Post # 1
My Fiance and I are in the early stages of planning. His parents (who have both been married and divorced twice) think its ridiculous for us to spend much money on our wedding. It seems as though the people who have been married and divorced tell us its a waste of money… but of course they think that, they’re divorced.
What do you bees think? Do you regret what you spent on your wedding?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t go into debt for my wedding, well, not a lot of debt…like I wouldn’t finance the whole thing with credit cards or anything, but yes, I’m fine with what we’re spending. It is JUST a day, but its also one of the most memorable, important days of your life, so I really feel as if it’s worth spending some money on…so long as you won’t incur a tremendous amount of debt that you’ll need to pay off for years…
Post # 4
@Miss Orchard: Agreed.
I don’t regret what we have spent and still plan to spend but I wouldn’t put myself in a situation that would require years to dig myself out of. I think as long as you can afford it within reason then no regrets are necessary.
Now ask me in 43 days and who knows, I just might change my tune. 😉
Post # 5
I don’t regret a cent of what I spent on our wedding, but when I think about my first wedding about 10 years ago… I wish I had all of it back!
Not only did we spend a ton, but we didn’t really focus on what was important to us and focusing our money there and cutting back in spots that didn’t matter.
Post # 6
IF you have the money to do it, without putting anything on credit cards and having bills to pay afterwards, spend as much as you like, HOWEVER, if you will have debt afterwards, don’t do it. None of it really matters to anyone like it does you. My wedding was absolutely gorgeous, but now that we built a house, I wish I had the money I spent on the wedding towards the house. Just sayin!
Post # 7
@Miss Orchard: Well, its complicated because his parents “say” they will help us out financially, but we’re budgeting for the worst case scenario. So we may have to put around $5000 on credit
Post # 8
We stayed in our budget (no debt), gifts helped out a lot, our guests had a great time and it was an extremely awesome day and full of so many memories! No regrets at all!!
I think we spent our money very wisely and got the best bang for our buck.
I know how you feel, OP. My mom told me all my life that spending money on a wedding is a waste. She’s been married three times. She kept her mouth shut while we were planning though lol!
Post # 9
Our parents were saying the opposite. We were planning on having more casual cheaper affair, and they encouraged us to do something that was more traditional. I would have preferrred to not spend as much, but we aren’t going in debt, and it is going to be a really nice day.
Post # 10
I’m trying to spend as little as possible because I already feel like anything extra or fancy is money I’m taking out of my children’s pockets. I think I’m going to have to get out of this mindset before we start buying the big ticket stuff like food, or I’ll just make myself miserable.
Post # 11
Nope! Although we didn’t go into debt or have any financial hardship because of what we spent. We spent within our means, and it was worth every penny.
Post # 12
I am paying for the wedding, simple reception and the next day pig roast. All will come under 5K. FH is paying for the honeymoon. i shopped around, spread out my purchases and will have no debt from a simple, unique wedding that is a perfect reflection of us. i am happy!
Post # 13
I would NOT go into debt for a wedding… My parents helped out for our wedding and we stayed in our 2nd budget 🙂 After my mom and I looked at some reception venues (pre-engagment), we upped the budget from $10k to $12k. And I can’t remember now if we were wat $12k or $12.5k when all was said and done. But NO debt… and I don’t regreat spending that money! I had the wedding of my dreams and wouldn’t change a thing! 🙂 And, our parents are divorced and we won’t be divorced 🙂 …That may influence my opinion, you’re right 🙂
Post # 14
I don’t really regret what we’re spending. We’ve paid for everything in cash thus far, and we’re getting everything we want (our dream wedding) for under budget.
Now, if we went into debt and we were stressing about the costs 24/7.. yeah, I’d be regretful.
Post # 15
In my opinion, going into debt is irresponsible.
I personally would have been happy to just rent a room in a restaurant and invite an intimate number of people. My husband really wanted something more elaborate and with a larger gust list. So, we had a bigger wedding. Seven months later, I think we both still feel similarly. He is glad we had the bigger wedding. I would have been ok with something smaller because I would still be just as happy to be married to him. We have nice memories and photos and a great story to tell. (Our wedding was almost cancelled thanks to Hurricane Irene, but it pretty much all worked out in the end despite a crazy week of disasters leading up to the big day.)
My priority was taking an amazing honeymoon. To me, that is a much better use of a chunk of extra cash. I am just more interested in that kind of experience/memory. But everyone has different priorities. We spaced things out and just finally booked our honeymoon last week. We’re leaving on our 11-month-iversary!
Post # 16
@KT808: Sounds delicious!
@ElbieKay: Yay, honeymoon! Where are you going?