(Closed) Do you regret inviting anyone to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@anniebear: I have a handful of people I wish I hadn’t invited.  Not much you can do.  If the coworker is being catty, I’d just hope she doesn’t come (and she likely won’t).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I let my sister bring her boyfriend (of like 6 months) and i invited one co-worker bc she loves weddings and helped me out alot…i regret inviting both…it sounds harsh. Its to little to late now and the wedding has come and gone but it still  there and i guess there is nothing you can do about it.

8 days after the wedding my sisters boyfriend confessed to sleeping with another girl before the wedding…so now i have a pic of this douche at the gift opening etc and my co-worker was in for it just bc she loves weddings. We did a huge group pic right after the ceremony and she came up and sked me to come with her and her husband as they would like to take a pic of us by this sign she likes…im surrounded by family and actual friends at this point, i asked “can i say no?” and then started walking to the reception….

She will be fine at the wedding, I wouldnt worry about it to much…if it gets worse just say she isnt invited anymore *laugh*

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I regret giving my Bridesmaid or Best Man a +1. At the time she wasn’t dating anyone and everyone was getting a plus one.

But now the guy that she is dating is a douche. At our friends wedding (we were both BMs) two weeks ago he got sooo drunk, acted like a fool and picked fights with Bridesmaid or Best Man all night till the point she was crying and fighting with him outside the reception.

And now he is coming to my wedding? UGH!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am so glad you started this thread! we will be sending out out invites soon, there is a few people we sent STD’s to that I dont want to invite im still debating.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@mishelleez: I don’t think there is any good way of not inviting someone that already got a STD! How are you going to do that?

Post # 10
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I seriously can’t stand one of my BM’s boyfriend. He and I don’t get along, but of course I have to invite him because he’s her Boyfriend or Best Friend. After the wedding and reception, my in-laws are hosting a private dinner for the bridal party and our immediate families, and he’ll be there as well. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor to keep him away from me.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I honestly wish we hadn’t sent Save-The-Date Cards. I changed my mind about A LOT of people after that but of course still invited them, and some came! Your guest list will never be perfect, sadly.

Post # 12
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ugh that is awful. She’s only attending your wedding for basically the free food and the chance to talk smack about your wedding. The mis manners side of me says to suck it up because there is no polite way of dis-inviting a wedding guest. In the end, you would have to be the”bigger” person.

However, the other side of me says that it just seems so wrong to invite someone who is behaving so rudely!! You said you guys use to be good friends with. Is there any way to fix the friendship?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I regret giving my Bridesmaid or Best Man a +1 for her on again off again boyfriend of 6+ years  whom she cries over EVERY SINGLE TIME she gets drunk!!! Literally last weekend I went out with her and him and she was crying to me by 11:30 because they have a horrible relatoinship!

Then I told her we were all getting our nails done the day before the wedding and she was like “Well I just feel so bad for him what is he going to do by himself!?” He has never cared about her and I’m sorry he can either stay in his room or lounge by the pool!

I am so afraid she is going to be crying over something with him at our wedding!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@anniebear: Well, in my case some of the people are family – so it’s not been fun. We have a lot of people who decided to make comments, start fights within the family and be completely rude.  So I wish I could un-invite all of them, basically.  I don’t deal with it well – spent most of my night last night crying about it! LOL I’m kind of emotional though… so no advice there, sadly.

As far as handling her being invited, I agree with the PP that if at one point, you two were good enough friends that you were happy to invite her, you should try again to talk to her about things.  I think I would send her an email and say that you feel the distance between you and I would also explain that you have heard some comments through the grapevine and that you would like to give her the opportunity to set the record straight.  Ask her to coffee and let the ball fall into her court.  Yeah, it’s passive – but it also means she will have time to think about what you have said before blurting something out. 

Depending on her response (or lack of one) I actually would dis-invite her unless she is willing to talk this through with you ahead of time.  She sounds like a bit of a frenemy.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think these stories always concern a co-worker.  I invited all of my sales team, only 3 people.  One is a family friend and would have been invited anyway, one cannot come which is fine but the other one has RSVP’ed yes.  Since she would be alone I told her she could bring her Boyfriend or Best Friend.  I am not too sure about it but I didn’t want her to be alone. I may regret this later… but what is done is done.

There were literally 3 people at our wedding who were invited with a guest and they were all special circumstances.

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