- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
Depends on who is getting married.
Depends on who is getting married.
For me, it depends on three things:
1. How close I am to the couple
2. If I have a job at that moment (I’m a teacher, so for the last 4 summers I’ve been jobless)
3. How far away / expensive it will be
If the stars align and it’s nice and easy to get there, and I’m really close to the person getting married, it’s such an honor and delight to attend. If I don’t really know them, have to travel, and have lots of expenses (like husband being a groomsman), it’s absolutely an obligation that I dread.
To be honest, that depends on whom is getting married.
I just LOVE weddings so I see them as a complete honour! A couple years out of high school I started drifting away from some friends like what normally happens. When I heard they were engaged I was happy for them and congratulated them, but wasn’t expecting a wedding invite. When a couple of them asked for my address to send an invite, it was so unexpected that I was thrilled to be included. I understand that it’s hard to make a list of your favourite people.
@Hemnes: generally, it’s an honour. Occasionally it’s an obligation, BUT I have missed weddings (my uncles) on principle as he decided he didn’t need to send me an invite as he didn’t think I’d come (in reality I had the money for my ticket saved and the vacation time booked). There were several other issues surrounding this wedding that bothered a lot of people.
Depends on the person gettin hitched or sure
It totally depends on the situation. I don’t see it as an honor by default, because most people (as proven by the bee!) totally invite more people than who they truly absolutely want there, and they even invite people expecting regrets.
It depends. I generally consider it an honour until it becomes an obligation (for eg. being forced to attend even if you can’t or if you don’t like the person but have to go because it’s family or something).
I do consider baby showers and hen parties an obligation because I generally hate them but attend because the person we’re throwing it for is a friend/family.
Both, I get excited at first because it’s something fun to do, and I love weddings, but then the closer it gets, the more hassle it is (depending on how far, how long we’ll be waiting etc) it becomes more of an obligation. I usually end up waiting for them to be over.
Only one exception was one of my very very dear friends wedding, but it was so short I didn’t have time to wait around.
Typically it depends on the situation, but I usually feel honored to go. I like to go to weddings as long as it is for people I like 🙂
I’ve been to a lot of weddings, but mostly family members or friends of my parents. Only 2 if my friends are married. I couldn’t make it to one and the other, Fiance was a groomsman. So, fot the most part, with the weddings I’ve been to, I feel or am obligated to go.
I feel bad admitting it but I see it as an obligation. There are a few I happily attend (best friends, knew a lot of people there, etc) but for the most part I dread going to weddings. Typically it is expensive, take an entire day (or weekend if travel is involved) and I am extremely antisocial plus I don’t drink so the entire reception part can be pretty torturous for me. This is definitely not always the case, but I am such an introvert that any big social gathering with a lot of people is usually extremely stressful for me 🙁
I have been a two time bride and sometime next year I will be a 4 time MOB.
I don’t see it as one or the other. I see it as situational.
I do NOT move Heaven and Earth to go to a wedding. It is an invitation, not a summons. If we want to go, we go, if it means a lot of travel, hotel, etc, chances are if it isn’t one of my kids, I’m not going, but I’ll send a gift.
I see weddings as a one day party. Yes, I am honored that you thought of me (Unless you clearly invited the entire phonebook, or I’m not even sure who either of you are), but I’m not spending hundreds of dollars to attend unless we are pretty close.
If you have invited me to your wedding that (usually) means we have a relationship. That means I have invested in supporting, loving, liking you and you have done likewise for me. My presence at your wedding means very little. My support when your mom is fighting cancer, your kid is sick, your spouse is in the hospital or deployed, or you need to hide a body? That is what is important. Being there for you for LIFE, not for one day.
I’m more invested in supporting the marriage rather than feeling obligated to attend a wedding. FTR – I love me some wedding cake…
Depends on who the person getting married is to me, but usually obligation so that’s how i voted.
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