies (now teenagers). I can’t imagine doing it without a washer, I’ll add it’s pretty hard having a child in a 2 b/r apartment once they reach walking age (about 12 months), though lots of people manage.

    Post # 31
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @j_jaye:  How did you manage to say what I was basically getting at in such a better way! xD

    @cornflowerblue:  You get both top loading and front loading in the US, and stacking too, but I’m not sure if that’s really a different category lol  We also don’t have the same plumbing setup for washers in the states that are common in the UK.  Swapping a washer in where a dishwasher currently sits would be a HUGE undertaking in the states.  Much harder than in the UK.  Think of it as being similar to trying to put a dishwasher in where a cooker currently sits lol  Yes, it really is that different in the states. 

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