(Closed) Do you send invites after save-the-dates if they can’t come?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we still send the guests a wedding invite?
    Yes, : (28 votes)
    82 %
    No : (6 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes, you still send invites to everyone that you sent Save-The-Date Cards to.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it would be a total faux pas if they didn’t receive an invitation.  Let them decline using the RSVP card.  You never know, their plans may have changed in the time since they received their save the date.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I sent them just in case.  As PP said, you never know…

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would send them, as well. If they ask why they received one just let them know you sent it to them b/c you sent the std and wanted to be proper about it

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think that if you sent the STD and they say that cant come then no dont send them an invitations. that std is kinda like rsvping for the invitation.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I agree with medina, my mom asked me about this yesterday and I said no i’m not sending out invites to people who said no to the Save-The-Date Cards. i’m already spending enough money on the STDS i dont need to spend even more money on invites for people who i know for a fact aren’t coming.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    if you send a STD, still send an invite, because their plans may change.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    I’m in the same boat. Everyone who got a Save The Date is getting an invite. I figure they’re still invited even if they can’t come.

    Post # 11
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    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    I tucked a note into the invites sent to those who already told me they won’t be coming . . . something about “in case your plans change . . .”

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee

    I would play it on the safe side and send the invite.  Like others have said, plans could change.  And if someone’s plans do change they might not think to just tell you.  I think that would be awkward for them.  “Hey I don’t have to do that thing anymore.  Can I still be invited to your wedding?” 

    I would just let the coworkers know as they mention it (or just before you send the invitations) that you’re sending invitations anyway, so not to be alarmed. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    yes, definitely still send an invite just in case their plans changed.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I like the idea of tucking a little note in saying “Just in case you have a change in plans, we would love to have you join us!” If I were in that boat, I would think that was nice. 🙂

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