(Closed) Do you NEED bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

You certainly don’t need them…. It’s all about if you want them and that’s personal preference. I had a small Destination Wedding and only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and no bridesmaids and I wouldn’t have had it any other way! 

Post # 18
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Haruyou:  Umm.. of course you don’t NEED them. We are not having bridal parties. Fiance would probably like to because he has about 8 best friends and all of his friends have 8-10 groomsmen at their weddings but guess who is doing all of the planning? Yep, ME. And that is just extra work that I am not willing to put in when I don’t see any real need. Whoever wants to step up for us will step up.

Every time I see a thread about bridal party stress I do a little dance because I’m so happy I don’t have to deal with it. No shower/party planning stress, no shopping/ordering stress, no rehearsal dinner stress, no day-of or weekend-of micro managing stress, no buying gifts upon gifts to thank every little person, no buying extra flowers, none of it! 😀

 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

The greatest part about weddings is that you get to decide what traditions to use. It sounds like not having a bridal party would be a pretty good option for you, OP. I know that if I were marrying DBF tomorrow, that I would have no eligible people to select.

Personally, I would probably notice if there was a groomsman but no bridesmaids, but it wouldn’t be anything I’d dwell on all day.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

For my Catholic wedding a maid of honor and best man are needed as witnesses. So, we’re having two maids of honor and two best men. I have two friends I consider sisters and he wants his best friend up there but since he’s not Catholic he can’t be a witness. So my brother is the witness and by default a best man. 

 

We’re fine with this and it covers the people we love and want up there with us.

Post # 21
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4692 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think bridemaids are just a traditional way of including your friends?.. I will not be having them. My Fiance and I are firm in the fact that our wedding is about us, so why even bother with it?

Our witnesses will be our closest friends and will just stand up and sign for us when prompted.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You don’t need bridesmaids…if he wants someone fine…we aren’t having anyone with the exception of FH’s 17-year old son and even that hasn’t been completely decided…it has taken a ton of stress off of me!

Post # 23
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Busy bee

We’re not having a bridal party. It’s too… weddingy. lol. We’re trying to downplay all that and make it seem more like a regular party because I don’t like being the center of attention. 

Post # 24
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We aren’t having any. We want the focus on us and I can do without all the drama of dresses, hair, etc. I have enough with my own dress and hair! LOL

 

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Not at all. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You dont NEED to have bridesmaids.

 

Although i must say my Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid helped me tons on my wedding day — a.k.a. bride’s assistants! Yea, it’s their duty for that one day to do whatever i need them to do.. and they wont complain! — make sure i always look my best, call so and so coz i need something, get this and that coz i’m too occupied to get it myself, perform a dance with me as a surprise for my groom, etc. Lol. I just thought it would be fun to experience this with my girls.

 

But no, weddings can definitely do without bridesmaids Smile

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