(Closed) Do you need ushers?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mariewest:  Ushers are not mandatory. You can simply close off the pews you want reserved for close family, or place reserved cards on the end of the pew.

Your Mom can be escorted by whomever you choose. The Bridesmaid or Best Man, a close family member or friend etc.

The groomsmen, including the Bridesmaid or Best Man, don’t usually escort the bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor. The men usually come in with the groom and stand and watch the processional.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In the UK, a groom has a Best Man and Ushers – they don’t use the term groomsemen.  In Canada, we use the word groomsmen, but generally it is interchangeable with Ushers.  For example, I was one of my BIL’s groomsmen, and my role was Head Usher.

So, if you have five groomsmen, whether or not that includes the Bridesmaid or Best Man, I don’t think you need anyone else.  The Bridesmaid or Best Man should be occupied with the groom, but your fiance’s 4/5 groomsmen can act as ushers while people are being seated, and then take their places for the ceremony, whether that’s going to the back of the church to walk down the aisle, or returning to the sacristy.  That’s how a lot of people here do things, anyway.

You really only need ushers seating people if you are seating people according to protocol.  People (hopefully) know not to sit in the first pews, as these willl be reserved for the wedding party and immediate families of the couple.  And you can always just make up ornate signs that say ‘Reserved for the Mother and Father of the Bride’ and so on, or just plain ‘Reserved.’  Most churches don’t allow ribbons across the ends of the pews these days, as it violates the fire code, so you would probably need to do signs.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Good to know ushers aren’t mandatory, I completely forgot about them, and so I have none.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I hadn’t even thought to have any until my cousin offered… 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

In many weddings, the groomsmen usher.

 

As for the moms, they should be escprted in, but they can be escorted by their partners, by sons, by other family members, etc. if you don’t have ushers. If a Groomsmen does it, he can simply walk the mom up and head down a side aisle to return to the back.

 

But…In most weddings, the bridesmaids come in unattended and the men enter with the groom.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@mariewest:  we had 5 groomsmen – 2 of them were our witnesses (my brother and my husbands brother) and the other 3 stepped in to cover ushers duties – to be honest everything will run smoother if you delegate at least one of them to make sure everyone is seateda nd in the right seat, no one is mingling about and blocking access for other guests etc.  But thats just my view.  Fail to prepare, prepare to fail IMO.

I had a guy be an usher for each side, bride and groom, and then one to had out orders of service.  Before my arrival they walked down to stand with my husband before I entered

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We hadn’t thought of ushers until a salesman at Men’s Wearhouse suggested them.  Guessing they’re just trying to up the sale… we’re skipping them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Another Canadian here…

As stated by other Bee, our “Groomsmen” tend to be the Ushers… in that is WHAT they do.

I never have understood the US concept where Groomsmen & Ushers are two different things.  I mean if they aren’t the Usher what exactly is their role (just stand there?)

Bridesmaids have a role (other than just walk down the aisle… they are the Hostesses for Showers, Parties etc.  And helping the Bride get ready etc) so to me I naturally assume that the Guys should have a real job too.

Etiquette wise…

If one’s Wedding is Formal, Semi-Formal… or in any way Traditional (Church) having Ushers are nice… accompanying the women to their seats.

And at least for me, it would be weird if there wasn’t one (or someone) there to seat the MOST Honoured Guest, the Bride’s Mother, just before the Service starts (last seated).

Hope this helps,

 

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