(Closed) Do you plan while you wait?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
269 posts
Helper bee

My boyfriend knows I’m getting quotes from people and looking at venues, but we’re not putting money down on anything until he’s formally asked. Partly because we have loads of time – we’re not getting married until 2019. 

I do think it’s a little strange that he’s given you a date of this summer but hasn’t formally proposed – is there a reason for this? Regardless, you’re not waiting any more – you’re engaged and are getting married! Congrats! I’d definitely start planning with such a short time frame – ring be damned! 

Post # 3
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I personally didn’t, but looking back I think it would have been a good idea to maybe create some vision boards and get a general feel of budget expectations and stuff like that. Would have made the whole engagement process a little smoother 🙂

Post # 4
1171 posts
Bumble bee

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amberandoakes :  

I didn’t really have a waiting period.

However, I wouldn’t have unless he asked me if I was waiting.

Post # 5
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I didn’t publicly plan anything before I was engaged, meaning we didn’t book anything and I didn’t post anything on social media. I did have a private Pinterest board where I could start saving ideas, and I had a date and theme in mind. We discussed getting engaged and married, so I knew the general time frame. We had also thrown out the idea of getting married on our 5 year anniversary so I knew the date and season to plan for. But, I didn’t want to be crazy and plan anything officially without a ring.

That being said, the time frame you have is super short! I would wait to plan officially until you are engaged, but maybe you need to have a discussion with him about how long it takes to actually plan a wedding so he knows what time frame he needs to propose in for that wedding date. He may assume he can propose in Feb/March and you can plan a wedding by June, which really doesn’t seem too practical!

Post # 6
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Inn On Broadway

I’m in the same boat!!! My bf will be looking at rings next month so we plan to get engaged by March or April but we have plan to get married October 2018 so I’m going to at least start my Pinterest board. We also have a venue in mind already so this summer I will call the venue and possible reserve the date for next October. 

Post # 7
18 posts

I used too. But I have been waiting for SO LONG that the things I wanted are not available or out of date hahaha. So I stoppped. And now I just want to elope.


(in waiting for TEN years, together for 13)

Post # 8
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Hmm, I have planned basically everything I want in terms of colours, theme, schedule, even the florist and photgrapher I would like to use, but I have not booked anything or researched/picked a venue. My SO and I have talked about a Fall 2017 wedding but I don’t know if it is going to happen or not, it will depend when he proposes and how quickly everything comes together.

This summer is even closer though, and the fact that he said you can reserve a date and venue makes me wonder what 

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thatweddinggirl is wondering…is there a reason he hasn’t formally proposed? Maybe do all the research now but wait to book anything until he proposes since it must be happening any day now?

Post # 9
1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I have a private pinterest board but don’t even seek quotes because prices may change. It gets my hopes up too much. He was going to take me to a wedding fayre yesterday but I don’t see the point without the engagement.

Post # 10
1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I also had private pinterest boards where I was looking at color schemes and concepts for the wedding. We didn’t start really planning until he asked, though. And even then, it took about two months for us to pick a date and venue and kick off planning. I would feel strange planning if he hadn’t officially proposed.

Post # 11
10 posts

I was waiting for a while and am glad I created a vision board to get the creativity going. You’ll find once your engaged and planning various aspects of your wedding that your mind may change. However, its always good to start somewhere… maybe establish colors, special reception ideas, bridal party, theme and like your already doing possible venue options.

Post # 12
2236 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve pinned some things to a private wedding board here and there since we started talking timeline, but there’s no rush for us yet since we will have a 15+ month engagement. The closer we get to our engagement timeline, the more I pin, but I really don’t want to start actually planning until it’s a real thing. I also don’t want to start planning until we discuss budget and that will obviously be waiting until we are engaged. 

Post # 13
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’ve started making private Pinterest boards with different ideas on dresses, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, locations, venues, decor, etc. Our timeline is to get engaged by the end of this year and have a year to plan the wedding, so I have a good bit of time, however I figured it wouldn’t be too bad of an idea to get the little details sorted out beforehand. I’m busy and will be busy while also trying to plan a wedding, so I don’t want to get stuck on things like deciding colors and Bridesmaid or Best Man dress materials. Making any decision I can simpler ahead of time doesn’t sound like a bad idea to me.

Post # 14
2864 posts
Sugar bee

Hell no. He wants me to plan, he better propose. It ain’t real till it’s real.

Post # 15
3140 posts
Sugar bee

I do some very light planning, so that once we’re ready to set a date, we have an outline to start with. Basically, I have a folder of possible venues (for local as well as destination options), articles I’ve bookmarked about wedding planning timelines, picking a good photographer, etc.  Some pinterest boards of stuff that inspires me.  A list of things I loved and that I hated from weddings I’ve attended.

I’m not doing any actual real planning – like, I’m not calling venues or caterers or anything like that, yet.  

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