Do you pretend your moissanite is a diamond?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lily-Grace202:  I dont have a moissy, but the behaviour of your friend seems kind of odd. If I were her Darling Husband I would be rather offended. It seems kind of hurtful towards what he did spend, and dishonest… 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I have a diamond, I also don’t have any problems with moissies UNLESS someone is trying to pretend they’re diamonds. They’re NOT, just embrace what they are!

Post # 6
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1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lily-Grace202:  Fair enough if she wanted a big ring and her SO could not afford it but it just strikes me as odd that she would lord the size of it while lying about it being a diamond. She might actually make people who were in her situation (Wanting a big ring, not being able to afford it) feel bad about the size of their ring/budget. 
Yikes.  

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a diamond, so just weighing in on the hypothetical there.  Why would you lie about a moissy?  I don’t get it.  It’s not like it’s a lesser store – it’s a different stone.  I think it’s pretty ridiculous that people actually try to lie to pass of their engagement rings as something other than what they are. 

If he couldn’t afford the diamond she wanted, and agreed to a moissy, she should proudly be saying it’s a moissy, and explaining to people what it is – a different stone.  No one thinks less of a sapphire or pearl engagement ring – why would people think less of a moissy? 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lily-Grace202:  I agree – hiding what it is makes it looks like you’re ashamed of it.  It’s a beautiful stone in its own right, and doesn’t need to be hidden!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I can understand not explaining the whole moissanite thing everytime someone compliments your ring, but this is just weird.  There’s some strange cognitive dissonance between “The more money he spends on you, the more he loves you” attitude and the real price of the ring.

ETA: I forgot to mention that her attitude would be obnoxious even if she had a diamond.  Constant bragging is an ugly color on everyone.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

@abbie017:  I totally agree on this! 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Eh, I’m mostly neutral on this. I don’t have a moissanite and neither does anyone I know (to my knowledge, at least) but if I found out someone I knew had a moissanite that they were passing off as a diamond, I really wouldn’t care. I think it’s easy to forget that outside of Wedding Bee, people are (in my experience) less informed about moissanite and more judgemental, so if some girl feels more comfortable saying her ring is what’s expected, I see no harm in it. It would be nice if everyone was upfront about their rings to help get rid of the non-diamond stigma, but it’s probably more important that this girl be able to enjoy her engagement in whatever way makes her the most comfortable. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am proud of my moissanite! I am even prouder of my Fiance for being money conscious and listening to my requests to NOT break the bank and buy a diamond.

 

I don’t go announcing it to the world, but if someone compliments my diamond, I DO correct them.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

My original e-ring was a beautiful 1CT princess cut CZ in 14K yellow gold. The CZ was super nice, and high quality, so it sparkled and looked great, most people didn’t assume it was not a diamond, and people close to us were like “uhh.where did that money come from?” (We were early twenties, in university and paying for the wedding all on our own..so ring budget was limited, we got my ring for around $350 ).

When I told people it was a CZ, I got so much negativity, like “Oh, so are you going to get a real one later?” and “Why didn’t you just get a small real diamond for that price?” Etc..

People were so negative and so judgemental, someone would compliment me on it, then I’d say it was a CZ and suddenly it became a cheap fake. We had a little girls night thing to celebrate when I got engaged, and when I held out my hand to show the ring, and the girls were oohing over it, my best friend smirked and shook her head and said “it’s not real, you know”, before I even had a chance to tell them is was a CZ.

I loved that ring, I do not care about if my stones are diamonds, CZ or anything else, but the problem is that people do, and no matter how much you love your ring, no matter how happy you are, constant negativity towards your ring is enough to hurt, and make you feel kind of low.

I lost that ring, and eventually got some diamond rings, so I guess my hands are more acceptable now. But this long story is just to say, I understand why someone would pass of a non-diamond as a diamond. I don’t get why she would flaunt it the way that she is, bragging about the size/cost etc..But I do get why someone would rather have friends/strangers oohing over her ring than explain it’s something else and feel judged.

 

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