(Closed) Do you need your SO?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you say that you need your SO in your life?
    Yes : (142 votes)
    62 %
    No : (86 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 62
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    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i am with my dh because i want to be not need to be.

    that being said, i do love who i am when i am with him.

    Post # 63
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @worldtraveler:  I would find happiness if Fiance passed away, I would have the love of my family and friends, but no I would not date or be in a romantic relationship again.

    Post # 64
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    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Define NEED.  Do I NEED him to provide for me?  Nope, I own our house, I own both cars and I make more than him so I definately don’t need him that way.  I feel that I do NEED him, simply because I love him and can’t imagine my life without him.  If something were to happen to us and we had to part ways I’d be completely devestated but, as cold and horrible as this sounds, my life would go on.  I have moments where I rely on him emotionally to vent to, cry on his shoulder and talk me off occassional ledges, but I also have a family and friends who can/do/would do the same.

    My mother always taught me to never need someone more than they need you and to never need a man to make your life complete and I think I’ve done that and will continue to.  I like a sense of independence.

    Post # 65
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    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    This question is kind of tricky for me. Because, like, I love him and want to spend my entire life with him and being with him has made my life better and helped my emotional issues go down and for some people that means that I need him.

    But I don’t need him to live. if he died, I would let myself be sad and grieve and struggle emotionally, but ever since we’ve known eachother whenever I’m sad, he’d give me this advise: “Buck up.” It sounds mean just reading it, but in a way it’s comforting because by saying it it means he knows I am strong enough to get over all of my problems, no matter what they are, and to just continue to live. If something happened, I would buck up and keep going. He would want that for me. He would want me to find new love and have a family. Of course I wouldn’t stop loving him if he died, but it would not end my life in any sense. And if we decide to break up, we realize how important we are to eachother that we both have expressed out want for the other person to find a new love and new family, but we would try to remain friends if we have children together for their sake. If we break up without children, we would both move on and want the other to be happy and find a new love still.

    My want to be with him is intense and right now I could not imagine my life without him and he makes me want to be the best that I can be, but to say I absolutely need him for me to feel complete, happy, and worth something? I think that is going too far.

    Post # 66
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    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Fiance and I have always said from when we first started getting serious that we don’t NEED each other. Without each other, we wouldn’t die, and we would still be able to get through life. We arenot with each other because we need each other. We’re together because we choose each other. We enhance each other’s lives, and yes, have become an important part of our every day lives. If, God forbid, something happened and Fiance was no longer in my life, I believe I would still live. I’m not sure about the quality of life I would have, but I would still have a life. 

    Post # 67
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    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @tksjewelry:  +1 Exactly what I was thinking, but much better put than I would’ve wrote

    Post # 68
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    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @mallo:  I agree with this.  I am a very strong and independent woman, I have been through many things on my own and I could do anything on my own.  I don’t NEED him to survive, but I guess I need him in my life to be complete.  Sure if he was no longer there I wouldn’t die and crawl into a hole for the rest of my life, but I need him in a not so clingy way to be…as happy as I am now.

    I don’t know if that makes sense?

    Post # 69
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    2119 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I do need all that he provodes me with. He is my best friend and lover. I couldnt live as happy with him without him my life. I would usually say yeah ild be fine. But really is fine living to the fullest. He is the sun to my moon and all the bullsh*t 😉 

    Post # 70
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    8470 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No. I don’t believe you should ever feel that you need anybody. 

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