- 8 years ago
This may seem a little odd me posting here, but I could use some advice and experiences. I’m a guy who’s getting ready to propose to my girlfriend, but there’s something that’s making me stop and think. I’m sorry in advance for this being so long!
Both our families are very religious, but of different denominations (one Catholic and the other Pentacostal). My family (Catholic) don’t approve of the pentacostal faith, but refrain from saying too much about it. One close family member is even a Catholic priest. Her family (Pentacostal) are the same with the Catholic faith, but her dad is very outspoken on what’s wrong with Catholics. I visited recently and he brought up religion and their beliefs a few times, but after he found out I had a family member who was a priest, he continuously brought it up. He even went so far as to show me books that attack the Catholic faith, saying that the Vatican has a telescope looking for UFOs, how they corrupted governments, illegally influenced elections and are leading people to be damned. He showed me articles and comics of an ex-Catholic who explains what’s wrong with Catholics. He cites creationism as proven fact, and tries to use science to back it up.
While I’m not a practicing Catholic (agnostic), I was very taken aback by this, pretty much insulted, since it seemed like a frontal attack on my family’s religion and how I was raised. My girlfriend feels so bad about it, and has apologized countless times about him.
While I’m sure our families will both try to guide us towards their respective religions, I’m worried that our (future) kids will be influenced by him to ‘hate’ on my family’s religion, and ultimately my family (they are very devout). His parish seems very against Catholics, and I don’t feel comfortable in their services. I should add that he is not a ‘bad’ person. He is nice and friendly, just very outspoken and firm in his beliefs. We have decided to raise our kids open to all faiths, and certainly not to be hostile to any of them. Due to distance, we will see her family much more than mine.
Did you have to deal with something similar? It doesn’t have to be faith related. Is the saying ‘you also marry the family’ true? Have your families influenced your kids in a bad way?