Do you pay attention to what photos your man 'likes' on Instagram?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you bothered if your man 'likes' other girls photos on Instagram?

    Yes

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  • Post # 61
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I had to google how to see what posts someone has liked on instagram…

    Post # 62
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I don’t have to worry about this at all. My fiance is the one who is careful what he likes as he doesn’t want to send the wrong message. He won’t like acquaintances bikini photos or selfies etc.

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    It would probably bother me to know… but I trust him so I don’t look. If you trust him, just put the phone down and step awayyyyy slowly. 

    Post # 64
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    Bumble bee

    I’m just going to say it, but maybe men should just be “smarter”, lol. There’s a thing call “keep scrolling”. You can see hot chicks’ pictures, and then you can kind of keep scrolling. There are females who are insecure about these things and it’d just be less of a headache to just keep scrolling. We all know they appreciate beauty as we all do, but doesn’t mean we want to see it paster all over the social media from our partner. 

    I know my partner watches porn and as most men do, but that does not mean I want to get a notice or some sort of reminder on the page of what he has watched. Keep it on the DL. I know it’s not the same comparison, but I’d rather my partner know how to use social media without disrespecting me by liking every females’ pictures. We have never had an issue with this because he doesn’t do much with his account.  He’s not into social networking sites. But if he was, he’s a smart boy and would be careful not to like other females’ sexy pictures. He’s also has never given me reasons to be jealous and always informed me when any of his exes make any contact. I don’t even ask about his activities and consider myself a pretty easy going partner. He’s just dated a lot of crazy females in the past so he’s super careful about a lot of stuff. 

    Post # 65
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    Helper bee

    I guess it depends. Personally i don’t care since he’s human. If he sees a picture he likes, he’s allowed to like it, no matter the subject. What’s the difference in liking a picture and just looking? Even if he didn’t like it, he’s looking. If it’s on his feed, then its easy to scroll and hit that little heart. 

     

    If he has a bad habit of initiating conversation with women on social media and maybe even cheat, it would be a different story. Then again, i wouldn’t be dating him at that point so I guess i wouldn’t care then either.

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee

    I’m so surprised how many people 1. Wouldn’t care and 2. Don’t even know how to do this. This is a very standard feature that IG has had for 6 years.  Also at 4 months in i think you should pay attention to every piece of information about this man that you can collect.

    I’m not super young and i feel like this is a big deal. My Fiance doesn’t use social media but in the past when’s this has been an issue with either a man i was dating or with my friends mans – our instincts were right. Usually he was trying to get their attention. He was keeping his options open. One of my friends bf started liking a bunch of pictures of a new coworker that he was also going out with to happy hours and sending private messages on fb to.  With my past he was talking to these women.  

    I feel like your gut is telling you something and people who don’t know a lot about social media are trying to talk you out of it. 

    I hope I’m wrong here. I’m talking about a few instances from my past. But i definitely do not think you’re crazy. But i hope by the time a man becomes your husband this is a non issue. 

    Post # 67
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    Helper bee

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    mishastarlene :  I still think that if you spend your time monitoring your boyfriend’s instagram likes you either need
    a) a hobby
    b) professional help to deal with your insecurities
    c) a new boyfriend because you clearly can’t trust this one

    A lot of people doing it doesn’t make it any better.

    Post # 68
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    DH barely uses Instagram but I would definitely notice if he befriended a bunch of young, hot women on Facebook and started liking their pictures. And we’d probably have words about it. I know I’m insecure and a bit nuts which is why I’m with a man who isn’t into that stuff.

    Post # 69
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    queenie8119 :  the point that completely escaped you (and several PP) is he isn’t looking for random women. OP said he’s liking pictures of women they’re friends with. He is also liking group pics, regular pics AND bikini pics (which sounds to me like a picture friends took at the beach). Finally, she said it was a handful of photos over the course of a week. He’s not spending hours looking up women on the daily.

    Your point didn’t escape me. It just didn’t make sense in this context. 

    Post # 70
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    Sugar bee

    First of all, I didn’t even know you could see what posts other people like on IG! That’s news to me. 

    Second, my husband doensn’t have IG or any social media, so it makes things a lot easier. But if he did have one, I don’t think it would bother me. I like every single one of Orlando Bloom’s pics because he’s my second husband so it’s whatev. 

    Post # 71
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Well, I have never thought to even monitor, and frankly I don’t think it’s really any of my business. However, if I knew that my Fiance was constantly liking bikini-clad women on instagram, I would probably raise an eyebrow or two.

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    surftown89 :  hmm it certainly sounds like there is some insecurity going on here but i had a bf who watched p*rn and liked innaproriate images of a**girls and stuff on IG. we broke up eventually for many reasons, but that was def one of them. My current bf is an angel so Im really lucky and he doesnt have IG lol 

    Post # 73
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    sdxz554 :  LMAO TEAR FACE TEAR FACE 

    Post # 74
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    That’s a teeney-bopper site in my opinion for the most part.”

    Really? To me, it seems like a site for older people and to advertise businesses. I have all of 3 posts on there, so I don’t really know, however. My wedding photographer just asked for my instagram so he can tag me.

    Post # 75
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    My SO barely uses IG and I don’t have time to monitor his activity. However, I will say that one of my good friends was dating a guy who used to like TONS of pictures of girls’ butts on IG (in thongs/bikinis). I noticed it quite a few times on my own and always found it creepy/weird. She said it was super embarassing for her, especially since he was doing it so often people were noticing it as a pattern. It would have bothered me, too, if I were her.

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