Post # 1

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Busy Beekeeper
Now I’m not talking about when you stop by unexpectedly (heaven forbid you catch the parents getting busy). I am talking about when they are expecting you to arrive like for a planned dinner or holiday with a specific time you are supposed to get there. I would never ring my parent’s doorbell… I would just let myself in. However Darling Husband and all his siblings ring the door bell to their parent’s home. It just seems really odd to me because it is a very different family dynamic than my own. What do you do when you go to your parent’s house and they are expecting you? Also, do you think it makes a difference if it was the house you were raised in vs. one that your parents purchased after you moved out?
Post # 3

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Helper bee
I only ring it when the door is locked.. otherwise I just walk in 🙂
Post # 4

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Busy bee
I wander in if the door is open, if it is locked the dog sees me and starts barking like crazy anyway, he’s like a really annoying doorbell that doesn’t stop :p
Post # 5

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Honey bee
When we go to my IL’s house we usually knock once or twice and then walk in without waiting for anyone to answer the door.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
I just walk in. My parents still have 3 kids at home, about 8 dogs, and an alarm that rings when someone drives down their long driveway. They know when someone’s there. They would probably laugh if I rang the doorbell. Actually, I doubt anyone in my entire extended family rings my parents’ doorbell. It’s kind of an open house.
As for my Mother-In-Law, we typically knock as we’re walking in and announce that we’re there; just in case any nakedness is going on.
At my FIL’s house, you ring the doorbell. Even if you know a bunch of people are already there for dinner, you still ring the doorbell and wait for them to come answer it. Barf.
Post # 7

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Sugar Beekeeper
I knock on the door only because they keep their door locked at all times. If it was open I would knock then open it & walk on in.
Post # 8

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Buzzing bee
I always ring the doorbell when I go to my mom’s because I have no key but Mr Rugbee just walks right in to his parents’ house even when they’re not necessarily expecting us. I always thought it was a bit weird.
Post # 9

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Buzzing bee
We always just walk in. Same for my family’s house and even at my brother’s!
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
I have a key for their house (I lived there for nearly 20 years after all) so I just let myself in, or my mom sees me and opens the door. FH and his family use the garage, we always use the code and go right in.
Though I think if my parents moved I may be more inclined to knock.
Post # 11

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Sugar bee
I always just walk in to my Mom’s house. And my Grandma’s. Even if it’s locked I have a key so I would just let myself in. And I never thought about it before but we would always ring the doorbell at FI’s Dad and Stepmom’s house. And I think that’s a pretty accurate reflection of the family dynamic.
Post # 12

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Sugar Beekeeper
I never ring my parents doorbell, even when I do just drop by (which is not very often). Their current house is not the house that I grew up in but they’re my parents so it doesn’t really matter. We don’t ring the bell at my IL’s either. I also don’t ring the bell when I go to my aunt and uncles. I guess we’re a “let yourself in” type of family.
Post # 13

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Bumble Beekeeper
I dont have a key to my dad and step mom’s house and even when they are expecting us they typically always leave their doors locked so, yes, I ring the doorbell or knock
My mom’s house is usually kept unlocked and I do have a key so the only time I’d ring the doorbell is if I forgot my key for some reason and she hadn’t left the door unlocked
Post # 14

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Buzzing Beekeeper
They mostly lock their doors, so I ring the bell. Holidays when people are expected I just stroll right in.
Post # 15

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Honey bee
I just go right in. I’m an only child and live 2 hrs away, so even if I showed up unannounced, they would be too excited to see me to care if I rang the bell.
Post # 16

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Honey bee
If they know we’re coming, we’ll just walk right in. If it’s unexpected I’ll always call first then ring the doorbell.