Post # 1
A couple of people have already told us they can’t attending the wedding because of various reasons. Do we send them a wedding invitation anyways? I don’t want them to feel obligated to give us gifts. My fiance and I are trying to figure out how many to invitations to order and not sure if we should included them in that count?
How have other people handled this?
Post # 3
Yes, we did.
I think that they’re a nice keepsake for those who can’t make it (especially family)
Post # 4
I would still send an invite. A lot can happen between now and June and they might decide they can come afterall!
Post # 5
I think you’re supposed to send one anyway.
Post # 6
We are sending invites to those that we know can’t attend because we want them to feel that the invitation to attend is open in case they change their minds. We also don’t want to start a “she got invited, but I didn’t get invited” problem.
Post # 7
My cousin’s wife is expecting their second child the day of our wedding so obviously they won’t be attending. I’m still planning on sending them an invite but still feel kind of wierd. I was considering putting a little note in theirs saying something along the lines of I understand you have big plans that weekend, congrats again or something like that.
Post # 8
This is difficult isn’t it! We struggled with this but decided to send them anyway, to let those people know we wanted to include them. I don’t think anyone reacted badly to that. We did have one couple who originally said they couldn’t make it, who changed their minds, so I’m not sure what would have happened if we hadn’t sent them an invite!
Post # 9
Depends on the people–if it were family, then absolutely. Friends, maybe not. I would probably tell them to let me know if their plans change but I would skip on the cost of sending them an invitation if I know they can’t go. They won’t want it as a keepsake so it’ll just be a waste of time, paper and postage.
Post # 10
I sent an invite to everybody we intended to invite regardless of what they said verbally, except for one person, who’d moved recently and when I emailed him to ask for his address told me he wasn’t coming anyway, and didn’t give me the address!
Post # 11
We are sending invites to everyone on our guest list even though we know that some of them will not be able to attend. It just seems like the right thing to do.
Post # 12
We are sending invites to people even though they said they would probably not make it. Fiance has friends in the US and all over Canada that we are inviting, even though we know many probably won’t come. We want them to know we thought of them and wanted to include them in our special day.
Post # 13
Yes, apparently my mom thinks everyone needs a courtesy invite. Ugh. I keep telling her if they are definately not able to come then why am I sending them $8 worth of stationary that they are just going to throw away?
Post # 14
i sent them out to everyone no mater what they said. i even have a mock seatting arrangement. if they say no i will just cross them off the list, if they say yes they are coming they get unhighlighted. everyone is highlighted at moment but seven couples/persons– invites just went out last tuesday…
Post # 15
@fungd: I’ll do this for family members. I know they can’t come but I want to make them feel they’re welcome in case there’s a change of plans.
Post # 16
I had a few friends that I knew wouldn’t be able to make it because they had told me before invites went out. When they said they couldn’t make it, I just told them both that I’d still send an invite so they’d have a memento.