Do you pay attention to what photos your man 'likes' on Instagram?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you bothered if your man 'likes' other girls photos on Instagram?
    Yes : (30 votes)
    23 %
    No : (99 votes)
    77 %
  • Post # 16
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    3931 posts
    Honey bee

    OP, if you really think “liking” a photo on social media means that he is trying to get their attention or is trying to flirt, then I think you have some deeper issues going on in your relationship.  

     

     

    Post # 17
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    1240 posts
    Bumble bee

    he doesn’t have an instagram, so to be fair i can only make an educated guess here…but no. i don’t really care. now if he’s leaving creepy comments or something, that would obviously be a problem. but clicking the little heart button? heart it up, man. 

    Post # 18
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    1591 posts
    Bumble bee

    As someone who has been pursued by a fair share of dudes with girlfriends, and dudes who are single, I can confirm that the dudes with girlfriends never like any of my statuses on social media, while the single ones do. So, no, if your dude is trying to mack on another girl instagram is probably not your first clue. 

    Post # 19
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    769 posts
    Busy bee

     

    Tell him to get a job (or get another job!) He has way too much time on his hands to be looking for, and liking garbage on Instagram. That’s a teeney-bopper site in my opinion for the most part. If he has time to do something so pointless, he can go volunteer in the neighborhood too for FREE.

    Post # 20
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    1023 posts
    Bumble bee

    You sound like an insecure person looking for reasons to be insecure. Policing his online behavior won’t bring you peace or happiness. Plus it will make you sound crazy.

    Suggest you spend less time creeping what he does online,  and do something for you that brings you happiness. Yoga, meditate, colour, read a book. I bet you will feel better the less you cyber-creep him.

    Post # 21
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    5013 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My take personally? I’m in the who has that kind of time crowd.  If you have time to virtually stalk what your boyfriend likes on Instagram, you have too much free time and can spare some of that to do some good in the world.  Get a second job.  Find a hobby.  Go to school.  Foster an animal.  Volunteer somewhere. 

    If the issue is you can’t trust that specific individual, then I ask why are you with someone you can’t trust in the first place?  If you can’t trust them, you shouldn’t be with them.

    And if the issue is you can’t seem to stop acting this way with any guy, then that is probably some deep-seated self-esteem and trust issues that should be worked on before being in any relationship with anyone.

    So no, I wouldn’t be bothered.  My SO is an autonomous human being who didn’t stop liking other things and people when he started “liking” me and I trust him completely.

    Post # 22
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    5938 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My man doesn’t do social media. And if he checked my Insta he’d see me liking DOGS. LOL! I feel very lucky!

    Post # 23
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    1069 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - -

    I think this varies from person-to-person. My fiancé isn’t really an IG’er, but I sort of am and absolutely don’t use it to lurk on hot guys. I use it for cute animals, art, food, and fashion. I did look at whom he follows, which didn’t show anything that crosses my line. He is quite aware of who likes my images, so I would have to say we’re of the same mentality when it comes to social media. 

    If he was a flirty guy, liking all the tropical-skinnydipping-vacation pictures, yeah, that’s not appreciated. I’m cool with porn, those aren’t “real people” in “real life.” But there is something uncomfortable about instagram-scoping.

    Post # 24
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    Neither of us are on social media but it wouldn’t bother me at all if he liked a photo of someone that we mutually knew

    Post # 25
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    651 posts
    Busy bee

    My SO has had pretty coworkers, aquaintences… but no… he is too busy being a grown man to be on social media of all forms. Or hello he is in a relationship. He never did it single either but just saying.

    I would take offense to someone I am dating planting likes & comments on every.single.photo. of other women [in a bikini or flirty photo]. I would feel like he just got lucky that I “took the bait” out of a billion. Plus it is creepy and kinda lame. 

    Anyways… If you aren’t exclusive… then I guess you have to get over it but I still stand at how its not cool and how impersonal things are.

    If you are exclusive… he needs to grow up. 

    And ladies… stop making it sound like its ok…. or attractive… that your SO creeps on “big booty models”. Whether they want him or not… It is not a cute hobby.

    Post # 26
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    3931 posts
    Honey bee

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    ButternutPoppy :  my SO knows that when I’m staring at my phone, I’m stalking all of my IG French Bulldogs.  He just laughs at me.  

    Post # 27
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    711 posts
    Busy bee

    I look at what he “likes” on instagram occasionally but I usually make fun of him for it! To me, that’s harmless… 

    Post # 28
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    queenie8119 :  Based on that logic you should probably get a job, or go volunteer since you have time to post on this website.

    Post # 29
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    852 posts
    Busy bee

    My D H doesn’t have Instagram but if he was liking a large amount of women’s pictures especially of them in bikinis yes it would bother me. Not because I think he’s going to go cheat on me with them but because I think it’s disrespectful to our relationship. If it’s just here and there whatever but if it’s obvious he’s stalking bikini photos not cool.

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I have to agree with 

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    secretlifeofbees to an extent. If it really bothers you and you have not gently spoken up to him about how it makes you feel, maybe it’s worth a conversation if it will help keep you from growing resentful/letting it build up. I would not be okay with fiancé liking promiscuous photos of other women, but he knows that. You can’t keep someone from looking at photos but telling him that it hurts you to see him engage with those kinds of photos may be helpful in creating a mature, open-communication relationship. 

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