(Closed) Do you really care what others think of your er?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you care what others think about your engagement ring?
    Yes, I care what others think about my ring. : (67 votes)
    29 %
    No, I don't care what others think about my er. : (112 votes)
    48 %
    I don't have a strong opinion either way. : (56 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    6746 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I know my ering is beautiful. That’s all that matters. I love her, can’t stop staring at her, she’s perfect.

    Post # 4
    2390 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I could care less what anyone thinks. They don’t have to wear it!

    Post # 5
    7448 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I like what like and I dont need any outside influence when it comes to jewelry. Its between me and my man. So no, I would never post up a help me with a ring thread.


    Post # 6
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    @chica95110:  I think I would only post to say “here’s my e-ring, and I love it! Don’t you think it’s gorgeous?!”. I wouldn’t post a “do you like this” or “which one should I choose” because people are very honest, and I think that any negativity or bees voting for me to choose my 2nd choice ring over my first choice would affect my feelings about it and make me more indecisive. I saw a response today that was like “I voted for #_ because I’ve seen all the other ones before”. I mean…duh! There are very few e-rings that are completely unique. I mean, we’ve all seen a million solitaires before but they are still popular and beautiful! The only opinions that matter are mine and SO’s. I’m also a sensitive person so I’m more susceptible to negativity and I’d rather not deal with it.

    Post # 7
    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Oh I know some people don’t like my e-ring.  It’s not to everyone’s taste but I like it.  It doesn’t bother me because it’s just a fact of life.  Not everyone is going to like everything!

    Post # 8
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    When I got engaged, my former coworkers said my ring was “cute”. It wasn’t anything like we had looked at- we wanted to get a 3/4 ct round solitaire in white gold. He gave me his late mothers marquise in yellow gold. It’s not a big diamond by any means but it means the world to me. I absolutely love it and wouldn’t have it any other way. Who cares if other people think it’s too small? 

    Post # 10
    1816 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I wouldn’t change it if I found out someone didn’t like it, but being honest it would probably hurt my feelings a bit. (unless what they didn’t like about it was stone size, then f–k’em! lol)

    Post # 11
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @chica95110:  I’m with you! I love my ring… My FI picked it out and to me that’s the only thing that matters 🙂 

    Post # 12
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wouldn’t want to hear it if someone didn’t like it, because it would hurt my feelings, but it wouldn’t change my mind about it.  But I voted “yes” that it matters, because I have a small ring as he proposed while we were in college, and the number of times people have commented on how small it is (“when is he getting you a real ring?” has been asked twice) has really gotten to me.  We’re getting a sparkly setting for it soon, because I’ve always wanted one and he knew that but couldn’t afford it till now, but if I’m being honest the push for it to be soon rather than years after the wedding is because people have made me really insecure about my current one.  It makes me feel selfish and lame, but ugh I hate it when people talk down about its petiteness and I think a sparkly shank will keep that at bay.

    Post # 13
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I picked mine out, so i love it. I don’t really care what others think, and it’s not traditional (no diamond), but it’s me! It’s handmade, from reclaimed silver and sapphires. 

    Post # 14
    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wish I didn’t care, but I will admit that the one and only time a total stranger said my ring was pretty, it was a huge deal to me.

    Post # 15
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Not really.  Nobody comments on my ring and I like it that way.  When I first got engaged one of my co-workers called it “so cute and delicate” and even that didn’t bother me.  Didn’t realize it was typically perceived as an insult until I found the Bee!  I do not like attention for any reason and I don’t particularly care about jewelry, either.

    Post # 16
    2251 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I can understand why people would want other’s opinions on their ring, but that wasn’t really something I took into consideration when choosing my own. Don’t get me wrong, it makes me happy when people tell me it’s pretty, but if someone doesn’t like it I don’t really mind. I am fully aware that it is not everyone’s style, because it isn’t really “classic”, traditional, or understated and lots of people prefer their ring to fit under those categories.

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