(Closed) Do you really think others are Jealous of you and your wedding? Poll

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Are bridemaids/friends/family really jealous
    yes, others are jealous : (40 votes)
    19 %
    No I don't think they are : (102 votes)
    48 %
    Other people suggest this to me : (8 votes)
    4 %
    I'm not sure if it's jealousy but I think it is : (26 votes)
    12 %
    Jealousy factor is overblown/hyped up : (31 votes)
    14 %
    Other I will explain below : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I definately think the whole jealousy thing is hugely over used. Just because there is conflict or people aren’t agreeing with each other, doesn’t mean one of them is jealous. Usually there is a much more rational reason for people to act the way they do, then them being jealous.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7291 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think 99% of the time its created in the persons head

    Post # 6
    Member
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it is a very, very rare occasion that someone is actually jealous of someone else’s wedding.  People just create this idea in their head because it is easier to think “Oh, she’s just jealous” than to deal with the actual problem at hand.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7606 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    The second that anyone disagrees with anything the bride says, that person is automatically labelled as “jealous”, which is ridiculous.  Say, maybe they just don’t actually LIKE your dress/venue/ring/whatever.  Obviously they should have the tact to keep it to themselves, but I think the term “jealous” is thrown around haphazardly to explain away any behaviour that doesn’t fit in with the bride’s ideals and expectations of people.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think my SIL was kind of jealous of my wedding, and I was kind of jealous of hers lol, so we’re even.

    Post # 9
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I can confess to being jealous of brides with larger budgets, even my friends who are also wedding-planning.  Or whose families are contributing more, or where groom’s families pay for the honeymoon, etc.  I had to stop reading those “how much are you paying for your wedding” threads because they were making me crazy, haha.

    But yeah I don’t think random people are jealous of the fact that you’re getting married, that’s so silly.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1458 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I think the whole attitude of jealousy and the “oh dear, it’s okay, she’s just jealous!” thing is an overblown, sugar coated response to the fact that some people just don’t like you or your things. Not everyone loves, respects, and adores all of each other’s choices and actions.

    ETA: Not “you” as in the OP, but anyone. Lol 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think the whole jealousy thing is overused.

    I only know one person who is legit jealous of me and that’s because she wants my FH and she has always had some kind of competition with me? Like she likes to gloat that she’s been living with her boyfriend longer and she keeps harassing me for a wedding date so she can set hers before me. It’s childish and I don’t play into it, but that’s the only tine jealousy had been a real thing.

    Post # 13
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’m sure sometimes jealousy is a factor, but not the extreme that some people assume. It kind of irks me seeing “MOH is being weird lately, is she jealous of me?”

    Maybe try considering the fact that there might be other factors in her life causing her to be weird, don’t automatically assume it’s because she’s hating on the fabulousness that is your life.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1140 posts
    Bumble bee

    I was upset when my my best friend got engaged…it had nothing to do with me being jealous of her  wedding. It’s because I really don’t care for her now husband and was sad she was making this huge mistake marrying him. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @KatyElle:  Sums up how I feel too.

    Post # 16
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    5177 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    @KatyElle:  Yup.

    I actually find this automatic reaction rather high-schoolish (aka emotionally immature) and egocentric. 

    I agree it is possible to have an issue with something that is not at all tied to jealousy. I can quite honestly say anytime I ever “questioned” someones choices regarding an engagement, wedding or marriage it has never been out of jealousy and definitely not out of wanting to be “them”! It has usually been more of a “what the f*** are they thinking?”!

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