(Closed) Do you put “guest” on a STD?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
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  • Post # 3
    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I had this same question when I was filling mine out. I didn’t put “and guest” on the original envelopes but now that I have to re-do the envelopes (decided to add magnets to the back of the STD’s and they are already sealed) I may depending on the responses this thread gets. 

    Post # 4
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    The guest part (although I would try to get their real name) should go on the invitation itself. No need for it on the STD!

    Post # 5
    18628 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree that the guest only needs to be on the invitiation.

    Post # 6
    5117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Ditto the bees above. You can always make it out to ‘The Smith Family’ if you’re inviting a couple and their kids, but if you’re inviting a friend who can have a date at the wedding just address the envelope to ‘Friend X’ for now. The ‘invitation to follow’ on the Save the Date should give them a heads up that they’ll hear more about details later. 

    Post # 7
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I put and guest on mine since people are coming from out of town and they’d need to make plane/hotel reservations for more than one person. 

    Post # 8
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think if you know they have to travel to the wedding, it would be good to put “and guest.”  Then they’ll know to make travel arrangements for 2.  If they’re local, I don’t think it’s necessary.

    Post # 9
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I put “and guest” on my my STD invites.  Mainly because I wanted invitees to be able to make travels plans/reservations for them and their guest prior to the invites, if needed.

    Post # 10
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it depends.

    I put “and guest” on my STDs because a lot of the guests will be flying in and I wanted them to know that they could bring a guest in case they decided to book flights before the invites were sent out. 



    Post # 11
    10361 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it is important to do the “and guest” on the STD because then people can make travel plans with their SO. Or, if they have a long distance relationship, even if the primary invitee is in town, that can be important. Giving people as much info as possible up front is key to them being able to plan ahead!

    Post # 12
    9050 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I directed my save the dates only to the person I actually wanted to save the date.  Do I care if my friend’s two month old boyfriend who may or may not even be together in 7 months makes every effort to be available for my wedding.. no, not really 🙂

    In response to the people who are saying that they would put “and guest” on their STD’s, I think that if someone’s at the point in their relationship that they would book a vacation 6 months in advance, I would have invited them by name.  That woudl be a serious relationship and I made an effort to find out their SO’s name and write both specifically.

    Post # 13
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you need to be careful on this one because your guest list could change (i.e. you might need to cut people for whatever reason, and the +1s are the first to go). I say if people are living together, engaged, or married, address it to both of them (and figure out the SO’s name if you don’t know it). Otherwise, I’d just send it to the friend.

    Post # 14
    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would say no, but people raise a good point about alerting people who are traveling a long distance that they will be invited with a guest.

    Post # 15
    11 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Originally I wasn’t planning on it, but my mom thought it’d be helpful since a lot of people are coming from out of town.  I agree that it’s nice to give people a heads up if they’re trying to make travel plans. If you don’t foresee having to cut back on the +1s, then I think it’s fine to include “and guest,” but I don’t see it as necessary either.  

    Post # 16
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Since the STD is less formal, we did not put guest on it. However if we knew the couple (girlfriend and boyfriend, husband and wife) we would address it to both. 

    We also wrote a personal message to each guest (it was an STD postcard) so if there was a guest I knew we would be inviting as well, I would mention it there, like “It’s been so long! Can’t wait to see you and meet your boyfriend” or something like that.

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