(Closed) Do you send thank you cards for cards received?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t.  I just sent thank yous for gifts.  I believe the party and any favors you provide are sufficient thank yous to your guests for coming.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I didn’t. I may be wrong, but I figured the reception was their thank you with the food, drinks, favors, etc.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Only the cards with checks enclosed.  😉

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wasn’t planning on it. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you think it would be rude not to, you could always send them a card just thanking them for coming.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think I will be sending thank yous to people who didn’t enclose checks/cash.  I mean, you paid for the meal/drinks and you gave them a favor in most cases.  I think you’ve covered your tracks.  It’s probably not perfect ettiquete or whatever.  I guess you could send something if they wrote a meaningful message.  I dunno

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

IF there is a gift involved… be it Boxed, Cash or Time / Service (so a Host of a Shower, Wedding Soloist, Reader etc) then a Thank You Card is warranted.

To be truthful, ALWAYS better to run the risk of Over-thanking someone, than it is to NOT THANK THEM at all.

 

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thanking someone for a card is sort of like sending a “thanks for coming” note – it can be seen as “fishing” for a gift. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t send a thank you card for a card from someone who did not attend the wedding and did not send a gift.  If they did attend the wedding, I would send thank yous for coming.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No need – if etiquette told us that we needed to send a Thank You card for any card received, then the card senders would have to send you a card in thanks of your card, and then you would have to send a card thanking them for their card thanking you for your card…….

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@futuremrsfitz18:  this!

Nope, I didn’t send a Thank You for cards, only those that had a gift with it.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would definitely send a thank you note if they attended the wedding, gift or not.

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