Post # 1
Usually when I’m invited to a wedding I purchase a gift from the couple’s online registry and have it shipped to whatever address they have on file with the store. The question I always ask myself is: is it enough to write a nice note of congratulations on the little note card that’s included with the gift? That’s what I’ve done the past few times, but I always wonder whether I should send a “real” card with a handwritten note separately? What say you?
Post # 3
I’ve never done the buy and ship thing, usually just an in-store pick up where I drop off the gift myself at the wedding. However, I will say that I loved both the gifts I received in the mail w/ the little note and the ones that dropped a separate card in the cardbox on the day of.
I think I’ll personally try to just drop in a little ‘congrats/hope you like the x/enjoy your life’ card on the day of the wedding, but it’s really only because of my love of buying fun paper products and nice cards 🙂
Post # 4
Its not necessary to send a separate card, just do a note with the registry gift if you can.
Post # 5
I would never show up to a wedding without something in hand so I always bring a card to the wedding in that situation.
Post # 6
I think its a good idea just so they know what gift and that its coming in case there are possible issues with the registry. Also my shower is a must buy and ship shower since we have limited luggage space to get back home. We are asking for our guests to include what they gave us as a note or as a picture in a card which they can give us at the shower. I know it wont be as much fun opening cards all day but hey were 1300km from home and flying with a dog and a wedding dress already.
Post # 7
I usually bring a “real” handwritten card to the reception in addition to my gift purchased off the registry and sent straight to the couple’s home.
Post # 8
I always buy off online registries and have never given a separate card, I just think it’s unnecessary. and also I don’t really get the bringing a physical item to the wedding–I understand that it’s nice not to show up empty-handed, but really, why make the bride and groom worry about keeping track of all those presents on their wedding day? they have enough to keep track of! my extended family is really spread out geographically so growing up, most family weddings had large out-of-towner contingents, and travelling with a gift would be a hassle, so maybe that’s why the idea of bringing something there seems so weird to me!
Post # 9
Interesting to see the different thoughts. It’s funny because it’s never occurred to me to bring something to the wedding; I always figured the couple would prefer to receive things (even cards) at their home before the wedding. In any case I’m relieved to hear that I haven’t been committing an egregious faux pas, or at least I’m not alone in doing so!