I *FINALLY* got Fi to look over the ceremony script with me the other night. Once we went through it he realized I didn’t even have anything about the ring exchange!! I am so terrified of printing my programs and forgetting something else, does this ceremony look okay to you? I had an issue printing my invitations as well, its just so scary to make it final that I make myself worry there’s a typo or something. 🙂 It’s a religious ceremony and I like it to be short and sweet so I intentionally left out any unity candle/sand stuff.
“Dear friends and family, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the union of Benjamen and Alissa in marriage. In the years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife.”
Marriage is an honorable estate, instituted of God. It is therefore, not to be entered into unadvisedly, but reverently, discreetly, and in the fear of God. Into this holy estate these two persons come now to be joined. No other human tie is more tender, no other vows more sacred than these you are about to assume.
The bible tells us
When God controls our lives, he will produce
this kind of fruit in us: joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness
and self control. Galatians 5:22-23
As God guides Ben and Ali’s journey
toward marriage and we witness it, let us
wish their relationship will exhibit the same
qualities. Please join me in a reading
of I Corinthains chapter 13 verse 4 – 8
Love is patient, love is kind
It does not envy, it does not boast
it is not proud, it is not rude
it is not self-seeking
it is not easily angered
it keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices in the truth
it always protects, always trusts
always hopes, always perserveres
Love never fails
In joining your lives may God grant you..
Love… to afford each other a special quality of time together.
Joy…in the accomplishments of one another.
Understanding…that your interests and desires
will not always be the same.
Friendship…based on mutual trust.
Courage…to speak of a misunderstanding
and to work on a solution before the setting of the sun.
Compassion…to comfort each other in pain and sorrow.
Foresight…to realize rainbows follow rainy days.
Imagination…to keep with you part of the child you used to be.
Mirth…from your sense of humor.
Awareness…to live each day with the knowledge
that there is no promise of tomorrow.
May God bless you and keep you
in the Palm of His hand.
“Ben and Ali, remember to treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Take responsibility for making the other feel safe, and give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. If each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.”
Reading #3 (MOH will read this)
“The Art Of Marriage” by Wilferd A. Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
Ben and Ali, Repeat after me:
I, Benjamen, take you Alissa, to be my wedded wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
I, Alissa, take you Benjamen, to be my wedded husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Wedding rings are made precious by our wearing them. Your rings say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bound together. The ring has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between you will never cease. You place these rings upon each others fingers as a visible sign of your vows this day, which will make you husband and wife.
“I, Benjamen, give you, Alissa, this ring as an eternal symbol of my love and commitment to you.”
I, Alissa, give you, Benjamen, this ring as an eternal symbol of my love and commitment to you.
Benjamen, do you take Alissa to be your Wife? Do you promise to love,
honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and holding only unto her?
Alissa, do you take Benjamen to be your Husband? Do you promise to love,
honor, cherish and protect him, forsaking all others and holding only unto him?
Declaration of marriage
“And now, by the power vested in me, I hereby pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride