(Closed) Do you or your SO smoke weed?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you or your smoke weed (marijuana)? Choose all that apply.

    We both smoke weed less than once a week.

    We both smoke weed several times a week.

    We both smoke weed every day/nearly every day.

    I smoke weed less than once a week.

    I smoke weed several times a week.

    I smoke weed every day/nearly every day.

    I don't smoke weed.

    SO smokes weed less than once a week.

    SO smokes weed several times a week.

  • Post # 273
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @runningcali:  I realize that I am entitled to my opinion, as you are to yours. I respect that. What I don’t like is the passive-aggressive judgement coming from your quote, “I think it shows a lot about someone who’s willing to disregard a law like that.” What, exactly, does it show?

    I also fully realize that women’s rights and mind-altering substances are VERY different. You missed the point I was trying to make. I was referring to your judgement about those who disregard laws, and pointing out that if a law is considered by many to be unjust, they have disregarded it in the past, and sometimes it turns out for the better.

    There are limits on alcohol, but it’s not illegal, and there’s basically NO limits to smoking tobacco, except perhaps where you are allowed to smoke it, but that’s legal too. They’re all different forms of substances that “alter thought processes,” yet it doesn’t seem that you take the same issue with them. Regardless, you can dislike pot all you want. Just don’t make comments that lead me to believe that you think you’re better than those who are “law breaking pot smokers.”

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @SoccerBee86: 

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    @ezasabc123:  You can dislike and read my opinion however you like.

    What does it show? I would not choose to associate with someone who I *knew* was breaking a law like that, because I would honestly wonder what other laws they were breaking. My choice. I’m not really sure how choosing not to associate with people who have no issue breaking a law is considered judgemental – it’ll keep me out of jail.

    In reference to your question about alcohol –  I don’t drink. I’ve watched the behavior it induces in family and friends, and have zero desire to have that kind of influence in my life.

    I agree- sometimes the breaking of laws is necessary (i.e. those who broke law under Hitler) However, I can’t see how breaking a law and getting ahold of a controlled substance has the ability to turn things “for the better”.

     

    Post # 275
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I did for several years in my HS/college days…  havent in a long time.   Fiance never has.  His job involved security clearance & mine random drug checks.   Unless it gets legalized, it’s not worth it anymore.  Having a sucessful adult life is more important.

    Post # 276
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @runningcali:  I never said that choosing not to associate with someone who smokes weed was “judgmental,” although I doubt if you were ever associated with a pot smoker, you would go to jail. A dealer, perhaps another story, but just a smoker, doubtful. I was questioning and taking offense to your automatic judgement that A) pot smokers are just horrible law breakers, and MUST be breaking other laws since they broke this one (for the record, I’ve also jaywalked, and drank underage…better lock me up!!) and/or B) that you basically implied you are “above” or better than us because we blatantly disregard a law that frankly, most police officers don’t even pay attention to much unless you’re a dealer or carrying paraphernalia or enough to be considered “intent to sell.” You came on a post that was asking a simple question, and even the OP said they didn’t care/judge either way, and said something that I think a lot of pot smokers would be offended by, especially since most of them HAVEN’T been out breaking laws left and right. I guess my point is that there are a hell of a lot of other law breakers I would be worried about, not some stoners in their basement. And whether you intended to come off as smug or not, you did, and frankly, because you chose not to drink or smoke and I did, doesn’t make either of us better than the other. You can have the opinion that it does, and that’s fine, but I’m sorry, that makes you judgmental. Only one entity has the right to judge, and just because you live your life one way, doesn’t mean it’s for all of us, and doesn’t make you better than anyone else.

    Post # 277
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I used to smoke on a regular basis, and FH has only tried it a few times. I stopped about three years ago because I went into a medical program and they drug test. I won’t say that I haven’t smoked any since then, but it’s very rare these days. I see nothing wrong with responsible people enjoying recreational marijuana.

    Post # 278
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @SoccerBee86:  I’m not sure where in that post you read that I’m better than a smoker. You might show me. I have my own bad habits, and I’m sure one or two of those you would deem as negative.

    BUT

    The difference between you and I is that I don’t care- if I’m doing something you don’t like, and you don’t want to associate with me- I’m not bothered. That’s your prerogative.

    You choose what offends you. If you are offended by my (perfectly reasonable) curiosity that if one is alright with breaking x law, then what other laws are they okay with breaking, then…go right ahead. I can’t help ya.

     

    Post # 279
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Neither.

    Post # 280
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I legitimately wish I liked weed. I’ve smoked it less than a dozen times and never had a good reaction from it. It helps me sleep…but I also get lazy, feel frozen like my mind wants to move but my body won’t, paranoid…never the happy, giggly, that 70’s show type of high lol

    I also overdid it once and threw up for hours. After that I decided that it really just wasn’t for me at ALL.

    Post # 281
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    Sugar bee

    @hidingmyface:  I smoke. SO doesnt. He use to before he met me and he has a handful of times over the past 2 and a half years, but its not really for him. He doesnt mind if I use it, so it works for us. I’m not a mother so the kids aspect doesnt really affect me. People can say what they want, i know im a responsible, young working professional. I have my own place, car, job and put myself through college. All while being a pot smoker. Also in CA its practically legal, you can get your med card so easy and even if you dont have one, its only a citation ticket for possession.

     

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    @AmyFarrahFowler:  

     

    Thank you for your input on this. I probably would not have commented if you hadn’t stuck up for the other side a little :).

     

    Post # 282
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    We both used to (before we knew each other) and neither of us do now.
    We are both pro-legalization. 

     

    Reminds me of this:

    Post # 283
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    Sugar bee

    @hidingmyface:  It’s crazy to me how many people smoke weed and think that’s totally fine.

    I have never smoked weed and I do not plan on it.  But I don’t understand your comment.  Especially in states where it’s legal, why isn’t it “totally fine”?

    Post # 283
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t know how I came across this but lol nope never have never will.

    Post # 283
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    My last partner (of 7 1/2 years) smoked every day. I was initially quite relaxed about it but it caused him (and us, as a result) big problems in the end with paranoia, lack of motivation etc.  I found myself smoking too, just to be with him.  I am so much happier now – my new partner is much more health conscious. I think it depends on the personality of the user as to whether it’s a ok idea or not.

     

    Post # 284
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    Honey bee

    Never smoked it (neither has DH) and never will. We have no desire to use drugs of any kind on a regular basis (with the exception of prescription drugs when needed). We rarely drink alcohol either (maybe 1-2 drinks every few months). 

    I honestly don’t care what a grown adult chooses to do, but what does bother me is when they do it around their children or allow a minor to use drugs. What they fail to realize is that marijuana has significant negative effects on an adolescent brain. Do what you want to your body (good or bad) when you are an adult, but don’t mess up a child’s body. 

    Post # 285
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I smoke a few times a week at most, but sometimes just once. I’ve gone months without smoking, but sometimes I’m just in the mood. Dh smokes less than me, but he still smokes. He’s not a “pothead ” (neither of us are) & it doesn’t affect us in a negative way so I see nothing wrong with it. 

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