(Closed) Do you send out wedding invitations to guest who said they can’t attend wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, we did.

I think that they’re a nice keepsake for those who can’t make it (especially family)

Post # 4
Member
2712 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would still send an invite.  A lot can happen between now and June and they might decide they can come afterall!

Post # 5
Member
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think you’re supposed to send one anyway.

Post # 6
Member
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are sending invites to those that we know can’t attend because we want them to feel that the invitation to attend is open in case they change their minds. We also don’t want to start a “she got invited, but I didn’t get invited” problem.

Post # 7
Member
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My cousin’s wife is expecting their second child the day of our wedding so obviously they won’t be attending.  I’m still planning on sending them an invite but still feel kind of wierd.  I was considering putting a little note in theirs saying something along the lines of I understand you have big plans that weekend, congrats again or something like that.  

Post # 8
Member
221 posts
Helper bee

This is difficult isn’t it! We struggled with this but decided to send them anyway, to let those people know we wanted to include them. I don’t think anyone reacted badly to that. We did have one couple who originally said they couldn’t make it, who changed their minds, so I’m not sure what would have happened if we hadn’t sent them an invite!

Post # 9
Member
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Depends on the people–if it were family, then absolutely.  Friends, maybe not.  I would probably tell them to let me know if their plans change but I would skip on the cost of sending them an invitation if I know they can’t go.  They won’t want it as a keepsake so it’ll just be a waste of time, paper and postage.

Post # 10
Member
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I sent an invite to everybody we intended to invite regardless of what they said verbally, except for one person, who’d moved recently and when I emailed him to ask for his address told me he wasn’t coming anyway, and didn’t give me the address!

Post # 11
Member
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are sending invites to everyone on our guest list even though we know that some of them will not be able to attend. It just seems like the right thing to do. 

Post # 12
Member
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are sending invites to people even though they said they would probably not make it. Fiance has friends in the US and all over Canada that we are inviting, even though we know many probably won’t come. We want them to know we thought of them and wanted to include them in our special day. 

Post # 13
Member
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, apparently my mom thinks everyone needs a courtesy invite. Ugh. I keep telling her if they are definately not able to come then why am I sending them $8 worth of stationary that they are just going to throw away?

 

Post # 14
Member
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i sent them out to everyone no mater what they said. i even have a mock seatting arrangement. if they say no i will just cross them off the list, if they say yes they are coming they get unhighlighted. everyone is highlighted at moment but seven couples/persons– invites just went out last tuesday…

Post # 15
Member
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@fungd:  I’ll do this for family members. I know they can’t come but I want to make them feel they’re welcome in case there’s a change of plans.

Post # 16
Member
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had a few friends that I knew wouldn’t be able to make it because they had told me before invites went out.  When they said they couldn’t make it, I just told them both that I’d still send an invite so they’d have a memento.

The topic ‘Do you send out wedding invitations to guest who said they can’t attend wedding?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors