Post # 1
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Helper bee
To begin with…I am not your typical “girly girl” I am very laid back and can doll up if/when I have to but prefer to stay pretty “natural”. I do get my hair done ever so often, get my nails and toes painted, and I do wear eyeliner daily but that is about where the buck stops..lol.
I grew up the youngest of 4, and was always a super tom boy because my brother was closer to me in age than my older sisters, so I always hung out with him and the neighborhood guys. I am as tough as they come!! I watch/play sports and prefer to watch cop shows more than I do like to watch chick flicks..although SATC is one of my most favorite shows.
Oh and I do love shoes and perfume…but with all that being said, dress shopping was not as exciting for me as I imagined it to be. I read post about “finding the one” and its great to see some one elses happiness but I wonder if I have NOT found the one because I didnt cry..I didnt celebrate, as a matter of fact I took the dress straight home to my sisters house and has only looked at it at my fitting a few weeks ago. Don’t get me wrong. I have a BEAUTIFUL Maggie dress that has pick ups in the bottom a corsett top that is adorned with swarvoski crystals. It fits me great but I just don’t get “THAT” feeling when I put it on. Is that just me?!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I think it’s more common not to have “that feeling” than to have it. I think that some girls are just more naturally inclined to have that, and others aren’t.
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I didnt cry when I found my dress. I did get breathless and a bit emotional, but not everyone gets that way. If you are happy with the way the dress looks on you, and you are happy to wear it down the aisle I wouldnt worry about it
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I think with shows like Say Yes to the Dress, we’re all programmed to think that everyone gets that feeling. I know that I was certainly expecting to look into the mirror and burst into tears when I found “the one”. It didn’t happen, and I’m ok with that. With my dress, it was more of a slow falling in love, and realizing that this was the first dress that I didn’t want to change.
Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
I’m like you, I didn’t have a whole lot of emotion attached to my dress. I’m a huge girly girl, but somehow when it came to shopping for my wedding dress, I just didn’t really need to find *THE* dress. I actually ended up letting my dad make the final choice. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I’m a pianist/piano teacher for a living, so I’m used to getting dressed up and performing. I shop a lot for dresses, so it’s all business for me. But I’ll tell you what, I felt the moment everyone is talking about for the first time when they put a veil on me. It didn’t matter what dress I was wearing! That being said, I now love my dress and am getting to the big day in a little over two weeks!
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I wasn’t very emotional with the dress either. For me the whole process was me just figuring out what I liked, and I realized this was my dress because it combined all the things I had loved out of other dresses. I didn’t feel the need to add anything to it, like others I kept trying to add a belt, etc. So it was more rational than emotional. Although I did get very excited when I had on the dress and chose my headpiece and veil, because it was amazing seeing the whole picture!
Post # 8
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Busy bee
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
Another vote for not being emotional about the dress. I didn’t cry or anything. The process was a pretty sore subject for me due to some body image issues and disordered ideas about eating and exercise. So, for me, as soon as I found one that I liked alot, I went ahead and bought it because I didn’t want to spend the time in that kind of stressful situation anymore. I love my dress, but I probably could have found something better if I was willing to look a little longer. But, like I said, I wasn’t.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I didn’t get emotional, but I like my dress, it’s pretty and fits the look of the wedding. I cry plenty, but a dress would just never make me emotional. I think the emotion is more the moment you feel like a bride, and for some that is when they try on the dress, for some it’s when they get engaged. I know for me it will be waiting to walk down the aisle with my dad. Then maybe I’ll cry…
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@specialklove: I wasn’t really emotional at all. Actually, the dresses I wanted to try all looked horrible on me. Then my stepmom went to pick out an Oleg Cassini (at DB). I ended up really liking it! No tears, but all smiles. 🙂 I think my whole face turned bright red. I had all these strangers saying such nice things about the way it looked. And I love the delicate lace.
But anyway, no tears, but no dress regret.
Post # 11
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Newbee
I like it well enough. I have a little bit of dress regret, but not enough that I would try and sell what I got and buy a new one.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
Only for the simple fact that it isn’t all white and I am having trouble with fall colors…My dress is b/w and I love it! I was planning a spring wedding and had to push it back to fall. But I love it soooo much. I dont think your colors have to go with your dress,do they?? I mean they shouldn’t clash but don’t have to match exactly. I am thinking of incorporating the black lace on my dress onto the tables somehow:)
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I never cried. As I tried on more dresses, I realized what elements I liked and what ones I didn’t. I started to notice that certain designers seemed to fit me best and others didn’t work.
Post # 14
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Newbee
I was super happy and I didn’t want to take the dress off, but there were certainly no tears. I think the most important thing is to stop looking at dresses after you’ve made a decision and put money down on a dress. I’ve seen girls cry at the bridal salon I purchased from….but the vast majority of them aren’t in tears. Don’t feel like you need to get butterflies over a piece of clothing.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
I was relieved… when I finally found a dress that I didn’t think was tacky, made my waist look like it existed, and was something I knew my Fiance would love. It was like finding a needle in a haystack and I was glad the trying on was over. But… I still spend an inordinate amount of time looking at gowns online. I bought a few (yes, as in more than two) dresses before finding the one I was comfortable with, so I had dress regret in the process.
Post # 16
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Newbee
I found my dress on Ebay. It cost $150. I absolutely love it. It’s beautiful and I don’t care that it’s a knock-off since it’s just one day and it’s a tiny 30 person family event. My one fear was that it wouldn’t fit right. It’s just a bit too long so alterations are being done + a bustle so it’ll be just right. Not sure I cried when I saw it, but after days adn days of online searching for something affordable, I sure was relieved when I saw something that suited my style!