(Closed) Do you regret not losing weight for your wedding?

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Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@maddy41:  “only wanting to lose 20 lbs”…20lbs is a lot to lose! If you have a lot of body fat, you should see progress happen quickly at first, then you will plateau if you aren’t mixing things up with your workouts.  I have heard that weight loss is 90% kitchen, 10% gym. Going super-low carb isn’t necessarily the right path to take…rather than cutting way back on carbs (which your body needs!), try majorly increasing the amount of veggies you consume. You will feel full and your appetite for other things will be curbed.  Another small but effective change – add in a half hour walk every day. Whether you walk on your lunch hour or after work, make sure you get out once a day for a brisk walk.  It’s amazing the difference it makes ๐Ÿ™‚

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Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i want to be about 8 – 10 pounds less than i am now and would like to get more active in general. i don’t feel specific pressure about the wedding itself (although, talk to me when it gets closer) but it’s a date one year after i’ll graduate from school (eating healthily and being active is hard with my schedule etc) and so i feel like it’s a good time to check in with myself about how my goals of eating better and being more active have turned out. it’s also a motivator as i know how happy and healthy i’ll feel that day and that it will lessen anxiety and stress for me. 

it’s something i want to maintain after the wedding too – it’s not about the pictures for me, i want to be happy and comfortable. 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I toned up for my wedding but was still a solid 10 lbs from where I really wanted to be. I looked just fine to me by my standards and my DH kept telling me how great I looked, but I will admit it was hard not to judge my body solely on what the scale said. 

Where I REALLY regret not losing the weight (I gained about 5-10 lbs after the wedding) was when I got pregnant. Seeing your starting weight and watching that scale go up is seriously the worst buzzkill on the planet. And there is NOTHING you can do about it at that point, but suck it up!

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Like you, I wanted to lose about 20 lbs. But that proved to be impossible as I was going through a move and new job three months leading up to our wedding. The transition was just too much for me and I couldn’t focus on anything but making it through. 

I remember being very anxious about the way I looked two weeks before the wedding. On the morning of, I woke up and felt amazing and had a great day and felt beautiful. So no regrets there. The way I looked was not what was at the front of my mind…which sort of surprised me, actually.

Looking back…well…thank goodness for professional photography! I picked out the ones where I look happy and beautiful with my hubby and all is well. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 66
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Bee Keeper

I didn’t try to gain or lose weight for the wedding, but I definitely felt the need to maintain my weight at just the right amount because my dress needed no alterations when I ordered it. I am taller than the average woman and so the length of the dress was fine and it fit in the bodice area perfectly so my goal was to maintain like hell so that I didn’t have to pay hundreds in alterations!

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@maddy41:  I don’t have any plans to lose weight before my wedding; I’m already a healthy weight and size for my height and I don’t want to risk the bad thoughts I had years ago from reappearing now. I do have plans to be healthier in general though. I haven’t worked out in a while and I need to start being a bit more careful about my dietary choices. Mostly, I want to be able to sleep better and exercise seems like it would be a good option for making that happen.

If you want to lose weight before your wedding then go ahead – just make sure you set realistic goals and you have a plan to help you work towards it. The wedding can be good motivation, but you should view it more as a lifestyle change if you want to make the weight loss last.

And whatever you do, make sure you are losing weight because you want to, not because someone tells you that you need to. No matter what happens, you will be beautiful on your wedding day. Smile

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@canadajane:  I’m glad no one has said that to me. If they had, they’d be on the receiving end of a firm smack upside the head.

Post # 68
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

i’m really mad at myself. i was SO GOOD all fall. like crazy good. i lost 30 lbs from the end of the summer to the end of the year… but now… my motivation is seriously GONE. i cannot for the life of me find it. and 3 or 4 pounds have started creeping back up… i’m about 15 lbs heavier than my goal weight and the weight i was for my BFF’s wedding in 2012. i’m really terrified i’m gonna look at my photos and HATE myself in them. it’s seriously my biggest wedding anxiety. i have my final fitting on saturday and i wish more than anything i had lost another 10 lbs. we leave for our wedding on feb 8 so in the next like… 10 days i need to kick it into high gear, work out every day, and cut out all starch. but i’ve been saying that for the last week and i keep finding delicious things to binge on and a comfy couch to relax on. wahhhh. you have time now, OP… don’t kill yourself but just try to be healthy so you feel like your best possible self.

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband didn’t lose the weight he wanted and really regrets it. He doesn’t like our wedding photos because of it. I lost a little weight — less than 10 lbs– and I feel like it made a difference. Dont’ make yourself crazy. But, I think there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look you best in a way that’s immortalized forever. And, I ‘m a little sad my husband isn’t excited when he sees photos of himself from out wedding.

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t regret it, because I did! I knew I would have, I had lost weight 3 years ago and almost gained it all back, I was obese and didn’t have a shape. Dress shopping was a nightmare.

I joined WW and found I didn’t miss out on anything leading up to the wedding. I ate well on days that I could but I had weekly points for those splurges that came up once in a while. I think if you are unhappy with your body then you will regret it. No matter where the picture was taken a year ago, I knew I hated my body and how I looked. That wouldn’t have changed because I put a white dress on!

 

 

 

Left: Jan 2013 156lbs? I can’t really remember, I posted it on another board (I had already lost 18lbs at this point). Right pics, Sept 2013 – 125lbs.

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh & to add, I have maintained the weight loss since September. I still watch what I eat and count my points ๐Ÿ™‚ my wedding was the motivation I needed to kick start my weight loss, but I had wanted to lose weight for a long time.

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@beeintraining:  Wishing you all of the best! I lost my weight for the wedding using WW and it was the best tool. Knowing I had weekly points for those times you wanted to eat or drink, saved me! I never felt guilt ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck to you and your Husband!!

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@lanf5046: +1. When Fiance and I met I was at my lowest weight since junior high school, but in the five years I’ve known him all 40 lbs crept back on, plus 10, in part because of an undiagnosed thyroid condition. Ever since getting my levels straight I’ve been trying to lose weight, but it never really worked until now, with a combination of calorie counting, cardio and most importantly, strength training. I’ve lost 16 lbs and I have another 34 to go before the wedding in August to get back to my smallest weight. Honestly, though, I’d be happy with anything at this point. Seeing the changes in my body already have made me massively proud of myself.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@cls9q:  I’m with you – I just want to tone my arms and upper back as those are the only parts of my body that my dress leaves exposed. I have never had toned arms – even when I was training for half marathons, my body seemed more willing to part with fat from my fingers than from my arms lol! Fingers crossed that a healthy amount of cardio paired with strength training will do the trick ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Eh, sometimes. I got engaged at one of the heaviest periods of my life. I did lose a good bit of weight in preparing for the wedding, but I was still bigger than I care for at the wedding. In the wedding pictures, I look fine and I look like me (not distorted like in my engagement pics) but I think I would’ve felt more beautiful had I been more comfortable in my skin. Also, I had to buy my dress in advance (as do we all) and it was a full 2 sizes too big when I was ready to wear it and I had to do some last minute alterations, which damaged the silhouette of the dress. All in all, I looked “nice.” But I deserved to look stunning. And I don’t know that I did. It’s a main reason I haven’t hung a wedding photo in our home.

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