Post # 1
I’ve been thinking about adding stuff to our registry because I think it’s running low on stuff, but I love the surprise of off-registry gifts so I’m reluctant to add options to the registry.
I know some brides hate off-registry gifts. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think you will end up with things you don’t like that you can’t easily exchange instead of registry gifts (which you should theoretically love since you picked them out).
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
I love my family, but they do not know my taste, which is radically different then theirs. I would welcome off-reg gifts from my close friends, but they would be more inclined to do that anyway, I guess.
In either case, I would hope for a gift receipt!
Post # 5
I’m so picky that I would rather guests stick to the registry list! However, if it is just really close family members that know me very well, then I can trust them and I would appreciate the surprise! So I guess it depends on how well they know me.
Post # 6
I got some awesome off registry gifts, and some absolutely terrible ones. The best ones were a couple of casserole dishes, a sign that says “The Peppers – established July 7, 2012” (insert our last name there), and a couple of restaurant gift cards.
Post # 7
Depends on the taste of the person giving it… I don’t want someone else’s idea of a lovely house decoration or weird crafty thing. I’d feel bad after because anytime that person came to my house they’d probably expect to see it but if it was something I hate I’d probably want to get rid of it.
Post # 8
I can see it going both ways. At my shower I got all registry items and one off-registry adorable cake plate. I guess I almost feel like I already “have” the registry stuff since I picked it out (seriously, sometimes I find myself looking for something we don’t own yet!) and it’s so refreshing to get something different.
That said, I don’t want any crocheted home sweet home signs or anything like that!
Post # 9
I say it’s nice to get stuff you registered for but I also really enjoyed receiving a movie date night kit with popcorn/candies/soda from my cousin. Also loved getting an icecream date kit too. Those things were constructed with some things I had on the registry but I wasn’t expecting them to be put together like that. It was pretty darn special. AND, Future Mother-In-Law + Future Father-In-Law bought us additional knives/cutting board/knife sharpener which was a darn good off registry surprise. Loved it!
Post # 10
The stuff we’ve gotten off registry has been stunning – beautiful toasting glasses, and an hand made quilt. I love off registry! But my biggest preference would be cold, hard cash since we are broke as a joke right now.
Post # 11
I say stick to the registry unless you know the person’s taste.
For my bridal shower my close friends got me things they knew I’d love for myself (not generic house stuff off the registry). One got me a new coach wallet and a personalized hanger for my dress. Another got me a monogrammed bag, new tervis coffee tumbler w/ my new monogram, and gift cards to the coffee shop and nail salon.
At my ILs shower, his aunt gave us a beautiful serving tray. Unfortunately, while beautiful, it doesn’t in any way match the decor of our home or other pieces.
Post # 12
I got some totally weird stuff that wasn’t my taste at all when people went off-registry. I’d much rather they just gave me cash at that point. Not to be rude, but the weird stuff will end up in a garaga sale or at goodwill within the next year or so. I had one off-registry gift that was fine – an older lady from church got me some pretty crystal things for the dining room. I mean, I’m not going to use it for much, but I appreciated it and display it. But that was 1 out of like 7. Not great odds! haha.
Post # 13
Registry just makes everything so easy, especially as the buyer. Wen I have a wedding to attend to, it’s nice to know there is a list of all the itmes someone truly wants or needs, so there is no way of buying something they are not going to use. It’s really helpful too for the new couple, thsi way you get everything you need to start out your new lives together, registries are so helpful, love em!!
Post # 14
To me, there’s just no personalization or surprise in registry gifts. You already know what you’re getting and years down the road are you going to think “Oh, that KEURIG coffee maker was given to me by Aunt Flo” Probaby not.
Post # 15
@happyface: Better than the really weird water system thingy that is supposed to go in my front yard. 😉 haha. But I get what you’re saying.
Post # 16
@AmeliaBedelia: Ha HA, do you have a picture?