Post # 1
I’m making out the address labels for the STD/invites right now. I know that when it comes time for invites, I’ll include “guest” on the address for those who we want to be able to have a guest, but don’t have a specific name in mind. But, is this necessary for the STD labels too?
I guess it would be fine either way, but opinions are great too 🙂
Post # 3
I had this same question when I was filling mine out. I didn’t put “and guest” on the original envelopes but now that I have to re-do the envelopes (decided to add magnets to the back of the STD’s and they are already sealed) I may depending on the responses this thread gets.
Post # 4
The guest part (although I would try to get their real name) should go on the invitation itself. No need for it on the STD!
Post # 5
I agree that the guest only needs to be on the invitiation.
Post # 6
Ditto the bees above. You can always make it out to ‘The Smith Family’ if you’re inviting a couple and their kids, but if you’re inviting a friend who can have a date at the wedding just address the envelope to ‘Friend X’ for now. The ‘invitation to follow’ on the Save the Date should give them a heads up that they’ll hear more about details later.
Post # 7
I put and guest on mine since people are coming from out of town and they’d need to make plane/hotel reservations for more than one person.
Post # 8
I think if you know they have to travel to the wedding, it would be good to put “and guest.” Then they’ll know to make travel arrangements for 2. If they’re local, I don’t think it’s necessary.
Post # 9
I put “and guest” on my my STD invites. Mainly because I wanted invitees to be able to make travels plans/reservations for them and their guest prior to the invites, if needed.
Post # 10
I think it depends.
I put “and guest” on my Save-The-Date Cards because a lot of the guests will be flying in and I wanted them to know that they could bring a guest in case they decided to book flights before the invites were sent out.
Post # 11
I think it is important to do the “and guest” on the STD because then people can make travel plans with their SO. Or, if they have a long distance relationship, even if the primary invitee is in town, that can be important. Giving people as much info as possible up front is key to them being able to plan ahead!
Post # 12
I directed my save the dates only to the person I actually wanted to save the date. Do I care if my friend’s two month old boyfriend who may or may not even be together in 7 months makes every effort to be available for my wedding.. no, not really 🙂
In response to the people who are saying that they would put “and guest” on their STD’s, I think that if someone’s at the point in their relationship that they would book a vacation 6 months in advance, I would have invited them by name. That woudl be a serious relationship and I made an effort to find out their SO’s name and write both specifically.
Post # 13
I think you need to be careful on this one because your guest list could change (i.e. you might need to cut people for whatever reason, and the +1s are the first to go). I say if people are living together, engaged, or married, address it to both of them (and figure out the SO’s name if you don’t know it). Otherwise, I’d just send it to the friend.
Post # 14
I would say no, but people raise a good point about alerting people who are traveling a long distance that they will be invited with a guest.
Post # 15
Originally I wasn’t planning on it, but my mom thought it’d be helpful since a lot of people are coming from out of town. I agree that it’s nice to give people a heads up if they’re trying to make travel plans. If you don’t foresee having to cut back on the +1s, then I think it’s fine to include “and guest,” but I don’t see it as necessary either.
Post # 16
Since the STD is less formal, we did not put guest on it. However if we knew the couple (girlfriend and boyfriend, husband and wife) we would address it to both.
We also wrote a personal message to each guest (it was an STD postcard) so if there was a guest I knew we would be inviting as well, I would mention it there, like “It’s been so long! Can’t wait to see you and meet your boyfriend” or something like that.