(Closed) Do you prefer people who are blunt or placating?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

I’m the same way, and I know it’s not always fun to be the voice of fucking reason. I like blunt people. You know where they stand. That is very cool. The people that scare me are the ones who are nice to everyone, and talk about them as soon as they’re gone. I know my husband appreciates my bluntness, my work, not so much :). I wish I could be more placid and professional, but I’m just not that way. I don’t know how to be. 

as far as people being offended, that’s their business. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’d rather someone speak the truth and I return the same favour. That said, I think there’s a fine line between speaking the truth and being plain rude. I think it’s important to be conscious of how I deliver that said truth, and not just blab out whatever comes to my mind. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

Blunt. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

When someone asks me for my opinion, I look at them carefully and decide if they want me to tell the truth, or they want me to lie. 

If they want the truth and it is a bitter pill, I say it in the nicest possible way. Most tactful, gently, but truthful. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have no poker face whatsoever so bluntness is kind of forced upon me.

But I do think there’s something to speaking with compassion and kindness. You don’t have to lie but you also don’t have to state something in an unnecessarily harsh manner and just shrug off the other person’s feelings because you tell it how it is.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

One more bunt here. Unfortunately on the harsher side. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

As someone who is blunt, usually, I will say blunt.  I don’t coddle or play games.  HOWEVER…

I think there are some people who think blunt means they don’t require tact or that the two are mutually exclusive.  There are some who pull the “I’m just blunt and tell it like it is so you can’t really blame me cause that’s just how I am” when what they really mean is “I’m an @sshole.”  Being blunt doesn’t mean every thought in your head HAS to be said.  Sometimes it’s ok to just bottle that noise up and shut your piehole.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

Blunt. We waste so much time dancing around passive aggressive messages. Time is money and emotions require time. I have no time for BS and I don’t have time to tell people what they want to hear. Don’t ask if you expect to be placated or reassured! It’s a waste of my time and yours.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Straight and to the point please!!! 

I don’t take passive aggressive BS well either. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

lolol. Obviously I dont like beating around the bush. I was thinking about this recently. I was asking my friend for an opinion and she would NOT tell me what she thought. I actually got really frustrated hearing ‘well what do YOU think? It looks good both ways’ ugh. I will tell people what I think. I also have a pretty colourful vocabulary, but most of my friends are used to it XD

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I just re-read the title of this thread, and answering accurately this time, I prefer someone who is blunt, because if I don’t want bluntness, I won’t ask their opinion. 

I am irked if someone is blunt and tells me what they think of me or something about me, if I don’t ask. 

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