When my daughter was a baby we didn’t have a washer or dryer in our home. We had a laundry mat right down the street though so it was an easy walk. I stuck the baby in the baby bjorn (are those even around still, they were great), put the sacks of laundry in the stroller and walked down to do laundry. 🙂 It wasn’t perfect, but it wasn’t a big deal either. The ONLY thing that was a hassle about it was when we had bad weather, but then I just loaded everything up in the car and drove a block. I always felt silly starting up the car to only go a block down the road though lol
I guess what I’m saying is, it’s nice to have a washer/dryer inside your own house and not have to deal with laundry mats, but it’s not a necessity. Honestly, doing laundry at a laundry mat wasn’t any harder with the little one than it had been before she’s born. I wouldn’t move house or delay TTC over it. Trust me, it’s really not that big of a deal, especially if you’re already using a laundry mat anyway 🙂
Wait, you’re not planning to use cloth diapers are you? If you are then forget everything I just said lol I used disposable, but it just occured to me what a nightmare it would be to bring nasty, stinky diapers to the laundry mat every week. Even if you rinsed them really well after use, cloth diapers are something you really need to wash right away and not leave sitting until laundry day. That would be a sticking point for me I think. So, if yes on cloth diapers then I say hand wash, laundry service just for the diapers (diaper only laundry services with special detergent requests are really common here), or get your own washer/dryer. If no cloth diapers I say don’t worry about it and stick to the laundry mat.
Whew! Another super long comment from me. When will I ever learn to shut up? lol
ETA: Just thought of a few more things. Sorry for hogging all the interwebs! 😛 So, babies in laundry mats… when the baby is small it’s no big deal. All the way up til my daughter was about a year old, I just made a point to go at naptime, but my daughter was a SUPER easy baby who could fall asleep anywhere and her stroller could lay down flat. So when she was little, she slept in the baby bjorn and when she was bigger I layed the stroller seat flat and let her sleep in there. I could finish all my laundry and be home before she woke up most times. However, when she got older it became a lot harder to plan to have her sleep in the stroller. Trying to go to the laundry mat while she was awake and walking around was ok, but I can see how that would be a concern if your laundry mat is pretty yucky (you mention not being happy with the level of upkeep). OTOH, if you have a “hard” baby, in that they need to be held more, aren’t as much of a sound sleeper, any number of problems really, then doing laundry could be a lot more challenging for you. You can’t really know with absolute certainty until you see what kind of personality your baby has and how stressful you find being a mom. I still think you could do it, it would just be more work, and that’s really up to you how much effort you want to put into laundry each week. If you have a fussy baby maybe one of you could stay home with baby while the other does the laundry at the landry mat? Where there’s a will there’s a way and you can totally make it work just fine if you can’t/don’t move before baby comes. Hope all my rambling was at least a little bit helpful 🙂