(Closed) Do you need your SO?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you say that you need your SO in your life?
    Yes : (142 votes)
    62 %
    No : (86 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    1589 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Nah. I like him and obviously love him but I was content with the single life. I could keep busy if he wasn’t around.

    Post # 4
    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @winstonchurchill:  nope. I want him but don’t need him. I think it’s sad if you need another person for happiness – only setting you up for disappointment. You can’t truly live and be happy if you don’t love yourself and can’t make yourself happy first.

    Post # 5
    1145 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I need him in my life for sex. 

    I used to feel as if I needed him like that but then I emancipated myself from that mentality.

    Post # 6
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @winstonchurchill:  I say I need Fiance, but I would in no way say that I am with him because I need to, rather than I choose to be with him because I want to. I think that’s a bit of an unfair statement…

    I need him because I want to need him. I could of course survive without him, that’s silly to suggest otherwise, but I prefer to have him in my life and so I choose to keep him in my life.

    That is also not to say I don’t love, trust or appreciate myself either, because I most certainly do and I don’t need to be out of a relationship to realise that.

    Post # 7
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I like him… He keeps me company and is my best friend and all… But im emotionally and financially stable on my own… So no i dont NEED him…  This big fancy wedding would be pretty pointless without him though… Lol

    Post # 8
    9752 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I need him, I do rely on him for so much. He means the world to me.

    Post # 9
    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, I need him. I live for almost 40 years on my own, yes I can survive on my own, but survival isn’t always living. With him, and surprising to me, it was the completion in my life that was missing. If he passed tomorrow I would survive just fine, but there would always be a piece missing. 

    Post # 10
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I need him as him – whether it be as my future husband or as my oldest friend. We have known each other for so long now, he is just part of my life.

    But do I NEED a partner? no I don’t. 

    Post # 11
    1998 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I didn’t know how to vote so I didn’t. I don’t need him to survive, I’m a functional person on my own, it’s not like I can’t make it through the day without him. But having to make it through the day without him would suck! We’re way better together than apart so in that respect we do need each other. We’re just happier that way. 

    Post # 12
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @winstonchurchill:  Absolutely I do. I didn’t, not for a long time, and I don’t do soulmates either… but after almost five years together and being married, we definitely need each other now. 

    I think it’s self-damaging to get into a situation of needing someone when you’re not absolutely sure you can depend on them first. But once you establish that reliability and trustworthiness first, I see nothing amiss with merging lives to a degree that you are interdependent. 

    Post # 13
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I voted no, but I honestly wasn’t sure how to vote.  Do I need him to survive or be happy?  No, not really.  This is from the viewpoint of having gone through some very difficult things in high school and college.  I watched my father battle cancer, took care of him while he was on bedrest, and when I was 19, I sat in the hospital and watched him die from his cancer.  Going through that made me vote no, but like someone said above, needing for survival isn’t the same as needing to fully live your life.  I feel like Mr. S and I are completely perfect for each other and I love him so deeply and I’ve absolutely come to depend on him for certain things.  So while, if something horrible happened, I know I could be okay because I had to, I do need him on a different level.  My life would go on without him, but it is so wonderful with him that I really don’t want to find out how to move on without him.  It’s difficult to put into words, but I think that knowing I could live without him isn’t the same thing as not needing him in my life.  I absolutely needed my father in my life, but I’ve lived without him because I had to.  I think this is a more complex question than a simple yes or no can answer.

    Post # 14
    434 posts
    Helper bee

    This thread makes me happy :). I’ve been struggling with this for a while with my SO because I learned everything about relationships from a dysfunctional 5 year relationship that started at 13 . I NEEDED him, and I’m still somewhat convinced that I need those same feelings in order to love my SO fully, although that’s not rational. Because I don’t need him. I love him to pieces and love him in my life, but I’d be fine without him. Given that I thought I would die without my ex, I’ve been struggling to reconcile all these emotions. Glad to see that a lot of you bees are in the same boat 🙂

    Post # 15
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m expecting our first child–so I definitely need him! But not as much as she does!

    Post # 16
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @winstonchurchill:  I don’t need anyone. Life is better with him, I love him, and I want him. I could certainly go on alone though. We need food and water. We don’t need people. 

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