(Closed) Do you REALLY need a MOH??

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I did the same as you! Three bridesmaids, no Maid/Matron of Honor. Was perfect! 

Post # 17
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I was going to suggest the same thing as ksn1219.  If you can’t choose, do a maid of honor and matron of honor. 

Personally, I can feel your pain.  I don’t know what I would have done if I had to choose between my close 3 friends for Maid/Matron of Honor.  Probably would have grabbed the only one that lives in town since she could assist me the most.  However, I’m super super close to my sister.  I was her Maid/Matron of Honor.  She’s my matron.

Post # 18
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Do both you and your fiancé have siblings? You could make both siblings co-hosts/emcees of the reception and do other tasks as needed. That leaves room for friends as bridesmaids without any sort of competition between siblings vs. friends.

Post # 19
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I was VERY tempted to skip. I had three bridesmaids. One was a friend who I met through my now Darling Husband, one was the wife of the best man who I was friends with for about a year at the time. One was my best friend since college. You;d think the natural choice would be my best friend, but she was living out of the country and was unable to get back to Canada until DAYS before the wedding, so I thought being a Maid/Matron of Honor would be too much pressure. I didnt want to ask the other two girls because the friend I made through Darling Husband was pregnant and PAINFULLY shy (so I felt bad about imposing such a ‘social’ role on her) and the wife of the best man I didn’t feel comfortbale asking because to be honest – I regretted asking her to be a bridesmain to begin with…I just didn’t have a lot of friends. 

I came to my senses a few months before the wedding and asked my bestie how she felt about it. She was overjoyed to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Even though she couldn’t do things like plan my shower or bachlorette, she helped me A LOT from where she was living through the magic of the internet. 

So to answer your question NO you don’t need to ask a Maid/Matron of Honor, but having one can make things simpler.

Post # 20
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

smalltownbigworld :  we aren’t using any titles at all on either side. In fact we’re just having 1 party an “I do crew”. Nothing is ever needed. 

Post # 23
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

smalltownbigworld :  we were so pumped when we found that idea on offbeatbride! We aren’t even dividing by side they’re going to stand behind us in a half-circle. We’ll probably have both male and female ushers too. 

Post # 24
3611 posts
Sugar bee

I know people who have had no Maid/Matron of Honor and people who have had co-MOHs (co-MsOH?). You could choose either route — totally up to you.

Post # 26
13 posts

I agree with the “nothing is ever necessary” sentiment. My SO and I have discussed forgoing bridal parties and groomsmen in favour of having two “Best Men” as our witnesses. His will be his brother, and mine will be my best friend who agreed years ago to be my “best man” if I ever got married. 

Just do things the way that feels most right for you and your partner. 

Post # 27
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: LA Athletic Club

I have 6 bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor. It was my personal choice and no one will have hurt feelings.

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