Post # 1
Sorry, I’m obvs not very religious so I’m not sure what the correct term is for this.
But do you plan on it? [or perhaps your version of it in your religion? please share!]
My husband and I are not. We want to teach our children about all different religions and let them decide for themselves if they want to practice a religion or not at all!
However…..I feel like my Mother-In-Law might have an issue with that. Even though she’s barely a Easter/Christmas church goer anymore….don’t ask me why. I love her but she’s hell bent on certain subjects. It’s sure to be an uncomfortable conversation with her as I’m pretty sure she already thinks that we are going to. But I’m really not sure why she would think that since we are pretty open about the fact that we do not believe in the Catholic/Christian religion.
Anyway, are you? Why or why not?
Post # 3
We did, even though I don’t really identify with any particular religion, and Darling Husband is an atheist! It was more for my family, and my grandmother especially. Neither of us regret it, it was a beautiful day and it ended up being so nice.
Post # 4
@KatyElle: I have a sneaking suspicion we will be in the same boat. Even though we don’t believe I feel like it would ruffle too many feathers that aren’t worth ruffling if we don’t. Not really a great reason to baptize a baby but whatever.
Post # 5
@daybyday: We were more willing to be flexible because we eloped. So neither of our families were present. By having a christening we were able to gather everyone together and celebrate a new baby in the family. It was totally fine, I think the entire ceremony took about 20 minutes, then my parents threw a big party after. It wasn’t weird or ultra solemn, our daughter was baby giggling the whole time and the priest gave a nice little speech about welcoming her into the family and protecting her as she grows up. But in my case, I knew my grandmother had wished she could have seen us be married, so I am forever thankful we were able to have that day with her before she passed.
Post # 6
We will be dedicating this lo and DS at the same time…. I want to dedicate DS with Darling Husband since Darling Husband is now his father that will be raising him.
It’s not for the child as much a dedication to raise them according to God’s word. So it’s more about us making a public commitment as opposed to the child being brought in as part of “God’s family”
Post # 7
It’s not for the child as much a dedication to raise them according to God’s word.
That is exactly why we are so uncomfortable with baptizing our baby. We know we will not because that is not how we live and how we are. So I will feel like the whole thing is a farce.
We watched our nieces get baptized and their parents promised to raised them according to God’s word. I can guarantee you they do not.
To us if we do not believe in god why would we promise in front of a priest/minister and god that we will raise our child that way when we have NO intention to in any way shape or form. To us personally, we just feel it’s wrong.
Post # 8
@regberadaisy: I totally agree with that… and you would think that others would respect that. To me that’s called integrity.
Darling Husband and I are both Christian and would raise lo like that and do live by that… I would just try and talk it through with the family that you feel it may be any issue with and see if they can see your point.
Post # 9
We will not be baptizing our children because we’re atheists. However, I do anticipate taking our future kids to church on Easter and Christmas Eve with my in-laws because we go with them now and I think it’s a nice family tradition.
Post # 10
We are definitley planning to baptize! We are both practicing Catholics and would never dream of skipping it. I’m excited because DH’s family has a beautiful 100+year old baptismal gown we get to use 🙂
Post # 11
@regberadaisy: If you’re not comfortable with a baptism, don’t have one. It’s your family and you call the shots. Personally it wasn’t a big issue for us, but if it’s beyond your comfort zone, don’t do it!
Post # 12
My husband and I were raised Catholic but definitely haven’t practiced that in years. I am Church of England now, but as we are living n the US we were married in an Episcopal church. I am still toying with whether to baptise the baby in an Episcopal church or a Catholic church. We might end up doing the Catholic thing because it willl allow us so many more options for school. I know that is a really cynical way to look at things, but I can’t help it.
Post # 13
We’re not. Neither of us are Baptized, so it just doesn’t makes sense for us to Baptize our daughter. However, my Granddad is not happy about this and takes every chance to corner me about it.
Post # 14
we will be dedicating our baby. he or she is not baptized, but blessed and dedicated to God as an infant (in front of the church body).
he or she will be able to get baptized when he or she is old enough to make the decision to do it.
Post # 15
We will most certainly not be baptizing this one. I’m Agnostic, Darling Husband is an Atheist. We are both baptized (me as Baptist, Darling Husband as Catholic), but neither of us subscribe to those religions any longer.
We have the exact same philosophy as you, we are going to raise them to learn about a lot of different religions and leave them free to choose as they see fit. That’s how I was raised, that’s how my kids will be raised.
Post # 16
Darling Husband and I disagree on this even though neither of us are believers (I’m atheist and he’s agnostic). He feels that our future children should be baptized so that they have the “option” but I am a firm believer in not doing so. Our children will not be brought up participating in any organized religion so I guess I don’t really see the point in getting them baptized. The last baptism that I attended, the parents (both god and biological) had to vow to raise the child in the church and follow the ideals of their particular religion. If I get up there and agree to do these things, it would be a complete lie since neither the church or the religious ideals are going to happen.
I have absolutely no issue with our future children believing whatever they want to believe when they are old enough to formulate their own opinion but until then, I would prefer they remain “untouched” by religion. Besides, there’s nothing stopping them from getting baptized later in life. Atleast then they’ll fully understand what it means and be able to make the decision for themselves.